How do I get over my shame of being a hung bottom?

[PopularTongue]

It's the balance between enjoying it yourself and giving him pleasure.
To please your man can give you pleasure also. Although being a bottom.
Had this myself. My bf hung bottom did me once in a while. I knew he was a very hung bottom, still wanted the intense feeling of him inside me. Never came inside. That was okay for me.

 

[LondonCutguy]

There's no shame in liking to be fucked; if you like it, you like it. I love it! I've an average dick, yet I'm always asked to top rather than bottom - frustrating!

 

[ItalTony9]

I'm not trying to brag, really. My boyfriend is versatile and absolutely loves sucking on my cock, taking it even. I fucked him maybe 3-4 times but that's about it. He wants me to do it more often but I don't think I want to because well…….I'm an absolute bottom bitch! I get annoyed, almost upset when he reaches for my cock with his mouth! He blows me every time we have sex and I feel a bit uncomfortable whenever he praises how hung I am. I think it also has to do with the fact that my cock is cut and I've always preferred intact guys. I even used to discriminate against cut guys on Grindr because I only wanted intact cocks. I'm still like that. I believe I unconsciously shamed myself for having a « mutilated cock » as I call it and now I can't get my head out of it and feel ashamed by my cock. It's even worse because of how big it is yet I have no use for it…it's just embarrassing??!??? shameful, useless, almost ridiculous. Like why is that huge thing hanging between my legs and I have no use for it except for coming on my boyfriend's chest? It's just ridiculous…I have no clue why I'm going through all these weird feelings but I just hate it. How do I snap out of it?

seems like deep rooted shame perpetuated by porn and gay culture...its great having a big cock for all sorts of reasons, not just 'topping'

 

[deleted16833521]

I'm not trying to brag, really. My boyfriend is versatile and absolutely loves sucking on my cock, taking it even. I fucked him maybe 3-4 times but that's about it. He wants me to do it more often but I don't think I want to because well…….I'm an absolute bottom bitch! I get annoyed, almost upset when he reaches for my cock with his mouth! He blows me every time we have sex and I feel a bit uncomfortable whenever he praises how hung I am. I think it also has to do with the fact that my cock is cut and I've always preferred intact guys. I even used to discriminate against cut guys on Grindr because I only wanted intact cocks. I'm still like that. I believe I unconsciously shamed myself for having a « mutilated cock » as I call it and now I can't get my head out of it and feel ashamed by my cock. It's even worse because of how big it is yet I have no use for it…it's just embarrassing??!??? shameful, useless, almost ridiculous. Like why is that huge thing hanging between my legs and I have no use for it except for coming on my boyfriend's chest? It's just ridiculous…I have no clue why I'm going through all these weird feelings but I just hate it. How do I snap out of it?

I know this post is almost one month old but id like to tell you my opinion. if you're bf is versatile he would obviously want to do what a bottom usually likes to do which is to suck and get fucked. However, you are and I'm quoting you "an absolute bottom bitch" so maybe when he acts like a bottom you get uncomfortable because you expect him to act like a top for you?
I also wanted to share that I HATE my dick, at first I thought its size was normal, like average, until I realized it was in fact, small. I'm a bottom so "it shouldn't be a problem" but gay men like to suck dick not matter their sex role preference so I feel like I'm always gonna disappoint them in that regard .
Tell your bf you don't feel comfortable being top, let him suck you from time to time. You should not feel shame of the body you got, I should follow that advice too but usually people don't praise you for having a small dick.

 

[rockmusl1]

I feel your pain (in a way.) I used to be a Small Dick Top. Something about my appearance and personality screams “top” and always has. That was all good, as I hated bottoming when I was younger, and I have been told I’m very good with my dick. Then I got fucked properly and loved it. Once that happened, it got complicated. I’d hook up with these huge guys and all they would want is for me to fuck them. Perplexing, as I had it in my mind that “obviously” I was built to bottom, but here’s all these donkey kongs wanting the “Vienna Sausage.” Except, of course, for size queens, who wanted nothing to do with me as a top OR bottom.
My point is Anatomy is not Destiny. You have to do you, with one caveat: Relationships require flexibility and compromise. Both partners have to think about each others’ pleasure. Talk. Talk about what you love and don’t during sex. Let him do the same. Listen. Sometimes, it really is about sending your partner to Heaven doing something you can do, but don’t love and vice-versa. The turn-on is watching them go crazy, and then basking in their appreciation for making it all about them sometimes. And vice-versa.

 

[PopularTongue]

I feel your pain (in a way.) I used to be a Small Dick Top. Something about my appearance and personality screams “top” and always has. That was all good, as I hated bottoming when I was younger, and I have been told I’m very good with my dick. Then I got fucked properly and loved it. Once that happened, it got complicated. I’d hook up with these huge guys and all they would want is for me to fuck them. Perplexing, as I had it in my mind that “obviously” I was built to bottom, but here’s all these donkey kongs wanting the “Vienna Sausage.” Except, of course, for size queens, who wanted nothing to do with me as a top OR bottom.
My point is Anatomy is not Destiny. You have to do you, with one caveat: Relationships require flexibility and compromise. Both partners have to think about each others’ pleasure. Talk. Talk about what you love and don’t during sex. Let him do the same. Listen. Sometimes, it really is about sending your partner to Heaven doing something you can do, but don’t love and vice-versa. The turn-on is watching them go crazy, and then basking in their appreciation for making it all about them sometimes. And vice-versa.

Amen to that.

 

[PeachyDistance]

No shame at all. Hung bottoms shouldn’t feel any sort of awkwardness just like a smaller sized top. The beauty about gay sex and gay men are that we come in so many shapes and sizes. Shades and stature too. As long as there are some dicks and asses involved and passionate gay sex involved, we all can and should be happy.

Now take that big donkey sized dick and hungry hole and live your life hunny.

 

[tomaskontos20]

There is no shame in it at all. I lam not choosey but I do love fucking guys with big cocks. Enjoy having what you have and take full advantage of it for yourself and your lover. xx

 

[Leedsguy69]

I'm hung and vers. I think hung bottoms are hot! Be proud of your cock!

 

[Big_a_20]

We are born with the dick we have … that’s it. Nothing to be ashamed about so just love yourself

 

[deleted6701681]

Thank you all for your kind words ….. Everyday I learn to love myself a little bit more . Love to all of you

 

[P.J.9]

Have no Shame at all being a hung bottom. I’m a hung submissive piggy bottom slut and I love it. Most of the tops I’ve had also love that I’m hung and a bottom. Don’t pay anyone any mind. We can’t help but loving and enjoying things sexually regardless of the sizes of our cocks.

 

[EquusAZ]

Should you be ashamed? Fuck no! You feel what you feel and no one else can take it away, however, other people can diminish your feelings and dismiss them, which is never good. Understanding why we feel the way we do is important as well as how it fits in to our personality.

I adore big dicked bottoms. Why? There is something about topping someone who has a big dick. Being vers, I also love being topped. The husband is a hung btm vers, and I'm a hung top vers. Common denominator here is big dicks.

It may be that you are just discovering what you are into actually.Play on that and explore this side and talk to your partner. Do you like being made ashamed of your big dick as a bottom? What else turns you on? Talk and explore. Sexuality is a fasinating and fun thing.

 

[P.J.9]

Should you be ashamed? Fuck no! You feel what you feel and no one else can take it away, however, other people can diminish your feelings and dismiss them, which is never good. Understanding why we feel the way we do is important as well as how it fits in to our personality.

I adore big dicked bottoms. Why? There is something about topping someone who has a big dick. Being vers, I also love being topped. The husband is a hung btm vers, and I'm a hung top vers. Common denominator here is big dicks.

It may be that you are just discovering what you are into actually.Play on that and explore this side and talk to your partner. Do you like being made ashamed of your big dick as a bottom? What else turns you on? Talk and explore. Sexuality is a fasinating and fun thing.

@EquusAZ excellent point of view. Thank you

 

[ndamood4sum]

Do you feel uncomfortable when he grabs it with his hands too or just his mouth? I am a top who loves to suck cock and I hooked up with a guy once that would not let me touch his cock with at all. He didn't touch it either. Didn't want to talk about it, just wanted to ignore it all together.

 

[Sandymat]

When people see my dick they assume I like to top...when honestly I’m a bottom at heart

 

[101urboy]

Same think

Do you feel uncomfortable when he grabs it with his hands too or just his mouth? I am a top who loves to suck cock and I hooked up with a guy once that would not let me touch his cock with at all. He didn't touch it either. Didn't want to talk about it, just wanted to ignore it all together.

Same thing happened to me here.

 

[sheerq]

I'm not trying to brag, really. My boyfriend is versatile and absolutely loves sucking on my cock, taking it even. I fucked him maybe 3-4 times but that's about it. He wants me to do it more often but I don't think I want to because well…….I'm an absolute bottom bitch! I get annoyed, almost upset when he reaches for my cock with his mouth! He blows me every time we have sex and I feel a bit uncomfortable whenever he praises how hung I am. I think it also has to do with the fact that my cock is cut and I've always preferred intact guys. I even used to discriminate against cut guys on Grindr because I only wanted intact cocks. I'm still like that. I believe I unconsciously shamed myself for having a « mutilated cock » as I call it and now I can't get my head out of it and feel ashamed by my cock. It's even worse because of how big it is yet I have no use for it…it's just embarrassing??!??? shameful, useless, almost ridiculous. Like why is that huge thing hanging between my legs and I have no use for it except for coming on my boyfriend's chest? It's just ridiculous…I have no clue why I'm going through all these weird feelings but I just hate it. How do I snap out of it?

The two saddest words in the English language when strung together are 'hung bottom'