How do straight members feel about the gay members?

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Nearly every gay member on here that I have talked to has been very cool, and I enjoy talking to them. The fact that I am straight and they are gay means nothing to me.

Some guys are Ford guys...some guys like Chevy's. Doesn't mean we are from different planets here...

...OB
 

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horribleperson said:
...those are the people i want to kill with an olive fork.
That sounds so fabulous. Are you certain you're not...? No? Well, the bit about the olive fork is still absolutely smashing, regardless.

Actually, I think that gay men and straight men are really so much more alike then we and they often see each other (neurobiological differences notwithstanding). In recent times, I've had the opportunity to spend more time with straight men then I have in the past, and have learned that quite a number of them are even more comfortable with my sexuality then *I* am...

As for THIS forum, while I am not a regular poster, or even a regular reader, I have found myself coming back time and time again over the last couple of years, chiefly because, while it is ostensibly about "large penises", at times the dialog seems to transcend the limitations of that premise.

Oh, but back to the topic...

While I'm not straight by any stretch of the imagination, I think that men in general just like penises (either their own, or those of others, or both), and that they like to talk about them, and while it's inappropriate to discuss male genitalia with most women (at least, the women often seem to think so), and it's generally considered taboo to make conversation with other straight men about the subject (either because of genuine homophobia, or fear of homophobia on the part of the other person, or whatever), whereas in THIS forum, the attitudes of tolerance and respect (in general) appear to create an environment where those artificial inhibitions have no power to cause men to modify their innate impulses (to talk about penises).

As for cock-shots, the posting and viewing of them and so forth, I think that for many men, displaying themselves to other people, regardless of either gender or orientation, appears to be a fairly common impulse. I think it's rooted in the realities of our often animal nature, in that we're wired to not only display ourselves to potential mates, and be aroused by potential mates, but to display ourselves to potential competitors (in an attempt to run off the competition), but to become aroused by potential competitors as well (to make sure that we don't miss out in the action). That men who are strictly either gay or straight do not actually present each other with competition for potential mates doesn't seem to matter to our biological mechanisms for arousal and response, so...

At least, that's how I've come to interpret the seemingly inexplicable behavior that I've both observed on the part of others, and at times succumbed to myself. Aren't people a curious bunch?

Oh, but about the penis-pictures (I can't seem to stay quite to the topic today), as our modern-day society is such an unnatural and inhospitable environment for many of our more animal instincts, I think that, because we so often use higher brain functions to restrict our innate behaviors and responses (for example, attempting to NOT have an erection in public, when it would be completely natural for one to do so), we look for some other way to express these things, or seek support from others to counter our culture's disapproval (real or perceived).

Hm, I hadn't really planned on writing an essay on the subject, but I got a bit carried away...
 

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horribleperson said:
99% of them are nice guys, its that 1% of the freaky nut jobs that dont understand that i'm NOT gay and no you cant suck my cock. those crazy peole who send me emails and the freaky nut jobs, those are the people i want to kill with an olive fork.

And I can't begin to count the number of "straight" acquaintances over the years who, upon finding out I'm gay, proceeded to confide in me their fantasies of gay sex, obviously trying to turn me on so I'd fulfill them. (In fact, I've been more often pursued by straight men wanting a really good blow job [because all gay men are good at that, didn't you know?] than by gay men, generally.)

Or the number of "100% straight" men who have PMed me on chat on this forum trying to find out whether I'd be up for some "experimentation."

Or, when I was still teaching first-year composition, the number of teenagers who tried to get into my pants so they could brag to their friends that they'd had their first gay sex experience. Or so they'd get a higher grade. One guy even came to my office for an appointment directly from playing an indoor soccer game; he was sweaty and thought his tank top (showing off his hairy chest and big muscles) would raise his grade. I took one look at him and told him we'd have to reschedule since he obviously didn't understand appropriate attire for conferences with his teacher about his academic work.

My answer remains the same: No. I'm an adult gay male and if you want to have sex with me, you should be an adult gay male, too. (Fewer complications that way.) Also, I pick my partners; having sex isn't a default action after we share a few friendly verbal exchanges in a public place. The other night, a faculty member at another university here in town invited me out for a drink after staring at my cock while fondling himself repeatedly (with the hand that had the wedding ring) in the YMCA locker room; I told him that would be impossible since (1) I have a boyfriend and (2) his behavior was completely asinine. He stumbled all over his words trying to explain that he was just being "friendly," but I wasn't having any of it--all puns intended.

Sheesh. Nut jobs are everywhere. Much larger percentage than 1%, IMHO. How about a foot-long barbecue fork, horribleperson?

NCbear (feeling some sympathy re: inappropriate/unwanted/high-pressure come-ons, but appreciating the subtle, respectful, or low-key compliments that come his way)
 

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NCbear said:
NCbear (feeling some sympathy re: inappropriate/unwanted/high-pressure come-ons, but appreciating the subtle, respectful, or low-key compliments that come his way)
Why is it that so many men, gay or straight, are so woefully incapable of communicating sexual interest in any way other then the blatantly crass? In my book, inappropriate behavior is unacceptable regardless of the genders or orientations involved. Asking to see my cock while I'm voiding my bladder is decidedly unsexy, grabbing my crotch as you pass by in a bar will get you nothing but my contempt, and if the most original line you can come up with is an inarticulate expression of your opinion regarding my sexual qualities, I cannot imagine that you could possibly be interesting enough to bother having sex with.
But luckily that's not ALL men, just the most visible portion of them.
 

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For me I completely disregard gay or straight prefrences of people... to each his own, I am completely comfortable around gay men, and maybe even more comfortable, because, you are less likely to be labeled and constantly judged and you can be yourself, i think it is unfortunate, childish, and illogical for people to be homophobic.
I posted pics on this site because I was curious as to how I would 'Measure up', so yes I wanted to be judged... what man is not curious about these things?
But, I also enjoy the Anonymity of being able to talk to anyone I please and not have to face harsh judgements.
 

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always been str8 here but recently have done a couple of things...but...for the men that are gay or bi to see my pics and have thoughts then i admit i am flattered. love to show it all for nice men who want to see and love to hear their comments. if they want to suck me and say so, i'm flattered...if they see my ass and say they want to screw me...i'm flattered! also i openly admit that given the opportunity...would allow most to do as they would like. same goes for any str8 or curious men that see my body...if they would like to try sex with it, then i'm flattered and glad they do so. i've shown in person with men before, nude, and even in lingerie...pantyhose, garte belts, heels...and have been asked to turn around, spread em and bend over and have...and loved it. i could, would and love it...walk into a room of 3-5 gay men and them see me undress and pose as they wish.
 

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why is it different then a straight dude looking at your cock in my gallery? Last time I checked the gallery was for PEOPLE to look at. I'm here to show it off so who cares who sees it (within the legal age requirement that is) heheh
 

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That is a good question.
I was not aware that this was a site that gay men enjoyed looking at other mens cocks when my ex g/f told me about when she she was having trouble taking mine.
Gay men like to look at my cock? Are you kidding me? This is shocking. Perhaps even lurid and true. lol
I have had my cock looked at and tried to be looked at as long as I can remember. I am not offended. Look away and i hope you enjoy the look. Like i have said, plenty of men see me in the locker rooms and I don't care. I can't imagine why anyone would want to look at me and like it so I am not offended if gay men look or not gay men look. I am me and there i am.
 

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I’m fairly new to this site but the reason I joined is because in reading, it seemed that this is not a pick-up joint or hook-up site. It seemed to have lots of members from all walks of life, no pun intended.

There were men, women, straight, gay, purple, blue and black.

I really liked that you can ask and give answers and no one takes pause and states “you’re a man, don’t look at penis”. I’ve really enjoyed my time and already have some great email pals.

Ps. I love penis!
 

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Actually what should be asked is how do the gay members feel about the str8 members...:biggrin1:
 
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I’m fairly new to this site but the reason I joined is because in reading, it seemed that this is not a pick-up joint or hook-up site.
It's not?? :surprised:

I don't mind who looks at my pictures. I think, that given the anonymity of this site, that a guy would have to be really uptight to worry about any gay guys checking them out. I mean what could happen, other than a stranger telling you that you are hot and they'd like to do unspeakable things with your body??
I don't mind the attention at all. Many people here tell me they have beat off while looking at my photos. For me, it's a turn-on to know that my gallery gets a few people horny.