How Do You Be 'a Bisexual Man' Proudly?

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Hi guys,

I browse this site regularly to check out the hot guys but also because I find the position some of you are in to be really fascinating. I'm a gay guy with absolutely zero interest in females so when it comes to dating and living life, it's a pretty straightforward approach. I'm gay, people know what that means, they don't really care, nor do I. Everyone gets it and is happy.

I'm really curious as to how do you men, particularly those of you who are traditionally masculine and traditionally attractive to women incorporate your bisexuality or 'guy appreciation' into the narrative of daily life? How do you be authentic and genuine when the whole system supposed this part of you shouldn't or doesn't comfortably exist?

From the outside, it appears so lonely and isolating and I guess, a little dangerous, at least emotionally and relationship wise. So my question is, how do you do it?
 
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I’m a little older and most of the guys I talk to in my age range are not authentic in our day to day lives, not all for sure, but I would say on average.

Bi was not acceptable in society “ in my day”, so we look for outlets both on line and in person, struggle with guilt, concern with being outed etc.
 

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I don't have or enter into exclusive relationships. Except for marching on Pride Day I'm not "out" as bi though some friends know I am.

Sexuality isn't identity. Not for me. No pride is required to accept who I am.:cool:

Lonely? Not a bit. :sun:
 
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I mean there aren't really any external bi stereotypes, so it's kind of nice to be free to do whatever the fuck you want.

I can watch hockey with a beer and read a trashy gay romance novel through the commercials. I can bring home a girl and have our pillowtalk be a ten minute discussion of which is the hotter Hemsworth brother. I can suck my buddy's cock to get through excruciating super bowl halftime shows.

My only rule is not to be one of "those" bisexuals who cheats or runs off to the other gender the minute their dick decides it wants some variety. But y'know what? Everyone in a monogamous relationship has to do that so I hardly consider it a sacrifice.

Can it be lonely? Sometimes. Have I been turned down just for my orientation? Yup. But those are outliers in what is otherwise a freeing human experience to see all sides of the coin.
 

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I mean there aren't really any external bi stereotypes, so it's kind of nice to be free to do whatever the fuck you want.

Unless I misunderstood what you meant by "external bi stereotypes," there are a ton, especially for guys, and it's the reason a lot of "straight-passing" guys aren't out as bi, like the guy commenting above. They come from men and women, and from straight and gay people:

- Bi is just a phase
- You're not really bi, you're on the way to gay
- You're a slut and want to fuck everything
- You can't be monogamous
- You don't know what you want

Etc etc. Some not small portion of men and women won't date you because of bias and biphobia. It doesn't bother you (me neither--and that's great for us!), but it's terrible for bi people as a whole.
 
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Hi guys,

I'm really curious as to how do you men, particularly those of you who are traditionally masculine and traditionally attractive to women incorporate your bisexuality or 'guy appreciation' into the narrative of daily life? How do you be authentic and genuine when the whole system supposed this part of you shouldn't or doesn't comfortably exist?

From the outside, it appears so lonely and isolating and I guess, a little dangerous, at least emotionally and relationship wise. So my question is, how do you do it?

I'm unsure how being authentically bi is any different from being authentically gay. As someone said above, you own it. And you surround yourself with people who accept you for who you are.

I guess I'm confused by the question.
 

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Hi guys,
From the outside, it appears so lonely and isolating and I guess, a little dangerous, at least emotionally and relationship wise. So my question is, how do you do it?
Lonely and isolating not at all, once you have it squared in your head and are comfortable in your being, you find a wider range of people to have fun with.
Dangerous no worse than any other activity, for those who are married or in a relationship there are risks.

And how do we do it, you take the other guys cock n balls by hand and then ;):yum:yum:innocent: