How do you express love in a relationship?

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  1. Principessa

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    This topic came up when chatting with a friend the other day.

    How do you express love in a relationship? What I mean is, other than the obvious answers of sex, hugging, kissing, cuddling etc. What do you do for your bf/gf/hubby/wife to show them that you love them?

    For example:
    • Even though dad has Parkinson's, walks with a cane, and is no longer driving, if I am not with them, mom will drive up to the pump and dad get's out to pump the gas. They have lived in Georgia 4 years and my mother has never pumped gas!
    • I enjoy cooking. My friends can tell how much I like a guy by the elaborateness of the meal I prepare. :redface::wink:
    • I have also been known to clean and organize a boyfriends apartment and closet.
    • My mom won't cook anything she doesn't like, and she hates rhubarb. Every year when it's in season, she makes dad a strawberry-rhubarb pie because she knows he loves it.
    :love: How do you express love in a relationship? :love:
     
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    Never stop doing the little things. Open the car door, hold out a hand when she is stepping down...sending random flowers. That's how I do it, anyway.
     
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    I just try to constantly be enthusiastically supportive of my friends and those I care about. I want them to do well and be the happiest they can be.
     
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    Darn near every night my wife forgets her night-guard and I traipsy off down stairs to get it.

    I can't think of anything else that you might consider "special" because the rest comes naturally. We hold hands in public and at home but that is normal everyday stuff for us.
     
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    I get up early to make him breakfast before he has to go to work.

    I call his mother, father, and grandmother so they won't be worried or miss him while he's out to sea.

    I travel six hours on public transportation just to empty his mailbox.

    I cry.

    I'm sure there are other ways.
     
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    I let her cum first.
     
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    This is an interesting question. I have travelled in Europe a great deal and straight men, as well as gay men there are more touchy/feely than their American counterparts. How about you guys, when u are with your best friend how much touching do you think is appropriate to covey affection of emotion, what is the norm? What do women think about men that are free with their feelings toward other men?
     
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    I notice the things he does for me and say thank you.

    I listen to his problems and only give advice when asked.

    I am the best mother I can be to our daughter.

    I support him, his dreams, his goals.

    I do things for him I don't really like because I know how much he likes them.

    I tell him I love him, I respect him.
     
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    It's difficult to know how to express love if you've never recieved it.
     
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    I put up with his Doctor-in-residency hours. I share a bathroom with him and i buy the toiletpaper.
     
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    Little things, big things. Physical things, emotional things. I'm sure my (our) list could go on and on.

    If I had to define it so succinctly?
    I do whatever I can to ease, enrich and protect my partners' life, as often as possible.
     
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    Pets the cute puppy and gives him his favorite kind of rawhide. :smile:
     
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    when i'm in a relationship i do the best i can to be selfless and give emotional support. i also understand that i have to make compromises and sacrifices. a lot of times i'll do random things to make my partner happy just because... oh i also cook too (because i love cooking anyways). and no matter what, i always put my pride aside when i know i'm wrong...

    gosh... no wonder i like being single so much... it's less work :tongue:
     
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    There's a book by Gary Chapman called "The Five Love Languages" that describes the different ways people express their love. The general categories are: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch

    It is much easier to fall in love with someone that speaks the same 'language' as you. But if you express your love with, for example, Gifts, and the other person responds more to Quality Time, it can seem to the other person that you don't really love them.
     
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    I pull her hair and I pester her relentlessly.


    ,,,
    but mostly...

    I work like a dog, swallow my pride, let go every hurt... and choose everyday, to see her with the same eyes with which I first saw her.
     
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    It really does come down to just this, doesn't it?
     
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    I dont know yet. I will tell you when I do...
     
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    I listen.
     
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    hugs in the morning

    hugs at saying goodbye

    hugs at meeting up again

    gazing straight into their eyes, before and after kissing

    hugs before and after kissing
     
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