How do you define being gay?

[dufus]

Assuming you masterbate (and who doesn't?), do you fantasize about the naked male body or the naked female body? If you are gay, internalized homophobia can make you find gay sex to be repulsive. However, if you fantasize about the naked male body when you masterbate, chances are you are gay and you will eventually overcome being repulsed by gay sex. If you fantalize about the naked female body, you are straight. If you fantalize about both, you are probably bi.

 

[B_caneadea]

Answer these to see if you might be gay.

When double dating with Tom, do you find youself thinking more of spending the night with him after taking the girls home?

When attending a football game do you look at the players asses rather than the tits on the cheerleaders?

When shopping for clothes and in the underwear section, do you enjoy looking at the pictures of the models on the package.

Do you find yourself going in the dressing room/locker room at the public pool
more often in hopes of seeing some dude nude?

When getting the Sunday newspaper you immediately go to the entertainment section rather than the sports?

Does your VHS/DVD library have more musical titles than dramas?

Do you ever walk behind a guy in the mall or on the street and wonder if he is boxers or briefs?

Do you know all the lyrics to "Hello Dolly" or "Mame"?

If so, you're probably normally gay.

______________________________________________________
Hmmmm.
I answered yes to only 3 out of 8.......

 

[spl98006]

• As bisexuality consists of interests to both gender, "percentages" of interest are ambiguous at best and seem arbitrary to most parties other than the person in question. Furthermore, percentages of interest may not be valid or reliable measures.

Thank you, Dee! You are a wise man indeed.

This is exactly why I dropped the % from my profile here - I just couldn't come up with a number that felt like it totally explained me.

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

This has already been well-covered but I have to add this: concern yourself less with labels and more with what feels good. Find out what you enjoy, decide what you are later. I like men and women, the % in my profile has less to do with what's going on between my ears and more to do with the fact that I've been faithful to the same man for 5 years.

 

[davidjh7]

This has already been well-covered but I have to add this: concern yourself less with labels and more with what feels good. Find out what you enjoy, decide what you are later. I like men and women, the % in my profile has less to do with what's going on between my ears and more to do with the fact that I've been faithful to the same man for 5 years.

And a very lcuky man he is!! I wish you both many more years of love and happiness!

 

[salinger]

for me, the percentage was about stating that if i go to a club i'm just as likely to go home with a girl as i am a guy, and more often than not would be happy with either. i don't think it's an even split as far as preference goes.

 

[jman03]

i say im bi but it depends on who im in a relationship with at that time, the dude im talkin to has a 10.5 inch cock and he knows how to hit it so im gay right mow, but DL i guess cause i still like girls, i juust like him givin me the dick

 

[Davyd18]

Gay is how you think about yourself not really just what you do. The best sex I have is when a bud and I gang up on my gf, well now ex gf cos I moved away. It's just about pleasure and the scene.

I think about cock as much as pussy, but whenever I've gone one to one on him before and some other guys, I felt weirded out afterward, not guilty just sort of embarrassed when I think about it afterward.

I'm rock hard when I suck his cock, but I my close eyes when I do it. When he sucks mine, I like to watch him though and comb my fingers through his hair and stuff.

Just my opinion.

 

[Bryan_Lyte2]

Do you really want to know if your gay? If kissing a gay man passionately in public and where your family can see dosen't bother you, than you are so gay. I could never do that....well.. . I'm still working on it myself.

 

[tgomp]

This is a basic description of what I find sexually attractive. Does this make me gay, or am I still straight? Or am I bisexual? Or none of the above? In a nutshell, a woman is the only person who I would ever engage in sexual activity with, but the sight of a penis is still a turn on. Hence, what am I?

I think what u describe explains alot of young men, whether they admit it or not. I personaly am mostly attracted to women, however from time to time a guy comes along who i find to be attractive. Sleeping with men is another story, thats something i dont picture my self doing. At least at this time.

 

[BBB2.5]

Searching for others peoples definition on being Gay will not tell you if you are Gay. Only your acceptance of this will define it for you. You will know if you are Gay or if you are not. So Take life as it comes to you. Don't try to stop it, if it's how you are meant to be then you will live it.
:tongue:

 

[Sabln7]

As one of the older people on this group, I must say that my percentages of gay and straight have changed through the years. I am married. When I married, at quite a young age, I had no idea that I had feelings for men. I had some experiences with boys when I was young (circle jerks, etc.) However, all of my intense emotional premarital sex was with women. After I married, I worked with a guy with whom I began having sex. Then, gay sex was a very infrequent situation--off and on. When I was about 35, I met and fell in love with another man. The sex with him was greater than any I had with anyone. I was ready to leave my wife and be with him. (He was also married, and we both finally decided not to leave our families. He has since left his spouse, however, and he now lives with a man.) I have stayed with my wife, but our sex life no longer exists even though I consider her a great friend. All of my sexual affairs now are with men. For the last four years, I have been exclusively with another man who is also married. He considers himself straight....I don't know how. I consider myself gay, but because I am married and have kids, the 20% straight continues to appear on my profile. Bottom line, I don't know what straight or gay are. I just know that I have been all over the map in terms of the two definitions. By the way, I envy Lex and his open relationship with men and his wife's understanding of it. My wife probably knows on some level that I am seeing men, but we just don't talk about it.

 

[deleted3782]

Labels are for soup cans.

Just enjoy what you are attracted to and don't sweat what to call it.

 

[hardboy_fll]

Labels are for soup cans.

Just enjoy what you are attracted to and don't sweat what to call it.

I completely agree. Labels, schmables!

 

[Paul Vincent]

Hey everyone, this is my first post here. I stumbled upon this site from a simple google search.

Anyway, I have a serious question for anyone who can maturely answer. I'm a college kid and I've always thought that I was totally straight. I've never had a girlfriend, though, but do have several friends who are girls that I like. However, I do have a sort of curiosity about other guys' penises. Sometimes I wonder how big someone else is, or wonder how their penis looks like compared to mine. I DO find an erect penis sort of a turn on, but at the same time, a beautiful woman to me is the best sight in the world. However, I would never dream of (nor do I have the slightest desire of) having sex with another guy or ever doing anything totally gay like that.

This is a basic description of what I find sexually attractive. Does this make me gay, or am I still straight? Or am I bisexual? Or none of the above? In a nutshell, a woman is the only person who I would ever engage in sexual activity with, but the sight of a penis is still a turn on. Hence, what am I?

Sorry for nearly writing a book, but I really want to hear some of your opinions. Thanks for your help!

I wonder about guy's sizes too, although seeing a cock isnt a turn on, usually a surprise, or relief depending on its size...And I'm as straight as they cum

 

[barron]

Searching for others peoples definition on being Gay will not tell you if you are Gay. Only your acceptance of this will define it for you. You will know if you are Gay or if you are not. So Take life as it comes to you. Don't try to stop it, if it's how you are meant to be then you will live it.
:tongue:

BBB2.5 speaks wisely.

 

[chrisj428]

I can say that, while I knew what I enjoyed, I wasn't able to define it myself until my senior year in college. I have been with women and men -- the only thing that turned me on when I was with a woman was watching how I turned her on. The experience didn't do much else for me.

When I masturbate or fantasize or dream, it's about men.