How Do Gays Feel About Curious Men With Zero Interest In Anal?

[dreamer20]

I have zero desire for anal or putting anything in my butt...I only know one "true gay" and since he's my friend, I don't want to bring this topic up. How do gays view guys that straight up deny anal (and I don't want to and won't let anybody pressure me to take anal).

I wouldn't pressure another into doing something they weren't into. I'd express what I personally preferred, & didn't want, and ask you to do likewise. I would respect your wishes and not be put off. There are different sex acts to be enjoyed. Different strokes for different folks - and yes there are bi & gay men who won't do anal sex.

 

[Jaden90]

Hello gays,

I consider myself bicurious and I like to admire penises. However, I have zero desire for anal or putting anything in my butt. I've had a male friend (he's more friend & lonely than actually gay) wash and suck my penis and given it bit of a hand treatment, but I don't ever want to proceed to penetration. I enjoy stroking his penis, but that is the "most gay" I want to do. Now, I only know one "true gay" and since he's my friend, I don't want to bring this topic up. How do gays view guys that straight up deny anal (and I don't want to and won't let anybody pressure me to take anal).

Ta!

@mrlamm You shouldn't be made to feel any pressure or that it's expected of you to enjoy any kind of anal play.

It's worth noting that men and women anywhere on the spectrum from straight to gay can, and do, enjoy anal stimulation.

For anyone to make assumptions or make you feel wrong/bad for your unwillingness to be penetrated or penetrate another's anus is wrong, in my view.

 

[SurferShane]

The rules are pretty simple: If it feels good, do it. If it doesn't, don't.

I'm pretty pan, but would never expect anyone to do anything that didn't want to do or weren't comfortable with, or pressure anyone to do something.

I do like anal though... still remember as a teenager when a girl taught me what has to be the world's greatest invention... the blowjob with a finger up the ass. My oh my. That was the start of a lot of butt fun of all types though the years. As far as guy fun goes, I can take or leave sucking but do like munching butt. If it's clean and smooth and puckered, then I can definitely eat me some asshole.

 

[Player_01]

There's a very specific view of what "gay sex" is that isn't true to everyone. People think that anal is the only gay sex there is, to people who love it, it might be but I don't love it.

They gay world does divide itself into Tops and Bottoms but some of us also say "Side" to denote we like other stuff. To "total tops" and "total bottoms" it may seem outrageous but there's actually a lot out there.

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Guys on the 'Side': Looking Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms | HuffPost

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"Historically, anal sex has been popularly associated with male homosexuality and MSM. However, many MSM do not engage in anal sex, and may engage in oral sex, frotting or mutual masturbation instead."
Men who have sex with men - Wikipedia

 

[Capitolhillguy]

I am not into anal, though I do love to rim and finger if the interest is there. I can no longer fuck so it is a moot point. I love to power suck a dick till I am fed.

 

[Scrotumlicker2]

Anal isn’t for everyone. I love watching it in porn but rarely have a desire for it myself. You do what excites you, and don’t feel you have to justify it to anyone.

Couldn't agree more!