how do i go about this?

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okay so i only work with women... i mean like... they are all women. it's Pussygalore in there. anyways my boss did the most shocking thing ever... hiring another guy, apart from me.... and luck would have it, that he is macho, Latino... and gay.

i know right... so you could only imagine my stupid smile when he introduced himself to me... anyways, this happened last weekend. and its for sure that he is gay cause we has gotten close to another co-worker and has told her that he is gay. anyways so far so good right?

anyways... again, um I want to you know... ask him out. but here is my problem... apart from my mental instability, i can't seem to actually speak in front of him. all i do is smile and look stupid. and I;m used to guys asking me out. and like that's easy. it easy to reject people and stuff. but now I'm scared and feeling stupid.

like the most we have spoken is when i asked him if he needed me to get anything since i was going out for lunch.... i know pathetic... even when i asked him i couldn't stop smiling.
 

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Just ask him what bars he likes to hang out at. Since you are both gay I'm sure you will be familiar with the same places. Run with it from there...
 

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it easy to reject people and stuff. but now I'm scared and feeling stupid.


:biggrin1::rolleyes::biggrin1::rolleyes::biggrin1::rolleyes:

goes around comes around.


:rolleyes::biggrin1::rolleyes::biggrin1::rolleyes::biggrin1:

date a coworker and lose him forever. it is the law of relationships.

the only option is to
face the fact and swallow your pride, face your fear, why be scared?

he knows it is "it easy to reject people"
and he know you have done it before
yes he knows, he has gaydar just like you do
so he wont make the 1st move, he is just as scared as you are.

if you actually pull it off, quit the job or have him quit
someone needs to find a new job for the sake of the relationship.

before you swallow your pride. better find out if he is a top.

yes we also all know you are a bottom, we got gaydar too.

get over your stupidity too.
just take a chance and go for it, grow a pair.
it dont cost money
it does not hurt
it is the right thing to do.

all you stand to loose is an opportunity for a lifetime of happiness.

go for it
take the plunge, you might thank your lucky stars every night as your ass gets plugged and rammed into bliss

if you cant laugh along with, and, at, this reply, to see both the truth and humor in it.

you are not ready for a relationship with him.
 

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before you swallow your pride. better find out if he is a top.

shit, you're right... I'll find out first and then ask...lol cross my fingers.

yes we also all know you are a bottom, we got gaydar too.

I'm mad that it's so obvious. lol

go for it
take the plunge, you might thank your lucky stars every night as your ass gets plugged and rammed into bliss

:scratchchin: :naughty:


he is working there for the season and then he is gone... or so i was told... and furthermore, I'm looking for another job.
 

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Dear Sinclair:

Believe it or not, I was in a situation similar to yours. What I learned much later through a mutual acquaintance is that object of my affection was actually interested in me, but found it almost impossible to talk to me, be around me, relax around me, etc., mostly due to the fact that I was doing what you are doing: I was totally and completely wrapped around the axle whenever I was around him!!! I couldn't stop staring at him, over-evaluating everything he did, said, etc. And, God forbid, he paid attention to me. I would go over the edge!

If I could only do it again, I would play it so much cooler and let him feel like he could be comfortable and not examined. I know it is hard and it feels like you are ignoring him, but you will create an environment that allows him to act and react comfortably.

Believe it or not, this might also create a situation that allows you to know him better, and, Honey, you may not like what you learn there, so keep an open mind.

Good Luck! Let us know how it goes.

zpstackz
 

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Dear Sinclair:

Believe it or not, I was in a situation similar to yours. What I learned much later through a mutual acquaintance is that object of my affection was actually interested in me, but found it almost impossible to talk to me, be around me, relax around me, etc., mostly due to the fact that I was doing what you are doing: I was totally and completely wrapped around the axle whenever I was around him!!! I couldn't stop staring at him, over-evaluating everything he did, said, etc. And, God forbid, he paid attention to me. I would go over the edge!

If I could only do it again, I would play it so much cooler and let him feel like he could be comfortable and not examined. I know it is hard and it feels like you are ignoring him, but you will create an environment that allows him to act and react comfortably.

Believe it or not, this might also create a situation that allows you to know him better, and, Honey, you may not like what you learn there, so keep an open mind.

Good Luck! Let us know how it goes.

zpstackz

okay, open mind... i know i don;t want to get too exited like the last guy I liked... fingers crossed though.
 

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looking for a new job!
go for it!
hell, never ever give up a good chance.
i did once long ago and (we are still good friends) but we worked together back then.
Regret that I didnt jump back then is with me every fucking day of my life.
go for it!
and he is a top! fuuuuuck me!
 

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Don't date people with whom you work.
Bad idea.

really... :( why not... lol this is so not what i wanted to hear... lol

Most relationships fizzle, unfortunately. Would you want to work with one of your exes? Would you want to work with a couple that just broke up?

Still, people meet and start dating through work all the time. What I'd suggest is that you find out if you guys could be friends before you try anything else. What happens if you ask him out on a date, and then three minutes in find out that he's...I dunno...a Nickleback fan or something like that? Then, not only do you not want to date him, but you have to go back to work having had an awkward date with your coworker.

I think office romance is best when it blossoms slowly and carefully.
 

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Take a minute to chill and realize he's just a guy too. If you are not worried about the whole work situation then go for it. I'm guessing he knows exactly how interested you are given your description of your action...he might just be waiting for you to say something. Either way, ask him. If he's interested something will happen. If he isn't, then better to know now before things get too worked up in you mind.
 

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I totally understand you guys I just have this problem where I get too excited about this of like I get too excited and I mean it totally screws everything up at the end so I'm just gonna come down and take it slow. I don't want a repeat of last time
 

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I totally understand you guys I just have this problem where I get too excited about this of like I get too excited and I mean it totally screws everything up at the end so I'm just gonna come down and take it slow. I don't want a repeat of last time

That's the problem with advice, isn't it? It all sounds great until the guy who gets you horny comes around, and then your brain shuts off and it's back to square one. ;)
 

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You shouldn't date a direct supervisor/subordinate at work, but beyond that it's all good.

Most of the people I know who met their spouse outside college that I know met them at work.

If god forbid things go so catastrophically wrong that you can't work alongside your ex, just find a new job (even in the current job market, so long as you're currently employed it's not generally difficult to find a similar job).
 

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i decided not to do anything. I'm just acting like this cause i haven't had sex in a long time. I know i can do better and plus my job is more important to me. I'm proud to say i have self control. i spoke with him today and i was totally unfazed by him... he was very surprised.