How Do You Convey Being Submissive?

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This may sound strange but I'm interested in knowing how us guys who aren't well hung give off the impression of being submissive? I'm not very confident due to my average\small penis size and want women to know it. See the thing is I'm a bit of a ladies man which makes this feel all the more frustrating, my penis size is the main reason im scared to pursue any woman or loose my virginity.. I'm not talking about being submissive like wanting to be dominated by women or fucked in the ass with a strap on more like how do you project the vibe that you're not a confident alpha guy? Walking with your head down? Avoiding eye contact?

Any tips? thanks.
 

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Penis size does not define how you interact with women.
Another human behaviour the internet has totally corrupted.
The fact is social media has conditioned people to be sheeple.
So whatever I say as a total stranger on a website should have zero effect on your behaviour.
 

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This may sound strange but I'm interested in knowing how us guys who aren't well hung give off the impression of being submissive? I'm not very confident due to my average\small penis size and want women to know it. See the thing is I'm a bit of a ladies man which makes this feel all the more frustrating, my penis size is the main reason im scared to pursue any woman or loose my virginity.. I'm not talking about being submissive like wanting to be dominated by women or fucked in the ass with a strap on more like how do you project the vibe that you're not a confident alpha guy? Walking with your head down? Avoiding eye contact?

Any tips? thanks.
Before I answer, are you looking for tips to better express your submissive nature to appeal to women that might be into it?( Pro tip: women on average, even the self proclaimed "dommes" dont seem to embrace the submissive actions of a man until after he has already established his status and dominance. They're not interested in submissiveness per se, more the power trip offered by a dominant man being secure enough to acquiesce his agency)
Or are you seeking to improve upon yourself so that you dont put out such a submissive aura?
 
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This may sound strange but I'm interested in knowing how us guys who aren't well hung give off the impression of being submissive? I'm not very confident due to my average\small penis size and want women to know it. See the thing is I'm a bit of a ladies man which makes this feel all the more frustrating, my penis size is the main reason im scared to pursue any woman or loose my virginity.. I'm not talking about being submissive like wanting to be dominated by women or fucked in the ass with a strap on more like how do you project the vibe that you're not a confident alpha guy? Walking with your head down? Avoiding eye contact?

Any tips? thanks.

Erm. Think you may be confusing -submissive- with lack o self-confidence. The two are very different things.
 

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This may sound strange but I'm interested in knowing how us guys who aren't well hung give off the impression of being submissive? I'm not very confident due to my average\small penis size and want women to know it. See the thing is I'm a bit of a ladies man which makes this feel all the more frustrating, my penis size is the main reason im scared to pursue any woman or loose my virginity.. I'm not talking about being submissive like wanting to be dominated by women or fucked in the ass with a strap on more like how do you project the vibe that you're not a confident alpha guy? Walking with your head down? Avoiding eye contact?

Any tips? thanks.


I think you're a little confused about the whole alpha big dick thing.

First, being an alpha is a state of mind NOT the size of your dick.
Second, there are plenty of women out there who are not into big dicks.
Confidence is something you have to have within.

Let me expound on this.
Being an alpha comes from being confident in yourself. Your ability as a productive man. NOT in how many women you sleep with. Sleeping with multiple women just makes you a, well you get the idea.

Having a big dick doesn't make you an alpha. Building confidence in yourself and how you handle yourself and treat others makes you an alpha. If you don't workout join a gym. Workout with weights consistently and that will help to boost and build your confidence as well as give you a healthier looking body.

If your dick gets hard, stays hard, shoots off, and you can pee with it. You have a normal functioning dick. The key to satisfying a woman is how you treat her outside of the bedroom. Giving her your full attention in the bedroom is going to satisfy her too. Your love making skills, how you touch her. How you respond to her que's during foreplay and love making is what is going to satisfy her. Giving her your full attention. She's the only thing that matters.
You putting her needs and desires ahead of your own she'll be leaving claw marks down your back. Because she'll know you're trying to please and satisfy her, she'll pick up on that and do the same thing for you. It'll bre some serious intense love making and the size of your dick won't be an issue, except with you.

Finally a lot of men are insecure about their dicks. Don't be one of them. Use what you have the very best you can. I've known plenty of men who are below average in the dick department who always manage to have some gorgeous woman they're involved with.
 

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This may sound strange but I'm interested in knowing how us guys who aren't well hung give off the impression of being submissive? I'm not very confident due to my average\small penis size and want women to know it. See the thing is I'm a bit of a ladies man which makes this feel all the more frustrating, my penis size is the main reason im scared to pursue any woman or loose my virginity.. I'm not talking about being submissive like wanting to be dominated by women or fucked in the ass with a strap on more like how do you project the vibe that you're not a confident alpha guy? Walking with your head down? Avoiding eye contact?

Any tips? thanks.

I think I get what you are asking. I also feel attracted the idea of people around me realizing that I am submissive or sexually neutral.
 

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I think you probably will be more successful showing your submissiveness once you're already talking to a woman.

But you should work on that, like playing role in front of a mirror. Because when the moment comes, your message should be clear. As if it was a job interview.

The fact so many didn't get it in this thread kind of shows you didn't articulate your feeling/intention well. Perhaps you don't know yet what you want. You'd better know by the time you meet a woman.

You don't want the same to happen when you do meet a woman, because you could lose an opportunity due to misunderstanding.

Now, before you two are already talking, you don't need to try to show signs you aren't alpha. Because you aren't an alpha. Alpha men just are. They're natural. You can't pretend to be one and they'd have difficulties trying to pass by something else.

I talk from experience, because I could always avoid alpha types. They're easy to spot.
 
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I think you probably will be more successful showing your submissiveness once you're already talking to a woman.

But you should work on that, like playing role in front of a mirror. Because when the moment comes, your message should be clear. As if it was a job interview.

The fact so many didn't get it in this thread kind of shows you didn't articulate your feeling/intention well. Perhaps you don't know yet what you want. You'd better know by the time you meet a woman.

You don't want the same to happen when you do meet a woman, because you could lose an opportunity due to misunderstanding.

Now, before you two are already talking, you don't need to try to show signs you aren't alpha. Because you aren't an alpha. Alpha men just are. They're natural. You can't pretend to be one and they'd have difficulties trying to pass by something else.

I talk from experience, because I could always avoid alpha types. They're easy to spot.


From what he describes "how do you project your not an alpha guy walking with your head down avoiding eye contact " most women would perceive that as being a pussy or being gay, imho.

What the OP describes is an oxymoron. He's a ladies man and a virgin. I think the OP is probably wanting to find some women who'll either be into sph or some other form of humiliation.

He's somewhat unsure or confused. Most women don't want some timid little man on initially meeting him. Most women are l attracted to men who are secure in who they are. Who are confident in themselves. What he describes he wants is going to have to come from an established relationship. Not some one night stand.

Of course there are women out there who'll be glad to be the dominant partner. But he'll have to be satisfied with what comes with that. Imho
 
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I'm not a woman, but I think the post above by Gj816 is excellent.

In brief: I would not want to get involved in the first place with a man who acts like a milquetoast or who advertises himself as having a small dick. However, if I have already become emotionally attached to you and, as it turns out, you happen to have a small dick, I would prefer that you have a modicum of common sense regarding it (i.e. not go strutting around as if you were blissfully unaware of the fact that you had a small dick). But that's just me.
 
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My penis size isn't that small although I'm quite insecure about it and to be honest I'd rather be alone the rest of my life than be humiliated or dominated by women. I don't get off on the idea of being a woman's bitch or cuck. I'm sure there's others who feel the same as I do.
 
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There’s so much BS in these posts.

First off, one isn’t a “ladies’ man” unless one is with the ladies. virgins, by definition, aren’t ladies‘ men.
Being a ladies’ man isn’t attractive to women. Beyond surface. We will generally think you are shallow or untrustworthy, a player. We do not wish to be played.

Secondly, alpha/beta do not apply to humans. It’s pack behaviour. Humans live in family units, troops for our primate cousins. Not packs. Unless you work with canines. Then you have to mimic a behaviour they understand.
Wolf behaviour does not apply to primates.

What a good man needs is confidence from within. Know your value, as a human, as a friend, as a family member, as a worker (no matter what you do from employee at the lower rungs to business owner), as a member of your community. Develop value, too. It can always increase.

Dick size matters to any degree only to men. And an outlier subset of women.


And submissive. Well, one needs to know when to give way in the work world, and maybe in family dynamics. But that isn’t submission. That is knowing when this battle is not what you deserve. When giving way now will free you up for later “wins.”

One version of this in my life is in a discussion that needs a resolution (via some change) with my partner. I often remind myself one can be always right, or one can be happy.
We both have great points and great views. But sometimes one needs to lead the dance. If our views aren’t harmful to either, or the relationship, I will ask myself if I want to be right or happy in this one thing. If my right will eventually make him happy (in whatever way).
If it’s a hill worth dying on, it’s a no brained, but most aren’t.
I’m not saying either of us are inherently fragile, but we have places of...inadequate mending in our pasts. I respect that in discussions/debates/arguments.

This can apply in business. I’ve decided strategically, that letting a supervisor or co worker have a “win” can mean better opportunities for me, and the project.
That said, I’m much better running my own small business, working with contractees.

I have to add, anal play, especially receiving, doesn’t make one sexually nor socially submissive. It makes you aware of something you enjoy.
Submissive is a state of mind, not an activity.
 

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If I understand the OP correctly, I believe he is asking how to convey that he has a lack of sexual experience and that he either needs someone who will be patient and understanding or perhaps give guidance. I am not sure how one would convey that upfront non verbally, though. If that is the intent of the question, I would suggest two things: 1) good communication with a partner who has demonstrated patience, understanding and compassion or 2) seek out similar partners. Such a partner may also be a virgin and who would admire and respect your virginity. This could be a more religious or conservative person or simply someone who highly values virginity.
These pieces of advice are more geared toward developing a relationship than having a one night stand, obviously.
 
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The whole "alpha male" thing for wolves got changed to like, "alpha couple" age ago, but a lot of desperate to seem bad ass dudes still cling to that n act like the "alpha male" is the norm + applicable to humans, an dont even get me started on the stupid calling dudes who aren't the same as them "beta" or "cucks" etc.

David Mech's Theory on the Wolf Alpha Role

Dude who leads with their dick size or bein' a virgin (or not) status is a big no. Personality, interests, etc are more important, especially at first. Sexual compatibility (to a point, as a generalization for vanilla folk) can be learned.

Had a lot o BDSM partners, n those who were submissive didn't lead by being meek, submit to anything rugs to be trampled upon. Personality n a spine first, power play later. Ass play isn't inherently dominant or submissive.
 

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This may sound strange but I'm interested in knowing how us guys who aren't well hung give off the impression of being submissive? I'm not very confident due to my average\small penis size and want women to know it. See the thing is I'm a bit of a ladies man which makes this feel all the more frustrating, my penis size is the main reason im scared to pursue any woman or loose my virginity.. I'm not talking about being submissive like wanting to be dominated by women or fucked in the ass with a strap on more like how do you project the vibe that you're not a confident alpha guy? Walking with your head down? Avoiding eye contact?

Any tips? thanks.
Pretty easy, if you’re naturally submissive you give off those signals without you knowing. I know I pick up on cubs wanting me to Dom them.
 

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This may sound strange but I'm interested in knowing how us guys who aren't well hung give off the impression of being submissive? I'm not very confident due to my average\small penis size and want women to know it. See the thing is I'm a bit of a ladies man which makes this feel all the more frustrating, my penis size is the main reason im scared to pursue any woman or loose my virginity.. I'm not talking about being submissive like wanting to be dominated by women or fucked in the ass with a strap on more like how do you project the vibe that you're not a confident alpha guy? Walking with your head down? Avoiding eye contact?

Any tips? thanks.

Don't worry about it. Women know. Some want that, others, probably most, don't.

You are automatically compared to all the other men that have approached them.
 
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