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I'm going to make this brief and to the point. I've been married for 18 years and it's been a good marriage overall, but for the last few years the sexual aspect of the relationship has dropped off. It seems like I am married to my best friend, which is good I suppose. I find myself getting restless now though as I'm 37 and not ready to hang my libido up.
She and I have discusses our lack of sexual relations plenty of times but the discussion never goes anywhere. I'm to the point the discussion has to go somewhere now though.
I want to be with her forever; I love her that much. I want to open the discussion and lead it towards opening our marriage up. I feel that this may prove to turn the discussion into a combative one, but I have to have this conversation with her if the marriage has any hopes of survival.
Right now, I see the options as:
1. Open up the marriage and allow each other to have sexual experiences outside of the marriage, yet maintain every other aspect of the marriage.
2. Continue the status quo and fap the rest of my life away
3. End the marriage and try to maintain the "friendship" we have together
Based on past conversations, I'm pretty sure options 1 & 3 will be met with opposition. For me, I'm tired of #2 - it's gone on too long.
Can I even bring up #1 and be taken seriously? Have any of you had a traditional marriage on the outset that turned into an open marriage? I just don't know what the hell to do. I'm so conflicted about this...
She and I have discusses our lack of sexual relations plenty of times but the discussion never goes anywhere. I'm to the point the discussion has to go somewhere now though.
I want to be with her forever; I love her that much. I want to open the discussion and lead it towards opening our marriage up. I feel that this may prove to turn the discussion into a combative one, but I have to have this conversation with her if the marriage has any hopes of survival.
Right now, I see the options as:
1. Open up the marriage and allow each other to have sexual experiences outside of the marriage, yet maintain every other aspect of the marriage.
2. Continue the status quo and fap the rest of my life away
3. End the marriage and try to maintain the "friendship" we have together
Based on past conversations, I'm pretty sure options 1 & 3 will be met with opposition. For me, I'm tired of #2 - it's gone on too long.
Can I even bring up #1 and be taken seriously? Have any of you had a traditional marriage on the outset that turned into an open marriage? I just don't know what the hell to do. I'm so conflicted about this...