How Do I Stay Happy?

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I've been very unhappy that I'm not with anybody lately and it's caused me to be really depressed. I'm starting to find my favorite activities very boring and that makes me even sadder. I'm starting to fear I'll be alone forever. How do I cope with being single? How do I actually find somebody?
 

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I've been very unhappy that I'm not with anybody lately and it's caused me to be really depressed. I'm starting to find my favorite activities very boring and that makes me even sadder. I'm starting to fear I'll be alone forever. How do I cope with being single? How do I actually find somebody?
I don't think you need to cope with being single as much as you need to understand why feeling single makes you feel so bad... or if being single is even the cause of those issues. If you're not happy on your own, I don't believe that a relationship will fill that gap. So my suggestion?

Therapy. Do it.
 

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My father used to say, “wherever you go, there you are.” There’s a lot of wisdom packed into that saying.
The mistake here is that you expect someone else to make you happy. Even if he’s your husband, that’s not his job. It’s your responsibility to find your own personal road to happiness. Seeking your fulfillment through others is a road to failure.
I was single for 40 years before I met my first serious partner. I have a friend who is 60 and had never had a serious relationship. Perhaps you will find your matching heart tomorrow. Maybe it will never happen. Your happiness can’t be dependent on either outcome.
Find someone you can talk to; a valued friend, a parent, a sibling, a faith leader, a professional therapist.
Spend some time on you. Introspection is a good thing. It’s okay to be single. Fulfillment is self-generated.
Good luck and thanks for opening your heart.
 

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I've been very unhappy that I'm not with anybody lately and it's caused me to be really depressed. I'm starting to find my favorite activities very boring and that makes me even sadder. I'm starting to fear I'll be alone forever. How do I cope with being single? How do I actually find somebody?
Happinesses unless there is an underlying medical problem comes from within. I have come to realize I am responsible for my own happiness.
Diet, a good nights sleep and exercise help me immensely. I feel balance is the key to a happy life.
Good luck!
 
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As with most things in life, perspective is all. As others have said, happiness will not come from a relationship. If you are not happy now, you need to find out why. If you feel you are missing something in life, it is not a relationship.

Want a better perspective? Raise your eyes from the myopic view of you, yourself, and what you perceive you lack, and turn your attention to others. Volunteer. Get out of your rut, and see what is actually going on in the world, and how you can make it better. I guarantee, absolutely, that if you begin to concern yourself with others, you find what you are looking for. No, it will find you.

Be well, and learn to be happy by making others your focus for a while.
 

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As with most things in life, perspective is all. As others have said, happiness will not come from a relationship. If you are not happy now, you need to find out why. If you feel you are missing something in life, it is not a relationship.

Want a better perspective? Raise your eyes from the myopic view of you, yourself, and what you perceive you lack, and turn your attention to others. Volunteer. Get out of your rut, and see what is actually going on in the world, and how you can make it better. I guarantee, absolutely, that if you begin to concern yourself with others, you find what you are looking for. No, it will find you.

Be well, and learn to be happy by making others your focus for a while.

Outstanding advice!!!!
A close friend recently moved near me and was being a sad sack about missing friends and his old routine.
When I’d had my fill of the bitching I went online and did a quick search for opportunities in our city. I compiled a list and gave it to him. Told him to get out of the house and off his ass and stop his fucking whining.
I rode his ass (not that way you dirty minded men! lol) until he started doing things. Guess what, he’s busier now as a retired man than he’s ever been and loves the affirmation from being needed and wanted. He volunteers with several organizations and is happily serving others. He told me that he feels like he’s getting more back than he’s giving out.
You love on people and they get to love you back! Sounds like a formula for a fulfilling life.
 

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What you are craving is connection which does not necessarily need to be filled by a partner. On top of this, you really shouldn't try to fulfill all of your connective needs through one person anyway.

So my suggestion would be to work on making new and stronger friendships. Rescue a puppy or cat for a pet. Spend more time with your family. Join some team sport/social group or church.

Yes, actively look for love but don't settle for something for the sake of it. Some of the loneliest people I know are married.
 
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I've been very unhappy that I'm not with anybody lately and it's caused me to be really depressed. I'm starting to find my favorite activities very boring and that makes me even sadder. I'm starting to fear I'll be alone forever. How do I cope with being single? How do I actually find somebody?

There are days that I feel like I’m languishing in my solitude but then I realize I do whatever the fuck I want. I don’t have to answer to nobody, I eat what I want, I watch what I want, I travel by myself and I don’t have to worry about nobody else. You get lonely you buy a cat, they live for 20 years and then you get another one. Get a second job, buy a house, Start a business, become the best version of yourself. If I find a husband one day great if I don’t that’s fine. Right now I’m in the process of buying a summer home. And I’ve been accomplishing so much by myself but I realize that if someone steps into the picture and they need to sign a paper letting the court know that They ain’t taking my shit. I live so stress-free compared to my friends who are in relationships.
 
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