how do u hit on a str8 buddy?

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  1. BigRoc008

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    i have a buddy that i hang out with that is totally hot. we have shared pussy in the past and i know he is just as hung as i am. as far as i know he is str8 but i want to suck him off so badly. so how do i bring it up to him that i want to be his cocksucker and not scare him off as a friend? he doesn't know that i am bi
     
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    If it was me, I'd respect the friendship and not hit on him...I've had this situation happen to me before. You could risk the friendship.
     
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    You don't hit on a straight guy. There is a reason he is straight. DO NOT make a move unless he brings up the subject of possibly being bi curious and what not... and then go from there.

    Is his dick, or your friendship more important... wait, nvm...
    don't hit on him, lol.
     
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    Unless he is admitting to some bi curiosity, I would pass on this. I know it's hard but I have found that it doesn't put you on equal footing, especially if you are a) the initiator and b) the cock sucker. He can always act like you are 'some fag who wants to suck my cock', which is not where you want to be.

    I put the moves on a friend, and yeah we got down, but ever since then he's been kind of weird; showing me videos of him getting blown (by any girl before me) or trying to rope me into a session with random kinky girlfriends he's hooking up with. As fun as that sounds, I can't get any alone time with the dick, so basically I'm just there to show some girlfriend a new kink or to be an audience. But basically, no longer a friend: No hanging out, no shooting pool, very little communication, nothing. He's too afraid to admit when he wants to fuck around with me, because after all, he's 100% straight right? So we never hook up alone and we never hang out. We are basically no longer friends. I actually grew bored with HIM. And guess what...when we did hook up alone he wanted to bottom for me! Pass.
     
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    Eerr leave him alone
     
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    My advice: don't do it. Fantasize about him if you want to, but leave it at that.
     
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    Eerr leave him alone

    haha
    EXACTLY what my thought response was ..20 mins after you
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    with op being 90% Straight and already having mixed it wi buddy i think
    just be str up and ask him op seriously i do think that would be the fairest approach fr you both
    have an inkling he could be flattered'
    there is the possibility he also has a hidden bi side..having shared pussy as you say
    i am envious haha
    GOOD LUCK
    yr call obviously but think yr at the right age fr him to accept str m/m talk
     
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    He won't respond to anything subtle you may do unless he knows there's a bit of a bi/gay side to you, so better off being honest and upfront about your sexuality in some sort of casual conversation if he doesn't already know. Nothing wrong with discussing with your buddy that you've had some conflicting feelings/thoughts lately.

    Finally, If it matters enough get it over and done with.
     
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    I think you can test the waters with some beer and porn on a friday night...see if he is embarassed or proud of his boner....get the convo started and see if he bites.
     
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    i've watched 2 different bi guys hit on 2 straight guys in the past and it never ends well. he's straight. leave him alone. a punch in the face often offends.
     
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    If the friendship is strong is there a possibility you could just ask him what he thought about it?
     
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    I think it's rude to hit on your straight friend. I will tell you why...it shows blatant disrespect and disregard for his sexual orientation. What if a female friend wanted to push you (if you were 100% gay) into being straight or acting straight just because she wanted her pussy ate? Would you respect her after that? After all she knows about you and your preferences?

    Being a gay/bi/straight man isn't all about sex all the time. We all realize the coveted straight man is a virtual unicorn and all. But it is for a reason. Respect who he is "bro"

    Just my opinion. Too much trying to talk people into doing things WE want them to do for our OWN pleasure and not enough consideration for the other person and how it might make them feel.

    BTW I went back and saw your percentage of 10% gay. I have a feeling most people who are 10% have a different comfort level with what they might do or try with a man. What if your friend is 100%? You'd know more than anyone else.
     
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    I agree with everyone who says don't do it! That being said, my first time I had any sort of sex with a man was with a friend who hit on me.

    Here is what happened. I went to a buds place, I had never hung out with just him before as we were just college bar friends. I went over to his place to watch a movie and drink beer. About 4 beers into it he starts talking about how often he jacks off and since I had been drinking, I freely offered up the same info without thinking. He then was talking about blow jobs and asked what I would if a man offered me a blow job. I said I wouldn't be interested. He said back to me that a mouth was a mouth and if I closed my eyes it wouldn't matter. Within a minute of that he was sucking my dick and I was loving it. I shot a big load of cum down his throat - realized that I had engaged in homosexual behaviour (out of nowhere) I shoved him aside, pulled my pants up and fled the house. I got back to my apartment and wrote him a scathing email about getting me drunk and taking advantage of me.

    I was majorly fucked in the head about that. I didn't have ANY sex for a year after that. Keep in mind this was the mid-90s in a small town and I thought I had contracted a disease just by being near a gay guy! I didn't know if I liked it or hated it, I would go to bed so upset knowing that I wasn't straight anymore. A year later I determined I was bi. A few years after that I saw the guy who blew me and I appologized.

    So what I am saying is - it was a bad situation!
     
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    I guess if he's rally straight don't hit on him. It's not really fair because I've had lots of people hit on me I'm not interestered in and I just nicely brush them off. I don't know why it's acceptable for a straight guy to punch another guy in the face for hitting on him rather than just nicely declining, but that's just the way it is. On the other hand, just blurting out to someone "can I suck your dick?" is pretty rude. You could try to figure out a polite way to let him know you're interested and ask if he was at all open to it. You risk losing you're friend though
     
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    Just bc everyone says no, I say yes. Although your friendship will be different from hence forth. I know from experience of losing a great "straight" friend bc my boyfriend tried blowing him while I was away on vacation. Still to this day I get unnerved, not bc I wouldn't be into it (3 way) but bc I was away visiting family. Well bc of my anger I didn't handle it the right way and didn't confront him outright but instead talked it out with friends (girls) "confidentially" I defended him as well bc I knew it was just a drunken fluke n no one got off (supposedly). Well, I don't have the same friend now bc people were saying he's gay for hanging out with me. So if you plan things out right it could work out...
     
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    I say don't do it unless you are willing to take the risk of losing him as a friend. You also need to let him know that you are bi, at some point. You shared pussy before. You have both validated each other manhood to one another. Maybe, you can tell him you are bi-curious. That might soften the blow.
     
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    Well, just start with telling him your bi. If that already means you'll lose him as a friend, he was never a good friend to begin with.
     
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    In my experience, you never really know what any guy will do sexually until he does it! So, I always let a guy make the first overture towards me and sex! I feel if it's going to happen, it will happen. When a guy moves on me, then I am agreeable, unless I sense that he is really not ready for sex with another guy!
     
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    All I can say is DONT! Unless you want to loose him as a best bud, enjoy the time you spend with him and thats all. Ask your self whats more important, his friendship or his cock? Best friends are hard to find.

    I had a buddy like that, we were like two peas in a pod, Close and had a blast when we were together, I made the mistake of confideing to him that I was Bi. Man things changed fast. he stopped taking my calls, text and any type of communication. I lost him, and I miss him. Guess he wasent a true friend after all.
     
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    You don't
     
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