Do you scare away the nice guys when you try to scare away just the jerks?
I see women here and other places on the Internet complaining about the jerks/losers/a-holes that contact them. Some women put things in their signature or profile saying "don't contact me to webcam" or whatever. I guess this is designed to get the jerks to stop bothering them. Does this really work? I mean when I see women complaining about guys contacting them I just figure they don't want to be bothered by anyone. It scares me away, but I'm a (self-proclaimed) nice guy. And most of the jerks probably won't read the "don't contact me" warning and contact a woman anyway.
I guess the same thing happens in the real world. If you dress too sexy, maybe you get attention from the wrong type of guys. If you dress more conservatively, you may get less attention from bad guys and from nice guys. Or maybe you aren't outgoing because you figure you don't want to give some guys the wrong idea, but at the same time you don't seem approachable to the nice guys either.
Does any of this make sense? What are your thoughts?
How do you attempt to attract just the guys you want to attract?
I see women here and other places on the Internet complaining about the jerks/losers/a-holes that contact them. Some women put things in their signature or profile saying "don't contact me to webcam" or whatever. I guess this is designed to get the jerks to stop bothering them. Does this really work? I mean when I see women complaining about guys contacting them I just figure they don't want to be bothered by anyone. It scares me away, but I'm a (self-proclaimed) nice guy. And most of the jerks probably won't read the "don't contact me" warning and contact a woman anyway.
I guess the same thing happens in the real world. If you dress too sexy, maybe you get attention from the wrong type of guys. If you dress more conservatively, you may get less attention from bad guys and from nice guys. Or maybe you aren't outgoing because you figure you don't want to give some guys the wrong idea, but at the same time you don't seem approachable to the nice guys either.
Does any of this make sense? What are your thoughts?
How do you attempt to attract just the guys you want to attract?