Not exactly a large penis related issue, but I need some fellow guy advice.
Long story...but I'll try to sum it up best I can: I was married for 15 years (divorce official May 2010). During my seperation I got into a long distance correspondence/relationship with a woman who is seperated herself (She's in NY, me in CT). Once my divorce became official our relationship heated up. During this time we were seeing each other once a month (long weekends). Unfortunely she lost her job and couldn't land another one. I suggested she start looking in my area (half jokingly, but to my shigrin, she actually started to). After a couple of months of rejection letters she suggested that she move in for 3 months. This way she could more aggressive look/pursue a job here.
During this time she saved up her money and was able to look for work in earnest. Sure enough she landed a job and weeks later got herself an apartment. Now we're about to bring her stuff down from NY out of storage (along with her 14yo son). Here's where the heartache begins. While we get along fine and there's alot of love between us. But now I'm able to assess everything that has taken place (and what will be happening). We both don't want to get re-married (she still technically married- her "ex" is one flight away from bolting to Texas to hook up with an old flame) but she does see us being a couple for real long time (hinting that she'd be moving back in with me). I'm now having serious second doubts about all of this. At first I thought my marriage failed because I was with the wrong person...but now I realize it's the whole concept of being in a relationship...this is freaking me out. I was so happy late last year- living alone...and now here I find myself going down the 'long term relationship/happily ever after' road. I really don't want this.
Needless to say I feel horrible that she's basically moving down to CT just for me. I'm happy she got herself a job, but still. She's going to be crushed when I tell her this. Right now, with less than a week to moving, my stomach is in knots, unable to sleep. I'm thinking of giving it a few months- seeing what it's like living alone yet dating, but I just don't see it happening. She knows I have my doubts but wants things to work. I'm in a quandry...sorry I don't have any close friends I can tell this to.
Long story...but I'll try to sum it up best I can: I was married for 15 years (divorce official May 2010). During my seperation I got into a long distance correspondence/relationship with a woman who is seperated herself (She's in NY, me in CT). Once my divorce became official our relationship heated up. During this time we were seeing each other once a month (long weekends). Unfortunely she lost her job and couldn't land another one. I suggested she start looking in my area (half jokingly, but to my shigrin, she actually started to). After a couple of months of rejection letters she suggested that she move in for 3 months. This way she could more aggressive look/pursue a job here.
During this time she saved up her money and was able to look for work in earnest. Sure enough she landed a job and weeks later got herself an apartment. Now we're about to bring her stuff down from NY out of storage (along with her 14yo son). Here's where the heartache begins. While we get along fine and there's alot of love between us. But now I'm able to assess everything that has taken place (and what will be happening). We both don't want to get re-married (she still technically married- her "ex" is one flight away from bolting to Texas to hook up with an old flame) but she does see us being a couple for real long time (hinting that she'd be moving back in with me). I'm now having serious second doubts about all of this. At first I thought my marriage failed because I was with the wrong person...but now I realize it's the whole concept of being in a relationship...this is freaking me out. I was so happy late last year- living alone...and now here I find myself going down the 'long term relationship/happily ever after' road. I really don't want this.
Needless to say I feel horrible that she's basically moving down to CT just for me. I'm happy she got herself a job, but still. She's going to be crushed when I tell her this. Right now, with less than a week to moving, my stomach is in knots, unable to sleep. I'm thinking of giving it a few months- seeing what it's like living alone yet dating, but I just don't see it happening. She knows I have my doubts but wants things to work. I'm in a quandry...sorry I don't have any close friends I can tell this to.
