I can say what is not friendship to me....
-It is not real friendship when You fuck or do sexual things together!I am sorry but this is sick!a real friendship shouldn't have sexual concerns.It always turns out to be troubled in the end...
-The basis for a long lasting friendship is that there's no attraction between each other.This doesn't mean you have to go out with ugly people,but there MUST be very good reasons not to be together: you are not attracted,you are not interested in getting more etc. If there is attraction,one day you find yourself in love of in bed,depends on the situation!it never works!
-A friend is not the one you see and hear once in month/two months.It is not true that this factor is not important. A relationship,for its own nature,must grow with you everyday.This doesn't mean you have to go out together every day,but not even once in a long while,but if you are live very distant.At least a good friend feels the need to call you as soon as he can.I am always suspicious of those who call me every 2/3 months.They're not people I could count on if I were in need...
-A friend is not just the one you go out with everyday.You can go out with someone everyday just for many reasons: you don't have anyone else,you jut appreciate to go out in sort of good company,you feel the need to talk to someone etc. I find myself out with people just not to stay at home or just because I don't dislike their companies or want to laugh a bit.But friendship is something far deeper....
-A friend is not the one who calls you or asks you out once in a while and starts talking about his/her own problems almost without letting you talk about yours.I knowmany people who are so!Friendship is an exchange,not a monologue made by two people.
-A friend is not the one that if you are in need or if you feel very bad,they are not there for you.A true friend would listen to your problems also at 3am just to make you smile and a bit less sad.
-A friend is not the one who hides you things.A good friend is an open book and has no secrets and no off topics or taboos for you!
Does it make any sense to you?;-)