This isn't the best place, I know, but I need some advice here, as I find it extremely difficult sometimes to deal with my own family. Remember, this is all form my viewpoint, no one elses.
The problem is this. I have a family that they claim I spend to much on the computer, they don't bother looking at what I do on the computer, they don't bother thinking about (or so it seems) what I do in my life style and I don't know how do describe myself, even though I am fustrated as hell at the moment. The thing is, I am very negative, so ofcourse, I am going to say nasty words about myself.
Basically, my family would probably say I am manipultive, a pain in the arse, an abuser, self centred and unstable (stressy), even though in other high pressure enviroments, people would probably think otherwise.
My sister is one of those girls I find it very difficult to get on with, rather like Aluminium with Iron. When it goes wrong, it goes wrong big time.
This is how I see her, she annoys me a lot of the time, I get angry about a lot of things, because I am always repeating myself and its just annoys me to repeat myself. I never had a phone in my room and because we have a house exchange system, put in by my father, which I found a waste of time, he expects to call people down, by pressing a button on the phone. If he wants to call me down, it would be from the bottom of hte stairs, "RUSSSSSSEL!!!!!", if I don't respond, he will yell my name again, then shout to the top of his voice. Everytime that happens, I have to ask "why the fuck can't you come upstairs, knock on my door and call me down for dinner?", so far, I haven't had a reasonable response.
My sister is exactly the same, except she calls me down, in the same manner when she wants her or my mums computer fixing or for anything else. Usually when I am in the middle of something too, which is EVEN more annoying. 3D graphical work or researching on the net, or mindless looking on the net, or even writing a thread like this, which requires a high degree of concerntration. My usual response is one minute. Oh wait, I get yelled at 10 seconds later, because it is "THAT" urgent! They expect me to attend to their needs instantly. And what about if they want me todo something simple? Oh no, thats URGENT as well, that comes at the top of my pile, it has to because they say so. What about homework? No, no, thats right down the bottom of the pile, so if I am doing homework, that right at the bottom of the pile, I am not allowed to finish it!
What about if I don't respond? Well, I get a load of knocking noise from right under the floor. So I can't escape it. Ofcourse, I can't say anything about my sister using the TV 24/7, watching pop music, then not let anyone else use it, then pumping up the volumme that one day, we'll get an ASBO for having the volumne up too load.
Added to that, if she is in a heated argument, if she wants to get her own way, it is usually "kick her brother (me)" time, or punch me. However, the last time she did that, she almost broke her toe. Its quite difficult when you have learnt karate and also told to defend yourself, as in this family, you can't. Women are allowed to kick, men aren't, even if the woman starts the fight. So basically, I am stripped from all defense abilities, as I get into the shit if I try.
And then, if I don't do something, like her bed, I tend to get name called and "sent to coventry", which is really annoying, especailly when you try to get an answer out of them. One time, I was asked to make my sisters bed, I was talking to a friend on skype, so she says "Russell, could you make my bed for me?"
"no"
"Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease?"
"no"
"Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease?"
"no"
"Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaad!"
Therefore, doing that, she opens herself up to a lot of stick, which she doesn't like. although, she won't accept it was her own wrong doing.
Finally, she is that lazy, she always has to ask me to get her something, usualy a combanation of the above to get me motivated, even if its on the table, she wont get it, even when I say "do it yourself", she wont and again, I get a load of name calling, abuse, etc.
So, I got an uncontollerable sister that doesn't say no, is idle, goes to college 3 days a week, drinks a lot, etc. I'll explain more. My parents are useless when it comes to this (I feel). Firstly, they won't interviene, if we are fighting, usually, dogs get upset. Secondly, even if we tell them of each others wrong doing, she gets results, I don't.
Basically, my fathers as useful as 2 tits in the sky and my mother is as useful as a sleeping doll. (I.e. Sleeps a lot, on the sofa usually.) And she is always complaing about being a till operatior and how draining the work is.
This is the same person, that wait for it:
Expects to go out drinking every other day
Expects a lot of JD and coke. (bearing in mind, I don't drink).
Expects to have £200 rock and repulic jeans to go to every party, then buy another pair for another party, equally expensive fashion top and Stelletos, all paid for by my father. And hang around with friends that are far less well off as her.
Expects her dad to ferry her everywhere, because she can't be bothered to use public transport (even though she has to go to college on a bus an train, she wont use the bus outside of college).
Expects her dad to pay out for her driving licence, lessons and tests.
And a brand new car.
And god knows what else.
and she hasn't got a job, nor do anything voluntary. Whereas, I do a 6 day a week voluntary work in a shop and have done for the past 2 years, just so I can get a part time job and afford my own things. Its not working as well. But with my disability, I am shamefully claiming Disbility Living Allowance, which I feel gulty of claiming, which I feel shameful of mentioning it.
One day, I do feel I might end up committing suicide as I just cannot cope when things go wrong as there seems to be no fairness, I can't move out as I don't earn enough to rent out and live on my own, I haven't got another place to go thats out of everyones way, so I am trapped.
(And don't say we are rich, we aren't!)
Suggestions? Mods, please do delete the post if it is inappropiate.
EDIT: For gods sakes, don't tell me to drink (I refuse to drink alcohol), don't tell me to take drungs (ditto with drink), don't tell me to get laid (I don't have a girlfriend) and don't tell me to get a girlfriend (Why bother? If I am that "unlivible" with my own family.). Oh, dont tell me to get a life (I don't have one anyway, its been robbed by someone else)
The problem is this. I have a family that they claim I spend to much on the computer, they don't bother looking at what I do on the computer, they don't bother thinking about (or so it seems) what I do in my life style and I don't know how do describe myself, even though I am fustrated as hell at the moment. The thing is, I am very negative, so ofcourse, I am going to say nasty words about myself.
Basically, my family would probably say I am manipultive, a pain in the arse, an abuser, self centred and unstable (stressy), even though in other high pressure enviroments, people would probably think otherwise.
My sister is one of those girls I find it very difficult to get on with, rather like Aluminium with Iron. When it goes wrong, it goes wrong big time.
This is how I see her, she annoys me a lot of the time, I get angry about a lot of things, because I am always repeating myself and its just annoys me to repeat myself. I never had a phone in my room and because we have a house exchange system, put in by my father, which I found a waste of time, he expects to call people down, by pressing a button on the phone. If he wants to call me down, it would be from the bottom of hte stairs, "RUSSSSSSEL!!!!!", if I don't respond, he will yell my name again, then shout to the top of his voice. Everytime that happens, I have to ask "why the fuck can't you come upstairs, knock on my door and call me down for dinner?", so far, I haven't had a reasonable response.
My sister is exactly the same, except she calls me down, in the same manner when she wants her or my mums computer fixing or for anything else. Usually when I am in the middle of something too, which is EVEN more annoying. 3D graphical work or researching on the net, or mindless looking on the net, or even writing a thread like this, which requires a high degree of concerntration. My usual response is one minute. Oh wait, I get yelled at 10 seconds later, because it is "THAT" urgent! They expect me to attend to their needs instantly. And what about if they want me todo something simple? Oh no, thats URGENT as well, that comes at the top of my pile, it has to because they say so. What about homework? No, no, thats right down the bottom of the pile, so if I am doing homework, that right at the bottom of the pile, I am not allowed to finish it!
What about if I don't respond? Well, I get a load of knocking noise from right under the floor. So I can't escape it. Ofcourse, I can't say anything about my sister using the TV 24/7, watching pop music, then not let anyone else use it, then pumping up the volumme that one day, we'll get an ASBO for having the volumne up too load.
Added to that, if she is in a heated argument, if she wants to get her own way, it is usually "kick her brother (me)" time, or punch me. However, the last time she did that, she almost broke her toe. Its quite difficult when you have learnt karate and also told to defend yourself, as in this family, you can't. Women are allowed to kick, men aren't, even if the woman starts the fight. So basically, I am stripped from all defense abilities, as I get into the shit if I try.
And then, if I don't do something, like her bed, I tend to get name called and "sent to coventry", which is really annoying, especailly when you try to get an answer out of them. One time, I was asked to make my sisters bed, I was talking to a friend on skype, so she says "Russell, could you make my bed for me?"
"no"
"Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease?"
"no"
"Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease?"
"no"
"Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaad!"
Therefore, doing that, she opens herself up to a lot of stick, which she doesn't like. although, she won't accept it was her own wrong doing.
Finally, she is that lazy, she always has to ask me to get her something, usualy a combanation of the above to get me motivated, even if its on the table, she wont get it, even when I say "do it yourself", she wont and again, I get a load of name calling, abuse, etc.
So, I got an uncontollerable sister that doesn't say no, is idle, goes to college 3 days a week, drinks a lot, etc. I'll explain more. My parents are useless when it comes to this (I feel). Firstly, they won't interviene, if we are fighting, usually, dogs get upset. Secondly, even if we tell them of each others wrong doing, she gets results, I don't.
Basically, my fathers as useful as 2 tits in the sky and my mother is as useful as a sleeping doll. (I.e. Sleeps a lot, on the sofa usually.) And she is always complaing about being a till operatior and how draining the work is.
This is the same person, that wait for it:
Expects to go out drinking every other day
Expects a lot of JD and coke. (bearing in mind, I don't drink).
Expects to have £200 rock and repulic jeans to go to every party, then buy another pair for another party, equally expensive fashion top and Stelletos, all paid for by my father. And hang around with friends that are far less well off as her.
Expects her dad to ferry her everywhere, because she can't be bothered to use public transport (even though she has to go to college on a bus an train, she wont use the bus outside of college).
Expects her dad to pay out for her driving licence, lessons and tests.
And a brand new car.
And god knows what else.
and she hasn't got a job, nor do anything voluntary. Whereas, I do a 6 day a week voluntary work in a shop and have done for the past 2 years, just so I can get a part time job and afford my own things. Its not working as well. But with my disability, I am shamefully claiming Disbility Living Allowance, which I feel gulty of claiming, which I feel shameful of mentioning it.
One day, I do feel I might end up committing suicide as I just cannot cope when things go wrong as there seems to be no fairness, I can't move out as I don't earn enough to rent out and live on my own, I haven't got another place to go thats out of everyones way, so I am trapped.
(And don't say we are rich, we aren't!)
Suggestions? Mods, please do delete the post if it is inappropiate.
EDIT: For gods sakes, don't tell me to drink (I refuse to drink alcohol), don't tell me to take drungs (ditto with drink), don't tell me to get laid (I don't have a girlfriend) and don't tell me to get a girlfriend (Why bother? If I am that "unlivible" with my own family.). Oh, dont tell me to get a life (I don't have one anyway, its been robbed by someone else)
