There’s so much BS in these posts.
First off, one isn’t a “ladies’ man” unless one is with the ladies. virgins, by definition, aren’t ladies‘ men.
Being a ladies’ man isn’t attractive to women. Beyond surface. We will generally think you are shallow or untrustworthy, a player. We do not wish to be played.
Secondly, alpha/beta do not apply to humans. It’s pack behaviour. Humans live in family units, troops for our primate cousins. Not packs. Unless you work with canines. Then you have to mimic a behaviour they understand.
Wolf behaviour does not apply to primates.
What a good man needs is confidence from within. Know your value, as a human, as a friend, as a family member, as a worker (no matter what you do from employee at the lower rungs to business owner), as a member of your community. Develop value, too. It can always increase.
Dick size matters to any degree only to men. And an outlier subset of women.
And submissive. Well, one needs to know when to give way in the work world, and maybe in family dynamics. But that isn’t submission. That is knowing when this battle is not what you deserve. When giving way now will free you up for later “wins.”
One version of this in my life is in a discussion that needs a resolution (via some change) with my partner. I often remind myself one can be always right, or one can be happy.
We both have great points and great views. But sometimes one needs to lead the dance. If our views aren’t harmful to either, or the relationship, I will ask myself if I want to be right or happy in this one thing. If my right will eventually make him happy (in whatever way).
If it’s a hill worth dying on, it’s a no brained, but most aren’t.
I’m not saying either of us are inherently fragile, but we have places of...inadequate mending in our pasts. I respect that in discussions/debates/arguments.
This can apply in business. I’ve decided strategically, that letting a supervisor or co worker have a “win” can mean better opportunities for me, and the project.
That said, I’m much better running my own small business, working with contractees.
I have to add, anal play, especially receiving, doesn’t make one sexually nor socially submissive. It makes you aware of something you enjoy.
Submissive is a state of mind, not an activity.