How do I bring this up to my wife

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just ask her about her dream and see how real it is to her. if she's really interested take baby steps, maybe like her getting a massage while you are all naked. let us know the outcome.
 

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Visit Your Hot Wives Forum where you will find lots of info and support for the "hotwife" lifestyle.

My wife and I are members there and that's a great place for info! For perspective my wife and I took 3 years talking and roll playing before anything happened. I will tell you once the training wheels come off its a downhill ride. Very fast and exciting. Best advice Ivan give is make sure your communication is on point before moving forward.
 

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I like this idea, i dont think she woulb be upset if i just say that i had the fantasy

Bring it up by talking about what you fantasise about when alone.

Don't bring it up by talking about what you want your wife to do.

Either way most fantasies are best left unacted upon.
This is the same thought I had, bring it up when you guys are fooling around. Ask her if she has any fantasies and make it clear she can say anything and you will not be upset, but this has to be true....If she tells you she wants to be with a lesbian midget, you have to accept it.

I found out about one gf's fantasies for a MMF threesome when I brought home a movie with that theme and she got so hot she took me all the way down her throat and made me cum while her lips were touching my hairs. She normally gagged when I was that deep. We did it three times and two of the three were great. So if you ever watch x rated videos together, maybe show her a threesome and gauge her reaction.
 

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I think coming straight out with it would be like a hammer if you know she's never been that adventurous. It could mean a lot to her in the way of questions about your relationship and if it's in trouble. Personally I'm not into that and for me it could translate into questioning what we have together and why my partner needs this and not just me to get off? Not to say that it's wrong or doesn't work for some. Not knocking it. But remember, whatever butters both of your breads.

I recommend you bring it up within some teasing chatter about sexual fantasies. Maybe lead in with toys she may want to try, roll playing and such. Then kind of throw it in. Ask her if she ever thought about swinging? I just would avoid dropping a bomb about it. You know her better than any of us could. If she was open about telling you about having a sexual dream about another guy is that a hint? Is she the one in fact inferring? Whatever the case, mix it into a conversation about other sexual things that way you can always back out gracefully without it being the elephant in the room from that point on in your relationship.