How do I know what this guy wants.

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Right I'm only posting on here because I don't really know who else to ask this question to and I wonder if I can get some guidance here.

I'm to all intents and purposes a straight guy, I split from a long term girlfriend a year or so ago, my choice. But I've dabbled on multiple occasions with guys and I know I like it. Never had anything serious tho, and not open about it.

I started going to a new class at the gym about 4 months ago. It's a yoga class. It's full of guys and girls some of the guys are obviously gay. Some not so. So I get chatting to a guy there. He's English like me. He has a kinda trendy east London look and also artistic but not gay acting in the slightest, quite 'laddy' in fact. We spark up conversation in the changing room every time we see each other. We shower next to each other. He's handsome, great body, big cock as well. I like him but the interaction is all a bit odd.

So anyway I'm thinking this is all just friendly behaviour. I have an inkling he might be interested but neither of us is giving anything away.
Then one day he asks me for my number so we can have a night out with our respective friends. Ie let's try and arrange a group night out. I think ok cool. Then he asks me if I'm single. I say yeah to which he suggests if I would be interested in being set up with one of his single girl-friends. I said well maybe, not sure how I feel about being 'set up' with anyone.
Do straight guys actually do things like this? Never encountered a a guy playing matchmaker like this before. Was he just trying to suss me out?

So it goes on a bit, he messages me a few times asking him to join him at the pub with his friends but I can't make it. Another time in a text he jokingly refers to us meeting up as a 'man-date', we never get round to meeting. He has left the class now so I don't see him.

It all goes a bit quiet and then out of the blue tonight I receive a text from him saying that he is taking 3 girls out for dinner tomorrow, wants to know if I am free and tells me that 'all fit and free'.

Am I reading too much into all this? Is this guy gay? Is he bi? Is he a swinger?
What's the deal.
 

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Yeah I would think that too... Sounds like the guy is just trying to get me laid... But I've never had a guy I hardly know do that for me before... I mean suggesting that me and him go out with 3 girls. Seems like he wants a group?
 

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Agree to meet, drive separately and say you have plans later in the evening - that way if it's weird, you have an excuse to leave early. If you're having fun, go with it. You don't have a whole lot to lose, other than one evening of your life.
 

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Actually, I think your instincts are correct. I think he's feeling you out, so to speak. Asking if you are single and wanna be set up with a girl, makes me think he was testing the waters. And now contacts you after some time and wants to have you meet him with a bunch of "the girls" is, in itself a little bit of assign, but also makes me think he wants their assessment of you. So, mate, if you are interested in him, sure, proceed with caution. If not,then beg out,thank him,and tell him you will get back to him another time.
 

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I think you should have sex with him.

It's the only way to be sure...

lmao.. well don't we all hope that's the answer to any problems right? LOL

well OP, i think the guy is genuinely nice trying to just hang out wid you and wants to be your friend. I had a classmate who was like that before, he always looks at me, trying to engage in conversations when we're on a class break. i get messages from him asking to chill out, shit i did hung out with him cuz i thought he was interested in me LOL. but all it was is that he wanted to genuinely hang out with me and meet his friends and accepted me in their group. he's married now and nothing happened more than i thought. so yea i suggest you to hang out with him, see if he could be a friend, or MORE. :wink: worst case scenario is u find out he's not into you, but u can have a new friend right?