How do you feel about a bi guy??

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  1. XplorYourBody

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    or at least partially bi if there is such a thing? Would this revelation make you run, turn you on, turn you off, say "hey let's have a three way", indifferent, or what? opinions please ...gracias
     
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    Ladies...LOL...not even a negative comment?...LOL
     
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    Interesting... (the silence).

    Maybe you could reword the TITLE of the thread to something more controversial. E.g. Can a bi guy ever be faithful?

    Personally, I wouldn't want to be with a bi guy. I was married to a guy for 10 years before he came out of the closet as gay... so I guess he was, in reality, "bi" the whole time we were together. And as soon as he stopped being "bi", it was all over. So, for me it's "Once bitten, twice shy."

    And in my humble opinion, women are "nesters" -- they want to feel like their man belongs to them. If a guy truly is bi, then how can a woman actually "have" the guy? How can he ever be faithful with all those yearnings toward the other sex?
     
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    that is a god damn shame
     
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    I don't think you can ever "have" someone in a relationship. They must freely give themselves to you.

    If a bisexual man loves a woman and wants to be only with her, why can't he be faithful? If the relationship is only about sex, then it's rather shallow.
     
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    If he was going to be faithful to me it wouldn't bother me one bit, we can be lots of things but we don't have to exercise those parts of us.
     
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    I may be living in a fool's paradise, but I agree as well.
     
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    MercurialBliss and SP, you are totally correct.

    ANd while I logically I agree with you (it's like, Duh, of course that's so), my emotions "scream" differently.

    I'm actually facing a SLIGHTLY similar thing with a current bf (I just found out he was a little more "bi" than I thought) -- and I'm actually glad you spoke up because I'm prone to knee-jerk reactions, and maybe I do need to rethink this one. :wink:
     
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    I think many of the bi-guys here are uberhot. I would absolutely do a 3-way with 2 bi-guys. that's actually a fantasy I have had for a while.


    Prior to joining LPSG last year I would have said, "No WayJose! I do not want to date a bi-guy even casually." Now that I have had the opportunity to chat to some of the bi-guys privately I have changed my mindset...sorta. I would date a bi-guy but I don't think I could marry one. :frown1:


    Then one of my fave bi-guys said something in a thread a while ago which REALLY bothered me. He said he has been happily married for X years and has not been with another woman since they before they got engaged. However, he has frequently been with men during his marriage.

    That's a problem for me. Call me petty, insecure, silly, whatever; I could not marry a man KNOWING that I would never be enough to satisfy him. :redface:

    I feel like a narrow-minded twit saying that but it's true. :frown1:
     
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    Aaaaah! njqt466... you're reinforcing all my fears!!! :wink:
     
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    All men are different hotmilf, if they're a cheat they're going to cheat whatever their sexuality is. If they're an honest guy their sexual orientation doesn't alter that.
     
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    I'm sorry that wasn't my intent. Don't listen to me, I'm crazy ask any of my ex-boyfriends. :tongue:
     
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    Perhaps the OP can help me out...

    OK, Mr. XplorYourBody... I have two questions for you...

    A) How "bi" is he? (Let's say my bf hasn't had anal sex with men, never wants to, but HAS had oral sex with 4 men in his past. Hasn't done it for about 8 years, no "huge" desire to do it, but WOULD do it in a three-way... IF I ASKED HIM TO DO IT.)

    B) Would YOU be able to be faithful to one person, one sex in a meaningful relationship with a person? Or would it drive you nuts?
     
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    You're right, you're right... I know I'm neurotic... (Have you ever considered being a counsellor?!)
     
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    Wow...pretty much had written this one off...lol

    I guess ultimately I was wondering if the double standard was in place here too. Assuming the women frequenting this website may be... say more liberal?? Of course all the responses are from straight women so far too. Are there any Bi woman out there who have an opinion? This is also hypothetical and I am not ready to spring this on some poor unsuspecting female if you were wondering.

    hotmilf to your questions:

    A) OK let's say...could you live with that? I mean most guys(hetero guys anyway) fantasize about two woman together and most woman do not share that fantasy about two guys or a 3-way with two guys who interact, although there is plenty of porn to support it.

    B) Yes- assuming there is a robust sex life in the relationship, not filled with inhibitions, hang ups etc...
     
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    I concur with these statements
     
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    Sorry to hear that, I would never choose a guy over you :wink:

    I am more talking about devulging that info at the beginning of the relationship, not duping anyone.
     
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    Being bi does not necessarily mean that you need to be with either sex. It means you're open to sex with either sex. Do I still find guys hot when I'm in a monogamous relationship with a girl? Yes, but I'm also just as attracted to other women as I was before I was in the relationship. Does this mean I would cheat on my girl with either sex? Of course not (although I'd love for her to share my attitude in the bedroom- the more the merrier :D ).

    hotmilf, your dream guy may be 100% hetero (like yourself), but I guarantee you that if you expect ANY guy to lose all attraction to other people when they're with you then you'll be waiting forever. We all lust, gay, bi or str8, in a relationship. Not all of us cheat.
     
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