HyperHulk
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- May 12, 2007
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- Sydney, Oz
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- 50% Straight, 50% Gay
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- Male
Thank you so much for writing your response. I truly appreciate your thoughtfulness and candor. It really did make me think.
You're welcome. I understand you reaching out for advice. We do that all the time with our friends. I just want to share with you that it's not just about you. You are worried about dating etiquette and I don't think it matters. First, everyone has a different opinion, there is no right way. But also, if a guy rejects you because you called too soon or whatever, it's really not about that, it's more about the fact that that guy isn't ready for a relationship or you two aren't a match. And you can never really know or predict those things that people like or don't like. Of course this all assumes that you use common sense when dating and you don't come across as psychotic. You really just have to be yourself. Because eventually the real you will come out. So just be careful of trying to present yourself in a way that follows the script of someone from lpsg instead of your authentic self.
I think you have everything you need. You have a brain, you can communicate, your life experience gives you confidence and some self knowledge and you can read people to some degree. I think the biggest problem men have in relationships is emotional immaturity, whether they are gay/straight/bi or in homo or hetero relationships. That's the thing you have to look out for when dating guys. Find a guy you can relate to, who is honest and emotionally mature and you have a shot--anything else will most likely be filled with drama.
Good luck.