How Do Gays Feel About Curious Men With Zero Interest In Anal?

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Hello gays,

I consider myself bicurious and I like to admire penises. However, I have zero desire for anal or putting anything in my butt. I've had a male friend (he's more friend & lonely than actually gay) wash and suck my penis and given it bit of a hand treatment, but I don't ever want to proceed to penetration. I enjoy stroking his penis, but that is the "most gay" I want to do. Now, I only know one "true gay" and since he's my friend, I don't want to bring this topic up. How do gays view guys that straight up deny anal (and I don't want to and won't let anybody pressure me to take anal).

Ta!
 

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Hello gays,

I consider myself bicurious and I like to admire penises. However, I have zero desire for anal or putting anything in my butt. I've had a male friend (he's more friend & lonely than actually gay) wash and suck my penis and given it bit of a hand treatment, but I don't ever want to proceed to penetration. I enjoy stroking his penis, but that is the "most gay" I want to do. Now, I only know one "true gay" and since he's my friend, I don't want to bring this topic up. How do gays view guys that straight up deny anal (and I don't want to and won't let anybody pressure me to take anal).

Ta!
I love anal and am also vers. But it's a myth that all gay and bi guys do anal or that it's required of them
 

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This is interesting in so many levels. So I am gay and I like anal but I am not obsessed over it like some ppl I know. Instead, I am obsessed with oral sex. I like giving it and enjoy getting it. I would say there days I want anal but it is more usual for me to want oral.

So no, I don't think you are weird. However, as a bisexual person you will get push back bc many ppl will tell you that you are just in denial or are a homophobe so a lot will depend on how you explain it....
 
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Hello gays,

I consider myself bicurious and I like to admire penises. However, I have zero desire for anal or putting anything in my butt. I've had a male friend (he's more friend & lonely than actually gay) wash and suck my penis and given it bit of a hand treatment, but I don't ever want to proceed to penetration. I enjoy stroking his penis, but that is the "most gay" I want to do. Now, I only know one "true gay" and since he's my friend, I don't want to bring this topic up. How do gays view guys that straight up deny anal (and I don't want to and won't let anybody pressure me to take anal).

Ta!
Way back when, I knew a guy in his mid 40s who was just coming out. Didn't know squat about the community, what sex with a man entailed, etc. Unfortunately for him, the first guy he dated had a lot of preconceived notions and expectations-- "rules" about being a gay man.

He left that relationship fairly damaged and insecure. His partner was controlling, mentally abusive, and discarded him for someone that was more in line of the ideal he wanted.

After coming out of a 3 year cocoon, and meeting a very wonderful, accepting individual, he learned that all the bullshit his ex shoved down his throat was just that: bullshit.

You don't have to be into anal. You don't have to like blowjobs. Close contact? Up to you. Live-in relationships? A lot of people like their own space. Out to your parents? Does it really matter for everyone to do that? I even find a lot of people don't even hold hands in public, although some communities will frown on you if you don't.

It is your comfort zone. There aren't any rules. No one is going to storm your house and take away your membership card if you don't do x, y, and z.
 

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there is a statistic somewhere that showed a good portion of gay couples do not actually engage in any anal activity at all. i thinks it's a big misconception by the general public that gay couples are butt-fucking each other daily and it's just not true. perhaps gay porn portrayed this as such.

it's not weird or normal, it's probably down to personal preference. i know both gay couples where anal sex is a daily thing and where anal sex doesn't exist at all.
 

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Hello gays,

I consider myself bicurious and I like to admire penises. However, I have zero desire for anal or putting anything in my butt. I've had a male friend (he's more friend & lonely than actually gay) wash and suck my penis and given it bit of a hand treatment, but I don't ever want to proceed to penetration. I enjoy stroking his penis, but that is the "most gay" I want to do. Now, I only know one "true gay" and since he's my friend, I don't want to bring this topic up. How do gays view guys that straight up deny anal (and I don't want to and won't let anybody pressure me to take anal).

Ta!
I enjoy anal sometimes, but I'm more into oral, mutual hand jobs, rubbing dicks together, kissing, etc.
 

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I've had some really great experiences with anal but It's not something that I volunteer as I prefer to suck. I'm very lucky in that I've been told that I'm still really tight back there but I prefer to get a guy off with my mouth. Surprisingly I've ventured into other territory and have topped and rimmed guys. I really enjoy pleasing. I love when I'm the first to penetrate a guy that has always been more of a top. I approach topping with a bottoms mindset in that my focus is pleasing my partner so I am very patient as a top and only do it for their enjoyment.
 
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If you are talking about preferences, everyone has them.

And more power to them.

However, if I am looking to get laid, and someone tells me they have no interest in anal, then my interest in them drops significantly.

I have zero interest in guys that have zero interest in anal.

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I can understand "curious" guys not wanting to do any anal play immediately, there's a lot of time and effort to goes into being prepared in the first place, and it gets incredibly frustrating getting ready, to have things cancelled moments before the arranged time.

plus... oral sex is generally easier for cleanup and such.