How do men feel about sex toys?

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  1. FeroxFemina

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    This is a question for anyone but is aimed at the straight and bi men whose female partners like sex toys.

    Are you jealous or annoyed? Would you rather replace the use of the toy? Have you evel felt self conscious about your penis size when a womans favourite toy is thicker and longer than you?

    What about sex machines, sybians and monkey rockers?


    And if you have any male sex toys, e.g. a flesh light or a dildo or your own, do you hide it from your partner?
     
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    i love anything that helps my partner get off. how selfish and stupid to be jealous of a device.
     
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    Wouldn't make me jealous if she enjoyed toys as long as it was with me or in addition to me. If she would prefer to play with toys than me, then it is a totally different story. I'm not the jealous type anyway.

    I did have a gf that liked a small vibe, but had told me about it at first. Only after I discovered it and wanted to see her in action with it did she open up. We used it together and it was a blast. She used it on her clit during sex and also sometimes rub me with it.

    We get so hung up on keeping masturbation private that we miss out on sharing it with our partners. Anything that draws out sexual interest is a good thing and can enhance the shared fun.
     
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    We have all sorts of sex toys. She's got her personal ones, we've got "furniture", and I've got my PE gear. I think anything that enhances sexual pleasure in general is healthy.

    Probably the only thing that can approach any kind of annoyance is when she uses a toy and gets too sore from it's use to fuck very long afterwards. But that just happened once.
     
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    I like sex toys. It really turns me on to fuck a woman with a huge vibrator while I finger her ass. Drives them WILD!!

    I understand my size is smaller, and that is no reason to deprive a woman of all the pleasure I can help give her.....whether with me or with a sex toy. Just have fun!
     
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    My friends bf threw her vibrator out on the street, saying that she didn't need it and that she had him and yet I believe he had a porn stash.

    My ex had a suitcase full of magazines, dvd's etc and he was surprised that I wasn't mad when I found out, he was even more surprised when I asked if I could have a look through them!
     
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    Yeah, I have a porn collection of my own and when my wife (when we were dating) wanted to look through them, she surprised me with a list of stuff she wanted us to watch together.

    I think I proposed to her that weekend.
     
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    Depends whether she was using the vibrator in preference to him. In which case getting rid of the 'rival' probably seemed the logical thing to do (if you are a dude that is :rolleyes:). Of course, improving on his technique and paying a bit more attention to his woman's needs would have been the better thing to do.

    Wish I could get my wife interested in using a sex toy....
     
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    Sex toys are all part of sex play. But really, it think its a personal thing and could be kept private. Now if a partner wants to introduce it to the bedroom, then everyone has to be OK with it. And usually, a conversation takes care of that.

    For example, I had and exGF the liked anal. (we never did it because she thought I was too big, unlike her last BF) So, we would use anal beads or wand, whatever that thing was called, on her for a DP type thing.

    For myself, I sometimes use an Oro-stimulator. It basically simulates a BJ. I will use it every once in a while. But I would not feel comfortable using it with a partner. That is like my own thing, or as the new McDonald commericials are saying, "That is 'Me' time".
     
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    That's insecurity for ya. I had a bf who insisted that I dispose of the dildo he found. The only reason I complied was that I could understand how it's being larger than him could cause him to feel inadequate.

    Unfortunately it went deeper. He was "offended" that I had books like The Joy of Sex and The Hite Report and eventually urged me to dispose of pictures he found of ex-bfs that were scattered amongst other old pics in photo albums and shoeboxes.

    In the end I did edit my life. I deleted him from it.
     
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    Toys have never been a problem, and when I am having sex with someone my main focus is them and pleasing them. I love butt plugs when I am with a woman, I love her strap-ons and I love trying new things.
     
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    Ha! I don't own any toys that are larger than my BF.

    This story just happened two weeks ago. I wanted to buy a dido that was the same size as his penis so we went to the toy store together. I held up two dildos close in size to one another and I thought that the girthier one was closer to his size. He insisted that the smaller one was him. Assuming that he knew his penis better than I did, we bought it. All the way he pretended to be jealous of the thing, which was really cute. I told him, "It's like you're jealous of yourself!"

    When we finally did the compare, it turns out that I was right. He had chosen too small! :lmao:

    I was charmed by that a little, by his modesty. He says that he made a mistake because he's never seen his own penis that close to his face before!

    Thew it out on the street? I'm sure that gave the neighbors something to talk about!

    That's great!
     
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    lmao I have lots of toys. I love them :) I have some of the normal vibes and stuff and some Bad Dragon toys. My boyfriend does not have toys, but he gets playboy and maxium and watch's porn like he's afraid it will all disappear one day. And it doesn't really bother me. However we dont watch a lot together simply because our tastes are different. I like the amatuer stuff and he likes the set up stuff. He's never acted jealous. I don't really hide them from him. But he doesn't deep through all my stuff and search for them either. Everynow and then he'll ask me to grab my vibe and put on a show but its rare.
     
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    my advice it to chop his hand off, throw it in the street, because he has her cunt now.
     
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    Lol, too funny.

    Obviously it was his loss not to get closer and understand what turns her on.
     
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    my not funny and serious answer is to dump him, because a man who doesn't respect your right to touch your own body doesn't respect you.
     
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    I second this opinion!
     
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    My husband and I have been using sex toys for the past four months or so. When I first brought the subject up, it did not go well. After a few mixed up days, we were able to discuss the situation and he took me to the toy store. We now have a small collection of vib's for me and a few cockrings for him. I also have a few other small toys. We bought a few vids, but haven't watched them yet. Now that he understands my desire for the toys, he's totally into them and likes using them on me. We want to get a swing and some other furniture in the future. So all turned out well. I hope men reading this that are not comfortable with toys will understand that many woman need them to climax. It is not just about the guy or his size, shape or lovemaking abilities. Plus, they can be sooooooo very fun.
     
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    We have 2 toy chests full of delightful toys and supplies. I like using vibrators and other toys on my partners. The toys help with foreplay and arousal. Their also fun to use in their own right.
     
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    Sheesh! Sounds like her bf wanted to be in complete control of her sexuality!

    Oh and the hypocrisy of him having a porn stash when she's not allowed to have a vibrator!

    If he thinks he can toss any of her property out to the street, then toss him out to the street!
     
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