Ummm..... I have asked out maybe three people in my entire life and I'd like to know how to do it right. I met a guy this weekend who said it was OK if I wrote him and I'm wondering when I should, what I should say, is lunch or dinner a bad idea so soon, all that. I don't know if he's got a boyfriend or what the deal is with that and I'd like to find out without seeming as though I'm asking (does that even make sense ). Anyway, I think he's cute and he's very cuddly, and he's quite the hot bear. Should I strike while the iron is hot or is it too soon and too desperate? I was writing an email and this is as far as I got: Dear Cxxxxx, You are such a kind and giving person. I had no idea you gave me a present before you left on Sunday. It wasn't until yesterday morning that I discovered it so I apologize for not writing sooner. But it was at that first frisson, that first twinge, that first chill that I knew it had to be you. So tell me, how long does this cold last? Is it a runny nose cold or a chest cold? How bad does it get? I'm sitting on the couch with my ginger tea and Cold-Eze. They seem to be holding the worst at bay . Anyhoo, I'll be in the city next Friday, 12/5 and wondering if you'd like to get together for a late lunch or dinner. He really did give me the cold and I know it was him and he would know how and why too :wink: so I thought I'd go with that. Thanks!