How do i tell if a guy is interested in me?

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so basically there’s this guy in my literature class that i really like. I’m head over heels for this guy. We’re around the same age, have similar tastes in music (he didn’t tell me i found out via his twitter, which he also didn’t give me.)

Anyway, I’ve always had this feeling that he was interested in me. During class he ALWAYS stares at me. It’s constant. I catch him looking all the time, and even when I’m not looking directly at him, sometimes i see him from the side of my eye. Even when he’s talking aloud to the class, he sometimes shifts his gaze from the professor and onto ME.

And his energy just feels inviting, and it always feels like he wants to say something to me after class, but he doesn’t because after class I’m never alone (unfortunately my friends cock block, lol.)we don’t really talk, but i initiated convo with him once and That was it. But we tend to laugh at each other’s jokes sometimes. I also stare back at him especially when he’s talking because i think he’s really cute lol.
He’s an average looking guy, and is not my type at all, but i really like him. I just don’t know if he’s interested in me or not.

I know he’s tolerant of homosexuality because based on his Instagram/Twitter he has some gay friends, and i even saw that he favorited a gif from a movie in which 2 men were kissing.


Anyway, i just really want to know what some sure signs that a guy is interested in you.

PS: i want to ask for his Instagram but i don’t know how. How should i go about it?
 
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Do you have assigned seating in the class? If not and there’s an open seat near him, take it. Miss a class on purpose and then at the next class ask him for his notes or if you can meet to discuss the class.
If he makes a comment in class that is insightful, tell him so after class. You could also tell him that he must understand the work better than you and ask if he’d be open to meeting for coffee to discuss it. If your friends get in the way come to class late so you can sit apart from them. It will also let you know if he’s looking around to find you.
Even if he didn’t give you his screen name I think it’s okay to initiate contact via social media. You don’t have to explain how you found him unless he asks. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Go for it!
 
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Start by treating him like a friend and talk to him; ask all the questions you might ask a new friend. Then there may be some innuendo and flirting involved, but you need to start talking to the guy. Don’t try flirting too early til you get a feel for his interests and and as you get to know him, ask for the Instagram .
 
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PS: i want to ask for his Instagram but i don’t know how. How should i go about it?[/QUOTE]

It's 2018, honey, introduce yourself and say hey, you wanna go grab a beer sometime? Don't worry about whether he is or whether he is not, HE might not know. Just make a new friend and see where it goes, the worst that happens is that you get a new friend.
 

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Just give him and wink and see if he’ll wink back. With a hot ass like yours, i would wink back and lick my lips too.
 
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When I was starting university, I found myself in a similar situation. There was a guy in one of my intro psych classes who would do the same thing, and neither of us made the first move. I always sat next to a friend, so "alone" time with him didn't really happen. However, my friend and I asked him to be part of our class group for a project, so that allowed for more one-on-one conversation. Granted, it was mostly about the project, but it was a chance to be social outside of the classroom.

At the end of the day, you need to put yourself out there a bit. Sitting in a class and exchanging glances is a good first start (it shows there is at least some interest), but you want to actually have a conversation. Coffee is a great facilitator. Meeting at the library to study, or a coffee house, are safe and neutral. By safe, I mean you would be going there with the clear intent to go over notes/class material, rather than a date, per se.

I would avoid using alcohol right out the gate, only because people tend to loosen up a little too much if they have a lot bottled up inside them that they want to get out. It might be a way to get the conversation going in the direction you like, but it could very easily wreck things before they get off the ground.

So. You both seem to be new to this sort of thing. Take it slow. Become friends! If there is more there, your friendship will evolve.

Also, if you go the coffee route, or study route, you can take a friend or two with you. Just sit beside him.
 

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When I was starting university, I found myself in a similar situation. There was a guy in one of my intro psych classes who would do the same thing, and neither of us made the first move. I always sat next to a friend, so "alone" time with him didn't really happen. However, my friend and I asked him to be part of our class group for a project, so that allowed for more one-on-one conversation. Granted, it was mostly about the project, but it was a chance to be social outside of the classroom.

At the end of the day, you need to put yourself out there a bit. Sitting in a class and exchanging glances is a good first start (it shows there is at least some interest), but you want to actually have a conversation. Coffee is a great facilitator. Meeting at the library to study, or a coffee house, are safe and neutral. By safe, I mean you would be going there with the clear intent to go over notes/class material, rather than a date, per se.

I would avoid using alcohol right out the gate, only because people tend to loosen up a little too much if they have a lot bottled up inside them that they want to get out. It might be a way to get the conversation going in the direction you like, but it could very easily wreck things before they get off the ground.

So. You both seem to be new to this sort of thing. Take it slow. Become friends! If there is more there, your friendship will evolve.

Also, if you go the coffee route, or study route, you can take a friend or two with you. Just sit beside him.

"A beer". Totally an Ottawa gay post, have to needle you a bit on that. But given the incidence of alcoholism amongst my colleagues, perhaps...
 
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"A beer". Totally an Ottawa gay post, have to needle you a bit on that. But given the incidence of alcoholism amongst my colleagues, perhaps...
I'm not sure what you mean by that..
 

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If the pic of 2 men kissing is random (he doesnt know them) there is a good chance he is not fully straight. About the staring, that often is a sign but one thing for sure, gay men tend to smile when making eye contact. If he is smiling in any fashion, he's trying to get your attention. Good luck.