How do I bring up a fetish?

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When i am witha woman certain things turn me on. like most men, a great ass. But i have a really serious foot fetish. and I have only ever had one woman satisfy it(the one who discovered it) i am always too scared to bring it up with a woman. .but the problem is.. if a woman wants me as big as i can be.. i need that. What is the right way(and when) to bring up this fetish as I always chicken out and never enjoy sex as much as I would like to.
 

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I'm not sure I quite understand foot fetish. Is it a desire to look at, touch, lick, masturbate over feet?

If that's the case then I suppose I wouldn't care. I don't think it would bother me for a man to just do any of those things. I think easing her into it to see if she likes it is a good way to go. I'm sure you can talk about it with her, I don't think liking feet is an odd fetish. I'm more of a spur of the moment type person, talking about things face to face makes me more nervous than I need to be. Just my take on it, I'm sure other women probably feel differently.
 

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I'm sorry to disagree here but foot fetish is something that, certainly in my circle of friends, is not mainstream. I'm not suggesting we're all prudes or anything it's just kinda odd. I've only had one guy try it with me and it was weird as fuck. He started rubbing his feet really hard up and down my legs then up my pussy and stomach. When i gently pushed his foot away he said "It gets me really hard. I want to put my foot in your mouth." That was it. I was up out the bed and he was leaving. Maybe it's different in different places. But i think you have to find out in a way that doesn't suggest it's your thing. Maybe it was just that whole experience but a guy who wants to worship my feet or have me worship his, there's a lot sexier parts of us both to be worshipping. I do hope you figure it out though and there must be tons of women out there who love it so happy hunting!
 
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oh worry loving it.. i should be a little more direct.. its not my feet its the womans. . its odd to me too.. i still dont understand why its a turn on but it is.. like more so than one would think. personally i find it more of a curse to have that fetish than anything it always makes me uneasy to bring it up
 

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oh worry loving it.. i should be a little more direct.. its not my feet its the womans. . its odd to me too.. i still dont understand why its a turn on but it is.. like more so than one would think. personally i find it more of a curse to have that fetish than anything it always makes me uneasy to bring it up

When a guy says to me I have pretty feet, it is a good hint. That way I know he at least admires them. If you like a woman's feet let her know they are pretty. Ask her in the least weird way possible to put her feet on your lap and slowly get into it. If she looks uncomfortable stop but most women like being admired in some way so trying might be new for her but it could give her a good feeling. In case you want to know- my skin is very soft, light gold, and my toes are red
 

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oh worry loving it.. i should be a little more direct.. its not my feet its the womans. . its odd to me too.. i still dont understand why its a turn on but it is.. like more so than one would think. personally i find it more of a curse to have that fetish than anything it always makes me uneasy to bring it up

Well i really hope you find what you want. I have a little fetish that is difficult for me to do because most guys aren't into it so i know it can be frustrating at times! Good luck!
 

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I agree with sizequeen that calling attention to a lady's attractive feet is a good hint.

I prefer a bit more directness. Typically even before I consider having sex with someone we talk about it. I think it helps to have both parties identify fetishes before the urge gets to you. That way you can have a really open and honest discussion without the pressure of actually performing.

I usually say, "what is your favorite part of sex, and what do you like to do that you consider 'kinky'?" This opens up a good discussion of sex. I have some "off limits" kinks, but foot adoration is not one of them. I am faithful with my pedicures and take good care of my feet, so for someone to call attention to them makes me feel good.

I don't mind giving foot jobs. They don't turn me on, but to know they turn the guy on is really hot. And as for as kissing my feet? I like to be kissed all over my body... there are no off limits on the kissing, licking and touching.

But having the discussion ahead of time helps both of you know kinda what to expect when (and if) the time occurs.


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The reason I say to do it that way is because not every woman is aware of it or into it. The average woman is going to be uncomfortable if you are direct about it. Even at fetish parties women can be uncomfortable about it so being flirty is a better way to make the point
 

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I'm not into such fetishes, I don't think. But you never know.

But I think this all falls under communication - telling your partner what you want. No one ever does enough of it. Instead we end lovemaking with a pang of disappointment.

I realized years ago that life is too short to be disappointed, especially with a lover who wants to make you happy. So I tell him! And he tells me right back. It's such a wonderful thing.

I only have one fear - that one day he wakes up and wants to do anal. I don't know how I would handle it.
 
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wow fancypants if they made more woman like you and ellie, i think id be alot more satisfied. most woman are as sizequen had mentioned.. of what i've found.. freak out easily. gota bring it up a certain way. i certainly appreciate all the advice ladies!
 

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For me it was a slow indoctrination to a fetish I never really thought about till my current boyfriend. He loves to touch, kiss, lick and suck my feet and I have to say I've come to enjoy it. But he didn't just jump into it or tell me off the bat that he had a fetish for feet. What he did was start giving me these amazing foot massages. I don't know a single women who doesn't like a good foot massage. For me there are areas of my feet that seem to directly telegraph right to my pussy. A lot of times he'll cradles my feet in his lap and as the massage progresses I can see and feel his cock getting hard. Which obviously gave/gives indication that he's enjoying it as much as I am. So I'd get these really erotic foot messages in the beginning that would lead to some hot sessions of sex.

Then one night I was on my back and he was fucking me and he grabbed both my ankles and pulled my legs straight up so my feet came together right in front of his face. He started kissing and rubbing the underside of them with his hand, mouth, even his chin and face. It was fantastic feeling as he slide his cock in and out of me while doing this. The only time I tensed up and pulled away a bit was when he licked the underside as it was crazy ticklish and I couldn't stand it. Feeling my apprehension he stopped then place one of my big toes in his mouth and started sucking it. It felt great and soon he was working more toes into his mouth washing them with his tongue and mouth all the while fucking me.

He's never really come out and said, "I have a foot fetish." He just slowly introduced me into his foot love. Even when I've said to him, "you have a foot fetish" he states "no, I just love your feet." Which is one of the ways he's endeared the whole idea to me. But that follows a pattern on how he treats me in general that makes me feel special. He never says I like women's this or that, or I like women who wear a particular item of clothing. Instead it's always about me and my body, what he wants me to wear and tells me I'll look sexy in. In this way he's considerate of my feeling and has me sold on his little fetishes and fantasies because I'm never thinking, 'this guy is checking out other women's feet.' It no longer becomes this perverted thing because it's aimed at me, his lover, and thus become intimate and between us.

Now I'm to the point that I wear certain stocking and shoes just because I know it turns him on. Or I'll be siting on the sofa with him and I'll start rubbing his crotch with my feet or offering up my feet to be kissed. It doesn't hurt that there's a level of trust and love between us that makes me want to do everything to make him happy sexually.
 

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feet have a lot of different parts to them, nerve endings included. reflexology is a great example of a system that takes advantage of this fact. chinese foot binding was a terrible practice, yet illustrates how "mainstream" it can become. how many people on this site reference toe curling? people who think feet are gross strike me as being woefully unfamiliar with their own bodies. nothing like a good foot stretch as part of a healthy exercise/yoga practice. ease into it, like everything else, and you will discover a world of sensation and connection within your feet and to the rest of your body.
 

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I think I'd be down for it, as long as there wasn't any penis trampling involved.

Although, I am very ticklish so my partner must be mindful of that. The again, I do have kind of a tickling fetish so it kinda works out.
 
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Not to revive an old post and all but this thread really helped with my sex life. It's still a lol hard sometimes to bring up the fetish,. Wich hoenstly has only grown. But in most cases i can bring it up using the ways you girls showed me
 

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Not to revive an old post and all but this thread really helped with my sex life. It's still a lol hard sometimes to bring up the fetish,. Wich hoenstly has only grown. But in most cases i can bring it up using the ways you girls showed me

I just went to read this post as if it is a new thread. Then I saw I give excellent advice. Happy to hear it was good for you

In other news, I was at a club regular nightclub and a couple sat next to me. The guy asked me what kind of shoes I am wearing so I told him. Then he asked what my shoe size is so I said- you have a foot fetish, don't you. He replied- huge. I am pretty sure his partner based on how she was dressed doesn't satisfy that need of his. It's too bad he was with her or else I would have flirted with him