I have this problem with my partner right now.
I LOVE sex
She likes sex
We both LOVE sex with each other, and when it happens the sex is usually great. I make her squirt, her legs shake, her skin tingle and she makes me cum so hard that my mind shuts down and I get so weak that I can't move. But she just doesn't like sex in general as much as I do and therefore we don't have it as often as I like. I don't understand why this happens.
We have sex just about everynight. But when we have sex, its not the "Hey babe, come fuck the shit out of me" type of sex. 80% of the time, its the, "Ready for bed? OK" *she smiles* *awkward silence* and then one of us asks, "so can we have sex?" type of sex.
This makes me feel like i'm a pervert. Like some type of deviant. It makes me feel like somethings wrong with me because she doesn't share what I share. I don't think I'm dangerously hyper-sexual. I'm just a young guy who likes to have sex with my partner. Sometimes I like it kinky (the weirdest thing I like to do is to lick her ass, but I don't think that too weird) and sometimes I like it really romantic. But I always want to feel like my partners wants to fuck me. And when the relationship first started, she did! We fucked like crazy. But now, it feels like she doesn't feel that way. And that makes me feel unsexy and that I'm mentally ill for wanting sex way more than she does.
Now I do understand that we're busier than we used to be and that's a legitimate reason for why we don't have sex like we used to do. I really do understand that. But I wish she felt that desire, that ambition, and even that frustration that I feel. But she doesn't. She just doesn't mind it. She cares that its affecting me like this..... but she doesn't care enough to do anything about it.
It's not that I ask for everything to be perfect, but its no where near close as I think it should be. I just want to feel sexy to her. Sexy enough to make her want fuck me with no questions asked.... to jones for me like I jones for her.
I know that is a lil bit of an unrealistic request, but I know that a lil bit more effort from her would go a really long way.