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I am a 23 year old virigin and couldn't talk to a woman if my life depended on it. Can someone help me?
Can you not talk to women like Raj in The Big Bang Theory (so, literally at all) or can you still talk to women that you aren't interested in?I am a 23 year old virigin and couldn't talk to a woman if my life depended on it. Can someone help me?
Can you talk with men?Not at all, doesn't matter if I am interested in or not. I cannot initiate a conversation with them.
So it happens with men too? If yes, you just need to brush up on conversation in general. Start with a topic that you find interesting and just talk. Be enthusiastic about it and usually conversation will flow from there.When i do initiate a conversation it becomes the most awkward ting ever and just abandon it quickly
If you can't talk to us at all, then start small. Really small. Say "thank-you" to the cashier when she gives you your change and make eye contact. Work up to smiling at the same time. Do the same with servers at restaurants when they hand you the menu. Male, female, young or old. Smile and say, "thank-you".
When you're heading into the mall at same time as a few other people, hold the door open and say, "you first!" Smile. No pressure to make conversation. Just get use to saying a couple of words to strangers.
When you feel comfortable doing that, you can comment on a book someone might be buying. Perhaps you know the author and can say, "oh, I love that guy's stuff!"
Women are people. Some of us think we are pretty hot stuff, but if you just keep things simple, friendly and light, you'll be surprised at how easy some of are to talk to. But I do recommend just starting really small and not putting too much pressure on yourself.
Not at all, doesn't matter if I am interested in or not. I cannot initiate a conversation with them.
Two words: HAN SOLO.
Be like that and you're set. Why? Because Han Solo doesn't give a crap what people think about him, he's just himself.
If being yourself isn't good enough for you, ask yourself why and fix it.
Women are just people. You have to understand this first. Don't talk to them like they're better than you because they'll sense you don't value yourself and if you don't value you, then why should they value you?
Relax, don't try too hard, and know that "no" isn't the end of the world, it's just a step closer to a potential "yes". If someone doesn't want to spend time with you, you don't want to spend time with them anyway.
The difference between a confident guy and a non-confident guy is that a confident guy will get "no" a bunch of times and not be fazed by it and just move on to a "yes".
If you have a sense of humor at all, let that shine through.
Etc.