Women. Are programmed to form an emotional connection to men we sleep with. It's evolution. Men are looking for mostly physical as it's all about procreation. Women need to form connections to men to stay with them to seek support and security. Hormones have a lot to answer for. When men are inside us it an be a physical sensation thing especially when you gently rub our clit. But mostly, it's the energy between us. The kissing and touching with his eyes rolling back and the toes curling. Most of the time, it's just one great big bonding experience.
You need to remember that sex for females means so much more. We have pregnancy and extra STDs that are more harmful to us than yourselves. We get socially conditioned to see it as a dirty negative thing outside of a loving relationship. Men like to remind us about this as they won't be with women who have lots of partners or who have slept with certain men. If a man gets a reputation for his sexual encounters, then he gets a crown. If a woman gets a reputation, even when it's not true, then she gets hate comments, jokes and sniggers, or she gets shunned. It really effects our psyche. It would be great if people just had an equal rule for both sexes. Even masturbation is an exotic taboo thing for girls. Although if you sit in on a girls only conversation to listen to us then you will hear that the hormones are just as much in play as they are with men. We are just taught to not share them with men and outsiders Or otherwise we are sluts, whores, perverts, creeps.
One thing people don't understand about women and our libido is how much say our hormones have. Menstruation effects how aroused we are. But what really affects a womans libido is contraceptives, antidepressants, and menopause. It makes you forget what sex is. They take any arousal feeling away and you don't even realise it. So if you do have sex it's because you love a person and want to spend time with them and have an erotic connection. As well as experiencing physical pleasure, as that won't stop just because there's no initial arousal. It's just the desire to have sex that is stopped at first by hormones. Once it happens, most women usually enjoy it even more.
Us girls got the short end of the sexual liberation stick by mother nature! We got the short end of a lot of things. There were women sent for lobotomies if someone claimed they were promiscuous. There are honour killings happening every day in countries because a girl has sex with someone they are not married to or to a man the other's don't approve of. They get burned alive in front of crowds. It's just a heavy question because sex means different things to different women.
We get the emotional high a lot better than men do I beleive when we have sex.
