How Do I Get this Guy to Stop Staring At My Crotch!

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I feel the same way when women staree at my crotch. Usually older woman. It makes me want to wear big baggy clothes so they will ignore me.
 

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Don't even acknowledge it. I agree with Dee - let the conversations at work be about work, or at least about non-controversial matters. If you have a particular issue with an individual, the "professional" course of action is to address the person diplomatically and in private. That's IF you want to risk a potentially embarassing confrontation in return (not to mention that office gossip travels fast).

There's probably a better way to make the point, though ... With this one 20 year old, you could say point to your eyes and say, "my eyes are up here!". You don't need to point elsewhere.

My attitude may not be re-assuring, but how would you handle yourself if you were a female with big breasts? You can't hide them, but at the same time, you don't flaunt them either. You mentioned that you wear jeans - consider wearing dress slacks, as others have recommended. Beyond these measures, don't worry about it...
 

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You say that he comes off as sexually skilled, what does he do to suggest that? Has he made you uncomfortable by doing other things besides stare at you? If he has, then he may not be as straight as you think. If it's just a simple matter of him staring, then I agree with some of the others on here that he maybe doing it without realizing it's weirding you out. You also mentioned that other guys have been looking as well, there could be something else going on. I know I made the mistake of showing a friend/co-worker an explicit photo of myself and the rumor spread that I was quite hung around the office, so after that I was catching several women staring at me. It never bothered me though, I'm actually flattered LOL But if it did bother me I would definitely say something to that person in private, and not in a meeting, that would be blowing it out of proportion. Spoiled Princess made a very nice suggestion, say something when you catch him next time without directly accusing him, he should get the hint.
 

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One of the best ways is to stop and look down and say, "Have I spilled something on my jeans?" The guy will of course say no. If he was starring, he will get the hint. If he wasn't, he may wonder, but you won't have accused him of anything. It is doubtful that he will say that you are accusing him of something. Hopefully that will make it better.
 

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When you sit down, discreetly put a post-it note on your crotch that says "please stop."

Or if you catch him staring, you could stare down at your own crotch too, like when one person is on the sidewalk staring up at the sky, everyone else looks to see what's up there.

Or just ignore it and let him (them) stare.
 

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Haul your cock in, and do the zip up!

When I want to be more discreet I have a number of shirts that are designed not to be tucked in, and I have a selection of jackets to choose from. Most of the time when I am working then I am thinking about my work, and I am not really concerned with what is distracting other people.
 

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you could always threaten him with a sexual harassament suit. that typically works on most people.


Punishingone has an important point here. What you describe is classic sexual harrassment.

If you can't confront them, you should raise it with your HR department. Clearly your company needs some harrassment training.

I really love (and by "love," I mean am disgusted by) the women on here who say "laugh it off," "growl," "ignore it," etc. If this were happening to you, I doubt you would have the same reaction. I had to deal with shit like this in a past job -- when all I really wanted to do was get my work done -- and it's really not cool.
 

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I dont work in an office because i am lazy drunken student who rarely bothers to get up before noon ;-) but if i did I think I would be more embarressed confronting someone about it than just ignoring it or,I dunno..... staring at him, you could try staring at him and seeing what he does I suppose
 

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I've been in this situation before. I worked in a minor injury clinic at a Medical Center. We wore scrubs. I had lost a significant amount of weight and all of a sudden had a very apparent bulge, which had been previously obsured by baggy fitting uniforms and love handles.

In any event, everybody was staring, including Doctors, my Nurse Manager, other superiors, co-workers, etc.

I just ignored it and accepted it. That how my clothes fit. I just thought to myself. "Oh this must be what a good looking person experiences."

Although, I have to admit it was a little unnerving when a guy would stare, particularly because, well, I was sort of a narrow minded prick at the time (Thank God for education!!!).

On occasion I would have fun with it. There was this real asshole male nurse that got his license through the Army. He was straight, had girlfriends at least part of the time and was more narrow minded that I. In anycase, when I would catch him staring I would subtly move my hips around and watch his head and eyes turn with my change of position. One time I as sitting in a chair and he nealed down to get something out of a nearby drawer. When he opened the drawer his gazed turned to my groin and he just stopped, completely mesmorized. I just stared at him until he came out his spell. When he came out of it, he looked up to see if I noticed and of course, I made very stern eye contact with him. He sort of coward away.

My recommendation is, if you are not into the idea of accepting it, to frequently asked if you spilled on yourself or if you fly is down, then looked at your groin with them with a smurk on your face. Eventually they will learn to be more discrete. Although, I have heard that "My eyes are up here" has been very effective for female friends that get a lot of unwanted attention directed at their breasts.
 

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This has me wondering...

Cat, you work in the same office as this guy. Do you and he ever happen to be in the men's room at the same time? If so, does he seem to make the effort to "catch a glance" at such opportune times? If such should be the case, make no attempt to hide what you have. Don't go out of the way to show it, but let him see what's there. Then, he'll know. And so will you!

Personally, what I would do is ignore the guy. This has happened to most of us at one time or another (being stared at or covertly watched). It could be that you're a bit sensitive about another man's attention to that area of your anatomy. Perhaps this other fellow isn't as straight as he would like to appear. In which case he'll likely eventually say something--either to you or somebody else--and, again, you'll know!
 

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You say that he comes off as sexually skilled, what does he do to suggest that?

I think I may have mis worded my intention, haha.
He is not sexually skilled, this I am pretty sure of, he just makes comments to try to make himself LOOK like he is sexually skilled, its actually funny cuz its so obvious that he isn't skilled that way.

Spoiled Princess, I love you advise, that is much more my style than calling him out and drawing more attention to myself, thank you so much for you advise, I will probably use that.
 

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Wear a skirt and really give them something to look at! Just kidding! Seriously, I hardly ever wear pants so I've never had that happen to me, but you could just call them on it, they'll be so embarassed they won't do it again...or you could just ignore it.

Wearing a skirt?

Sounds like you would enjoy that more than he would, haha, just kidding, I think if I did wear a skirt to the office that would be creating more problems than it would solve.

But my girlfriend may enjoy me wearing one, easy access to the goods, haha
 

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I am gonna comment on this one..I am accustomed to being looked at..i mean womean always do it and men glance but usually dont just stare at it unless they r gay..but occasionally..recently its been a numerous amount of guys that have been ogling my package more than i thought a dude thats married and str8 should look...it doesnt bother me because as i said i have had a huge penis all my life and have been in many situations in which i was ogled and outright asked about my penis..mostly in army or at gym../.this is why i dont usually answer i just read because i tend to rant..lol lol well..ill get this right soon enough...just thought situation was interesting and merited a comment...
 

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Ignore... happens all the time with well endowed guys. Be professional.
Get worry when and if he/they starts following into the john to really get a look.
Be Safe, Be Careful, & Enjoy!
 

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I'd just look down at my crotch and brush it like you had something there.
Then say "What, do I have something on me?"

He'll get the point, You'll make yours but act a bit oblivious like you thought you had a fuzzy or string on your pants.

I work in the same enviro, and I know what you mean.

Thats my opinion. Quick, clean, easy.

And remember, men are naturally cockwatchers anyway. They size up other men subconscioulsy. It might be because he's curious... Or he's just sizing you up.

Not a big deal.

C
 

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you could always threaten him with a sexual harassament suit. that typically works on most people.

IMO HallWildcat would end up looking paranoid and oversensitive to proceed in that manner. His superior hasn't touched him or propositioned him for sex. Nor has he any witnesses or recorded evidence to present to support a sexual harassment premise. I believe that those who said "Is there something on my pants?" or "My eyes are up here" are on the right track.
 

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You make a comment that you are now finding it hard to look him in the eye, this might be part of the issue, i.e

you think he might be looking at you, you feel uncomfortable, you then act uncomfortably round him, he then feels orkward which then makes you feel orkward, which makes him fell orkward..... etc
 

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You made a comment that you are now finding it hard to look him in the eye, this might be part of the issue, i.e

you think he might be looking at you, you feel uncomfortable, you then act uncomfortably round him, he then feels awkward which then makes you feel awkward, which makes him fell awkward..... etc

Yes. I mentioned that earlier too agentblueuk. We have a case of two young men who are being awkward around each other.
BTW HallWildcat, you should be relieved to know that looking at crotches is a natural phenomenon for men in general. See this other thread:


http://www.lpsg.org/underwear-clothing-and-appearance-issues/46650-both-gay-straight-men-check.html
 

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I sure would like to see what this guy has his eyes on!

Maybe it not such a big deal, you say you were boxers that would defiantly show a lot try wearing briefs. Plus I think wearing briefs are sexier.

And yes I think you should talk to him personally and privately but thank him for the complement but it’s becoming uncomfortable.


I hope this helps!
 

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He may just be curious. In this day and age, many guys simply have never seen a dick other than their own. Maybe their fathers and brothers. He may have never seen a dick as big as yours and is just completely awed by it. You said he is conservative and you have assumed he is as straight as an arrow. I didn't catch it the first time I read your opening post, but this time when I read it, I wondered if he might be a "closeted gay" He's married because that is what is expected of him. Doesn't mean he doesn't like the guys. And the comment was made to when in the men's room let him see it. That actually might work. Once he has seen it, the mystery is gone.

Very large breasted women just have to learn to ignore. No way can they hide what they look like. This might be something you will have to do. Just learn to ignore it. I know that it easier to say than do.

I would not mention it at all unless you took the Office approach and tell him in private one day that you think people are starring at your crotch and you can't figure out way. Ask him if there is something that you need to know. Make out like it must be Others in the office. Of course you run the risk of EVERYBODY being told about your concern.

Personally I would do anything al all. There are too many risks with anything you try. Be my luck that I would be one of those who what I did would backfire on me.