How do you define being in love?

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  1. bek2335

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    I got the idea to ask these questions just now as a follow-up to another thread. My question is : How do you define being in love? How many times in your life have you been in love? How old where you the first time you fell in love?
     
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    Easy, you will be thinking about and trying to do everything to make your partner(s) happy before doing things for yourself.

    I have fallen in love 3 times in my life and I am 44.

    The first time when I was somewhere 12-14. I remember that feeling.
     
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    id define it as when u ache to be around that person. iv only been in love once and it was when i was while i was 17 and 18
     
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    I'm 25. I don't think I've ever been in love.
     
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    When we have sex, he makes me quiver all over.
     
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    I've been in love 4 times, once in absolute love and the others were definately unrequited but if the love causes you to cry then that is what defines it for me.
     
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    I've been "in love" a few times. But I think it's real love when it's equal and reciprocal. Also it's a combination of physical, emotional and spiritual connection. I also think that the feeling of being in love needs to mature over time. The initial feeling is usually over-the-top and out of control.
     
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    Love is a new feeling for me, and I'm still trying to get used to it. It is a scary, but beautiful thing. But so far I would have to agree with your definition of love. When the thought of losing someone your with can make you cry, there's something powerful there.
     
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    I am 37 and I don't think I have never been in love.
     
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    You took the words out of my mouth.
     
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    There are many symptoms of being in love. One of the commonest ones is that you are "blind" to his/her flaws. You can only see the good things about them.
     
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    In love for the first time ever - head over heels. I just cannot explain it, he makes me less selfish and Im concerned about him in addition to myself.
     
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    A few times. It realy messes with my head when it's over. In Fact I never realy did get over it.
    but another definition which my callous friends have: It's when your stomach turns upside down and pumps your head full of crap.
     
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    When all you can think about is of that person and there is nothing more important in your life than make him/her happy! Your whole world spins around that someone! When you pray, everytime that person leaves, that he/she would be protected because you cannot picture yourself living without him/her. Eventhough it is not true! When the reason you chose that person is beyond his/her body, cock/boobs size, bank account, etc. That's why I love the man I am with today and God willing, forever!
     
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    If you canot see the flaws, then it is not the real LOVE just yet. The real love will see all flaws, but they are all forgiven.
     
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    True. I need to use my brain than my heart.
     
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    That was a very good point. I agree with you. Hmm, I am standing corrected...
     
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    Thanks everyone for the posts. I am enjoying the various answers.
     
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    1. Never felt the need to define it. It just is what it is.
    2. Two maybe three. I am begining to have my doubts if I was really in love the last time or if I just had strong feelings.
    3. I was 19. He helped heal my broken soul and taught me to trust and love again after having been raped.

    I feel bad for you, that is so sad. :frown1: No one should go that long without experiencing the joy of love.


    That's an orgasm. Don't feel bad, people often mistake great sex for love. :tongue:

     
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    Wow, that is so trivial a truth and yet it leaves me totally intrigued. Food for thought. I think love and sex make a sort of spectrum. Often it is hard to say where the one begins and the other ends. Another trivial truth, after all. :smile:
     
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