How do you feel about a bi guy??

[Not_Punny]

Thanks, XplorYourBody. What you say makes sense... I was overreacting, and it's good to get your input. (Ooooh, that has a double meaning!) :wink:

 

[Not_Punny]

hotmilf, your dream guy may be 100% hetero (like yourself), but I guarantee you that if you expect ANY guy to lose all attraction to other people when they're with you then you'll be waiting forever. We all lust, gay, bi or str8, in a relationship. We don't all cheat.

Thanks wingnut84... wow. Everyone is being so helpful tonight... (dab tissue to my eyes) (I'm actually saying that seriously)

 

[XplorYourBody]

Thanks, XplorYourBody. What you say makes sense... I was overreacting, and it's good to get your input. (Ooooh, that has a double meaning!) :wink:

No worries HM this thread was meant to be thought provoking and stir emotions.
double meaning?? sounds gooooood!:biggrin1:

wingnut-that was very eloquent and hits the nail squarely on the head.

 

[wingnut84]

Aww... shucks :redface:

 

[Principessa]

I am more talking about devulging that info at the beginning of the relationship, not duping anyone.

It's gotta be shared at the beginning. Not the first date, but from the moment you realize you are going to be intimate / exclusive.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

I love the idea of man/man, however i do admit in not sure how id handle it in a relationship. I think i would be open to exploring his sexuality as long as he was honest about it and i was part of it. If i was to find out that he had gone off alone and had an affair with a man id be gone instantly

 

[diamond]

I actually have no issues with Bi sexuality.......Given that, it really depends on the level of bi sexuality for me. If the guy just likes the idea of sucking cock, or needs to have intercourse with another male, on a purely physical level ( ie no mental connection) than I wouldn't have any issues with it.
Some of my male friends are bi sexual and they always say it's like a craving for chocolate, at times you just need to get that fix.
Basically if it's just lust and physicality not a problem, but if it were a mental and emotional connection, I wouldn't be able to deal with it and hence pass on such a relationship.

 

[Principessa]

The bottom line which hotmilf and I have agreed on is bi-sexual does not equal cheater. Just as many gay and straight guys cheat, if not more. This is because of a flaw in their character not their sexuality. :smile:

 

[submit452]

Interesting... (the silence).

Maybe you could reword the TITLE of the thread to something more controversial. E.g. Can a bi guy ever be faithful?

Personally, I wouldn't want to be with a bi guy. I was married to a guy for 10 years before he came out of the closet as gay... so I guess he was, in reality, "bi" the whole time we were together. And as soon as he stopped being "bi", it was all over. So, for me it's "Once bitten, twice shy."

And in my humble opinion, women are "nesters" -- they want to feel like their man belongs to them. If a guy truly is bi, then how can a woman actually "have" the guy? How can he ever be faithful with all those yearnings toward the other sex?

All you have to do from my point of view is give him some gay porn and lube and let him have his gay thoughts, but be sure he's monogamous only for you.

 

[Kenyth]

That's a problem for me. Call me petty, insecure, silly, whatever; I could not marry a man KNOWING that I would never be enough to satisfy him.

Very good and valid point, never really look at it like that, I guess Im bi eventhough Im leaning more towards gay and mostly identify myself as gay to other people. Being with a girl and being with a guy is completely different, its just not comparable at all. You can compare two different guys or two different girls, but you just couldn't compare a guy and a girl, well mainly sexually of course.

All men are different hotmilf, if they're a cheat they're going to cheat whatever their sexuality is. If they're an honest guy their sexual orientation doesn't alter that.

I used to think like you SpoiledPrincess, but maybe Im starting to feel differently. As above, no matter how much Im inloved with a guy and how much they satisfied me sexually etc, I will never get from him what I can get from a girl. And if my sexual attraction is not just purely what he can offer me than maybe we are not a good match!!!??? I don't know, this is really confusing for me too. To find my best match, does that mean I need to find someone with both sex (eg transexual) in order to fully satisfied my 100% attraction to both sex!!!??? (No, Im not really attracted to transexuals, just trying to work out a theory.)

Maybe bisexual is not best suited in a 2some relationships, and are better suited for 3some or poly relationships??? I mean I do know of many 3 or plus member relationships, they do seem to work for those people.

Maybe we are just too ingrained into our head from years of religious culture to only think narrowly that only 2some relationship works and are the ‘norm’???

I mean ‘bisexualism’ is relatively a new concept, even though it has been around for years since human existence, maybe now that we have a better understanding and acceptance of bisexualism, we also need to understand bisexual people have a different need for relationships.

Maybe we are seeing so many problems with people having 2some relationships is because bisexuals tried to fit into the “society’s norm” by having 2some relationships even though clearly its not a relationship type best fitted to their sexuality.

Maybe relationship like sexuality is very diverse. The ‘norm’ shouldn’t just be your traditional relationship: ‘man & wife’ always of similar age or the male older, similar background, religion, race, status, etc.

Sorry, it seems that I’m raising more questions than I have answered any in this thread. But I’m starting to get a bit confused myself, and am seriously thinking after reading this thread. I have my fair share of relationship troubles and now I’m single, so maybe it’s a good time for me to really think about this before I rush into another relationship……….

What do you guys think????

 

[Principessa]

All you have to do from my point of view is give him some gay porn and lube and let him have his gay thoughts, but be sure he's monogamous only for you.

That may be enough for you but it may not be for many bi men.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

I guess also a large contributing factor to how i felt about it would be how regularly he wanted to be with the other man. If it was an occasional (say once every 1-2 months) id be fine but if it was every night i would probably get intimidated and insecure that i was not enough to satisfy him sexually myself.

 

[Matthew]

I think you raised some interesting points and put a whole new twist on the discussion, kenyth. I wonder how many other bisexuals feel like you. Of course I'd guess many do still prefer to be monogamous with their partner of whichever gender.

 

[Act2_Begins_Now]

I have evolved.

There was a time where I thought two men was not such a good thing. But in the last six months or so I have changed my mind. What started it was seeing a picture of two men and a woman. It was very sexy. Ever since then I kinda like it. It is not a must have, but definately a wouldn't mind.