How Do You Accept Being Cut?

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Hi Guys,
I got circ'd in late 2017 (low cut, no frenulum). Dr who did it was all for keeping as much sensitive skin as possible but I guess health reasons dictated how much foreskin I could keep. Also tried first line treatments.


Anyway, while masturbation has been good and I've had 1-2 really good blowjobs, what can I do to accept my circumcision? I find it hard to accept because:

1) Sex should be "natural" i.e. I don't need surgery to have it
2) Sex is meant to feel good and it's therefore hard to accept anything that may potentially take this away (and this can be other things than circ). In a way, I am greedy for as much pleasure as humanly possible.

Even if I am not looking, I here plenty of people who say that sex is crap after circ (but also the opposite, to be fair).

Sex toys and sex tips seem to be biased to being intact which creates isolation, as well as some toys I've tried so far have not done much for me (so it creates resentment and a feeling that I am impaired).


P..S. I do get counselling for this and other topics.
 

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Maybe it's because you're in England and I'm in the US, but sex tips and toys here are definitely NOT biased towards being intact! An otherwise very helpful store for toys and supplies (lube, condoms, etc.) came up short when I asked what kind of condom was best for an uncut man (me) who has had trouble with them riding up as the skin moves. I was kind of surprised.
 

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I think you need to put things in perspective. You didn't say the reason you got circ'd, but the implication is that your health demanded it. Given that you seem so resentful now, I am going to assume that you didn't do it for cosmetic reasons and now regret it.

As such, I guess I would say that if you hadn't had the surgery, you might not be having sex at all now. If things were bad enough, health-wise, you might be looking at a much more radical surgery, one that might have left you deformed, impotent, or worse. Perhaps you should look at the surgery as your savior, not your nemesis. Anyone can focus on the negative of a situation. It is often the mark of maturity to focus on the positive.

No one, and I mean no one, is ever going to definitively answer the circ/no circ debate. There will always be as many opinions as there are men on the planet. Do you notice sensation difference? Are you mourning the loss of part of yourself? Again, perspective. You can, as you say, still have fulfilling sex. There are many, even on this site, who cannot. There are those out there, who for health reasons, have to have a limb amputated, or a testicle removed. I think you might be grateful that medicine was able to help you with whatever problem you had, and left you in a working order that most of us who were circ'd at birth consider normal.

Go get hard, jack off like a monkey, and rejoice in your potency. You're a lucky guy.
 
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I got cut due to tight foreskin. However, this was behind the glans a fair bit and was caused to an inflammation (not bxo or anything). I had no visible swelling or pain etc, urinating was fine.

I wouldnt't say I regret it, the surgery was perfect, not botched in anyway, erections are not painful at all, etc. Although I have some degree of Ed and it is not yet known if circ caused it (though erections were fine before this).

I don't notice any sensation difference with masturbation. It is the same or better, and as I mentioned, largely driven by arousal.

Hmm I know people a lot worse off than me.

Also, I have constant insecurity about this keratinisation thing and that sounds like insult to injury and would kill sexual pleasure completely. It's a scary thought. I moistorise all the time now (if it makes any difference).

I guess I will just put into perspective that there are people far worse off.
 
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You know this already but for the sake of this thread. Being circumcised, it not being my choice, and actually given the circumstance of my birth, it shouldn’t have even taken place, messes with my mental state pretty badly, suicidal badly.

The only thing that helps me is restoration, which is a long process and requires a necessary consistency. I can’t and refuse to accept that what was done to me is OK, because it’s not, despite living in a country that treats it as nonchalant as getting your ears pierced. Actually, that’s not true, people are against infants getting their ears pierced here.

Even though restoration for me has been rewarding, and I highly recommend it for people in my situation, I fight low points and try to remain positive, but all of these are a struggle. I always keep my goals and end result in mind and know that when I finish, this will get better for me. Mentally, I make improvements everyday.

I know you are probably not considering restoration, but I am a cut man, and this is how I am coping and affected with being cut.

Our circumstances are different, but for me, grief is a very real and difficult thing to deal with regarding this.

With all that being said, and I am not a doctor, but it seems to me that your actual physical symptoms maybe psychological. True you will go through an adjustment period as you learn what works and what doesn’t, but your symptoms seem extreme.

I’m sorry you are having to deal with this and I sincerely hope it gets better for you.
 
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Hi Guys,
I got circ'd in late 2017 (low cut, no frenulum). Dr who did it was all for keeping as much sensitive skin as possible but I guess health reasons dictated how much foreskin I could keep. Also tried first line treatments.


Anyway, while masturbation has been good and I've had 1-2 really good blowjobs, what can I do to accept my circumcision? I find it hard to accept because:

1) Sex should be "natural" i.e. I don't need surgery to have it
2) Sex is meant to feel good and it's therefore hard to accept anything that may potentially take this away (and this can be other things than circ). In a way, I am greedy for as much pleasure as humanly possible.

Even if I am not looking, I here plenty of people who say that sex is crap after circ (but also the opposite, to be fair).

Sex toys and sex tips seem to be biased to being intact which creates isolation, as well as some toys I've tried so far have not done much for me (so it creates resentment and a feeling that I am impaired).


P..S. I do get counselling for this and other topics.


First, acceptance is the key. For whatever health reason you had a circ accepting that is your first step.

Secondly, it's not the end of the world or your sex life for that matter. It takes time to adjust to any change. Once you've become comfortable with your circ you'll begin to feel the pleasure that you think you are not enjoying now.

Speaking as a man who had this procedure performed ar birth. I can tell you that me glans is very sensitive as well as where my frenulum was. Probably one of the most sensitive parts of my dick aside from the glans.

I'd definitely be applying a good non scented moisturizer to my dick several times a day. Look at it this way. You've still got a dick that works just as it should. Gets hard, shoots off, and you can pee with it. It could always be worse imho.
Good luck to you.
 

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What is this moisturizing a cut dick all about? Sorry if this is kind of off topic, but why is it important to moisturize? Do you mean when it’s newly done? I was cut shortly after birth. Do I still need to do this twice a day? Never heard this before, can anyone enlighten me on this?