I have to say you think of past girlfriends, well I bet anything they are loose by now. I mean, I doubt they are still single and childless, and you know when a woman has a child, if they don't do kegels, they will be loose.
Tact is good. :yup:You are totally "pulling the mickey" right now, dude. You are going to confuse the OP.
First of all, a relationship/marriage is all about communication. If she is loose now, you might want to bring it up the next time you have a sexual conversation. Just don't say it so boldly. Perhaps, just make the comment about how you heard about this thing called P.E, or kegals, and you think you should both try it out because it's supposed to strengthen the orgasm.
IF you don't think you can pull that off.... well, tread lightly on the subject. You could also use less lubricant?? It would make your cock slip in less easily.
I agree!No offense to the women who posted, but you say things like that, then you wonder why guys don't ask you how they are doing during sex, or don't give you a straight answer when you ask. If something changed in my partner's and my sex, I would bring it up. If you can't be open about something as personal as sex after 4 years, then why are you still going out?
If a woman told me something, like I wasn't getting as hard, or couldn't last as long, I would try to find a way to rectify it. It should be pleasurable for all people involved.
Hanko, I rather liked OC MuscleJock's advice. You recognized it as good advice as well. It does have one flaw, however, as he is quick to point out himself. It's manipulation. The problem with manipulation is that it doesn't always work. Would you really like to face the risks you know exist if you have this conversation, only to leave it to chance that she will actually bother looking up the excercises? No, your only choice it to tell her how she benefits from the excercises. In fact, I can see very little motivation for any woman to keep up with a kegel regimen if they don't know how they themselves benefit.
If she makes a regular habit of excercising her PC muscles, she stands (not to actually tighten anything, but rather) to improve the elasticity of her vagina, improve her sensitiity, and improve the quality of her orgasms, as well as give her the ability to improve her sexual techniques and better see to your pleasure. If I were you, I'd do more research about what is possible, and if I would bring it up at all it would be in a maner similar to OC MuscleJock's suggestion. However, when I would mention the benefits I could get from doing my own PC flexions, I'd get into the ways in which she could benefit. Then tell her you'd like to do them together if she's game.
As a note, Hanko, have you considered the following? As the two of you continue to learn how to give each other pleasure, as she ages and her own ability to orgasm has evolved, and as her body continues to change, have you considered that perhaps she's not "looser" but instead wetter? Have you considered that your erections are possibly not what they once were? Have you considered what your contribution to your problem might be, or have you only automatically pointed a finger? Consider these things.
It is Manipulation on the DL ...which I did admit HOWEVER...you might say ...going with what I had already said, that strengthing those muscles for females help them squeeze and grab the cock when its inside...NOT that she needs to do that *rolls eyes* ...SEE thats the hard part...how do you suggest THAT part if you haven't planted the seed about it. You know..if she asks...and you answer her incorrectly..you'll be sleeping on the couch for weeks!!!
Given the forum this was posted, this might be the funniest post I have ever read.Men are horrible, disgusting, unfair creatures, and the only reason she's loose is because of you! How dare you think you can ask her to help improve your sexual gratification! How dare you?!
That's a bit redundant, is it not? All manipulation is "on the DL". :tongue: That's what makes it wrong. It's also what makes it risky. People are usually very angry about it if they catch on. I still say if he's going to risk being caught at manipulation, he shouldn't just leave it to chance that she'll be sufficiently interested in looking into kegels on her own. You say the risk is in talking to her in depth about improved sexual technique. I say it's riskier not to. What if she's not interested enough in the subject to do her own research? If he only has to bring it up once, it's just something that caught his fancy. If he has to bring it up twice, THEN she's going o wonder if he's tring to tell her something hard to hear. That's just my opinion.