How do you feel about asian guys?

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My Asian-American friend recently have told me his story with Grindr and says how there are guys out there who blatantly say "no asians and blacks" or some sort of racist things in their pages. He also says that there are others who fetishize certain races and exclusively go after asians, blacks, latinos, etc. only for sexual matters, and I understand how hard it must be for him to find the right partner. Are there any gays out there who think they can have a serious relationship with an Asian man? And is it true that there is a "hierarchy" of asian nationalities in terms of preference? I want to hear your thoughts.
 

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Just a regular caucasian guy here.... my take on this is who cares what you are as long as you are attracted to each other. Otherwise it's just blatant racism.

I can't speak to the whole hierarchy question. Hopefully that's just not true
 

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You cannot control your attractions, but you can interrogate those attractions to determine if there are biases involved in them. If you are truly operating from a place of no prejudices or biases, then you can still have an awareness of the physical characteristics that get your dick hard without ruling out the possibility that someone outside your typical zone of attraction might unexpectedly turn your crank one day.

Personally I find many Asian men extremely attractive, yet my history of relationships have included two very long term relationships with white dudes and some good shorter-term relationships with Asian men, and a wonderful year with one particularly hot Latino guy before his job moved him away. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
 

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I like men.
All that really matters is what’s between his ears and what’s in his heart. I’ve dated the rainbow through the years.
I’ve seen all those things online. I don’t know if in the context of a hookup a guy asking for a certain thing (BBC, Twink, Daddy) is staring a preference or being racist. I suppose it’s fodder for conversation but I would be cautious about casting aspersions. Perhaps he just has a fantasy to fulfill.
In a large city I picked up a paper that advertised many ladies seeking a date and I was surprised to see how many said no “AA” in their ads. I literally had to Google it to find out what it was. I was curious to learn the story behind this.
 
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I like men.
All that really matters is what’s between his ears and what’s in his heart. I’ve dated the rainbow through the years.
I’ve seen all those things online. I don’t know if in the context of a hookup a guy asking for a certain thing (BBC, Twink, Daddy) is staring a preference or being racist. I suppose it’s fodder for conversation but I would be cautious about casting aspersions. Perhaps he just has a fantasy to fulfill.
In a large city I picked up a paper that advertised many ladies seeking a date and I was surprised to see how many said no “AA” in their ads. I literally had to Google it to find out what it was. I was curious to learn the story behind this.


What does AA means? Alcohol Anonymous?

I’m attracted to all types of guys, doesn’t matter what race they are. I’m looking for a particular personality type that I want in a guy.

Just yesterday, while on lunch break at a job. I saw this drop dead gorgeous African guy waiting in line and could not get my eyes off of him. He resembled Tyson Beckford but darker, younger and less bulky. His skin was beautiful, totally blemished free and dark as night.
I usually don’t check out guys that blantantly but i was day dreaming of myself dropping on my knees and sucking him off right and there.

My first crush was on a Cambodian guy, purely for his good looks. He was absolutely gorgeous, tall, wide shoulders and had a square chiseled jaw line to die for. I saw him again a few years later and his face looked round and wide, he didn’t look like he gained much weight but that perfect jawline of his was gone.

I have always had a thing for men with dark hair and eyes, I think they look sultry and sexy as fuck! I can’t stand men with long hair or with bleached platinum hair. Totally turned me off. And ironically enough, met this German guy at university with long hair and his natural hair colour was much lighter than most blondes. Totally fell for his presence and his square chiseled jaw line. He was the first and only guy (that i met so far in my life) that I could see myself in a long term relationship with. Sadly, he had a girlfriend back in Germany. Whom I saw a photo of her in his wallet and she was plain as a slab of wet dough. I knew i really liked him when I got jealous of seeing his girlfriend’s photo. i totally fell for his kind eyes, warm smile and the square chiseled jawline of his.
 
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What does AA means? Alcohol Anonymous?

I’m attracted to all types of guys, doesn’t matter what race they are. I’m looking for a particular personality type that I want in a guy.

Just yesterday, while on lunch break at a job. I saw this drop dead gorgeous African guy waiting in line and could not get my eyes off of him. He resembled Tyson Beckford but darker, younger and less bulky. His skin was beautiful, totally blemished free and dark as night.
I usually don’t check out guys that blantantly but i was day dreaming of myself dropping on my knees and sucking him off right and there.

My first crush was on a Cambodian guy, purely for his good looks. He was absolutely gorgeous, tall, wide shoulders and had a square chiseled jaw line to die for. I saw him again a few years later and his face looked round and wide, he didn’t look like he gained much weight but that perfect jawline of his was gone.

I have always had a thing for men with dark hair and eyes, I think they look sultry and sexy as fuck! I can’t stand men with long hair or with bleached platinum hair. Totally turned me off. And ironically enough, met this German guy at university with long hair and his natural hair colour was much lighter than most blondes. Totally fell for his presence and his square chiseled jaw line. He was the first and only guy (that i met so far in my life) that I could see myself in a long term relationship with. Sadly, he had a girlfriend back in Germany. Whom I saw a photo of her in his wallet and she was plain as a slab of wet dough. I knew i really liked him when I got jealous of seeing his girlfriend’s photo. i totally fell for his kind eyes, warm smile and the square chiseled jawline of his.

In the context of those ads it stands for African Americans.
Some of the ad posters we clearly AA themselves so I’m at a loss to explain it. BTW, the ads were women posting and being gay it was just a way to pass time.
I would be interested to hear an explanation from guys who are experienced in this area.
I don’t claim an exhaustive knowledge of gay sites or ads but I don’t recall seeing this in an ad. I have seen a lot looking for BBC, which I also had to Google the first time I saw it.
Back in my old cruising days I didn’t really care as long as he was a bottom or versatile. Don’t get me started on “total top” guys - typically way too much attitude. Lol Sorry guys, just my experience, no harm intended.
 
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I happen to like south east Asian guys and dated one for a couple of years whom I met through work, and have had sex with a few others, and so my experience with them is good and I happen to like how 'some' of them look. I'm not aware of a 'hierarchy' at all?

But I've dated a Zimbabwean, white dudes, a greek guy and other nationalities, so I don't think I fetishize any - its a case of 'am I attracted to this guy' which factors in so many different things and partly on how I meet them (ie do I get to know them first and end up fancying them, or have I met them casually and its been a case of 'phwoar, i'd like to fuck you'.

anyone who specifically excludes someone based on nationality or ethnicity is restricting themselves and may be racist as well.
 

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I don’t think it’s necessary to publicly state your dislike of an entire race. The problem here is that having that up communicates that you think and believe every single man of that nationality / look is all the same and you immediately flag that as being “unattractive”. The consequence of that is men of those races feel they are inferior and basically publicly called out as unattractive, which is where the problem lies. You get a few more men putting that up and all of a sudden you construct a value within our community that “Asian men are unattractive and undesirable”

It’s ok to turn down men you’re not attracted to but to put that kind of line up, in my books, makes you a close minded asshole. It’s simply unnecessary.

We’ve been conditioned as a community to think a certain physical appearance is “hot” and a lot of this stems from the imagery we’re constantly fed - think of the gay models, popular insta gays etc: you see and you’ll notice they all look the same. What gets fed to us is to believe this ideal that the 10/10 desirable men all look like that when we need to open our minds and expand tastes to cover all races, sizes, heights etc:
 

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I always find it ironic that the guys that have things like that posted are pretty average and below. I think it's best to respect people's wishes but let me say this, I am black and I think the guys that hit me up the most are usually nonblack which is my first preference. I've even looked on some of the guys profiles that have contacted me and it will say something like "no blacks" and I always find it kind of funny. Either they forgot they had it there and have changed their preferences or they never really meant it to begin with. Sometimes I'll bring this to their attention and they usually change it but more often than not I ignore them after I see something like that because it gives me some insight about their personality that I don't care for. On the flipside I do have my own preferences which are athletic, masculine and hung 8+ inches. I've never excluded anyone based on race and have had the opportunity to date guys in a wide variety of races and ethnicities.
 

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If I got to know an Asian man whom I really resonated with, I would not write him off as relationship potential on principle. However, the preferences I observe in what "trips my trigger", so to speak, are clearly racially coded. Only rarely am I attracted to Eastern Eurasian men. The odds of my running into one of those rare exceptions, and on top of that him being the sort of person I click with, are extremely low.

And is it true that there is a "hierarchy" of asian nationalities in terms of preference?

I don't believe there are objective standards to that effect.

OTOH, what we identify under the umbrella of "Asian" is possibly the most diverse of our racial groupings, and therefore for individuals to have their own preferences among them would make sense. And I have some sense of this being the case for myself. For example, I'm more likely to find a Kashmiri man attractive than a Malay.
 

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My Asian-American friend recently have told me his story with Grindr and says how there are guys out there who blatantly say "no asians and blacks" or some sort of racist things in their pages. He also says that there are others who fetishize certain races and exclusively go after asians, blacks, latinos, etc. only for sexual matters, and I understand how hard it must be for him to find the right partner. Are there any gays out there who think they can have a serious relationship with an Asian man? And is it true that there is a "hierarchy" of asian nationalities in terms of preference? I want to hear your thoughts.

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