Big is different in the minds of different individuals. I so well remember a beautiful guy I met years ago when I first started playing. I was infatuated with him no doubt. He had an absolutely beautiful 7.5 inch long cut cock that was just beautiful. I was so taken with his cock and remember at one point admiring it while sucking him, I said "you're so big.." He immediately said "it's not big.." Right away I felt I knew exactly what he was talking about. His cock wasn't big as in big around, it was long. Because of its length and overall impact to my eyes it was big though. BTW, he was the first guy to fuck my butt hole and the first guy I let leave his seed inside me. I'm still so glad it was him.
Years later comes the guy the ex-BF and I met who was from my workplace. He was a perfect 7 inches in length and a jaw dropping (not to mention jaw and hole stretching) 6.5 inches in girth. He was my first really thick cock, and I was in love with it. It was BIG in the truest and most pleasing sense of the word. It was any man's dream size and to just hold it in the palm of my hand was euphoric. Feeling it stretch my mouth to the point of feeling humiliated was more than gratifying. Then after a year of deliberating, to have my reluctant yet insanely horny butt hole welcome him so easily was mind blowing. The stretch was insane; yet somehow so right, and indescribable don't touch the physical and mental aspect of it. Sometimes the mental aspect of something can be more gratifying that the physical, as the mental can have far more control of the extent of the physical than I ever imagined. I haven't been able to get too far from him since the first time he took my hole.
So I tell the story, (again) to say in context of this thread that at least to me, big is just that, BIG. Long is that, long. Put the two together and you have a treat. I prefer big, or thick, over extreme length any day even though I never knock you John Holmes hung guys. Lol, that statement defines which era I'm from..
Nothing else like a big dick. Better yet a beautiful dick, no matter how big it is. I can say even though I love big ones I enjoy a small one just as much, and that's good in my book.