How do you feel about older Men?

[MAJORBD]

I've been dating a guy who is 30 years old and I'm 48. I take very good care of myself and workout regularly. This guy calls me over to fuck him on a reg
basis, but has made it very clear he doesn't want a boyfriend. He claims its due to his busy schedule,
but I know of 2 guys he dated for over 2 years.
Does that big of an age difference scare off most gay guys?
I have guys in their early twenties hitting on me all the time.

 

[BikerBear]

There is 12 years between my husband and me.... So, no. If you love/like each other, enjoy it for what it is. Nothing better than to have a regular fuck buddy.

 

[MAJORBD]

That's all its been. A good regular fuck buddy, but I eventually
want more, like him moving in with me, etc.

 

[KennF]

I hope there is more for you, too.

But if he's not into exploring a relationship, then you're either going to have to accept that your a good fuck buddy, or move on.

My suggestion, invite him out for dinner and try socializing with him...then go back to his place and fuck around. Make it more than just sex and see where it goes.

Here's hoping for you!

 

[KennF]

Oh... and I am older than my husband. When I was in my 20's, it was a BIG deal. Now in my 40's, pssash, you gives a damn, as long as you're happy together. Age is a bigger issue for the young.

 

[milwjocknow]

I would say he is telling you loud and clear how he feels about you as a partner. You may be a good fuck bud, but not 'partner material' for him.

Maybe you should gravitate to one of the young guys who is always hitting on you.

 

[Panoptik]

I'd love to find a sophisticated, educated, non-sleazy, and fit man in his 40s. Sadly, the men in that category I've met are aiming for young 20s twinks. :-/

 

[k1819]

I love older men. From early 40s to early 60s, and everything in between.

 

[davidjh7]

I have seen a certain phenomenon along these lines, where the younger guy is attracted to the older guy physically, and often mentally and emotionally as well, but doesn't want the stigma of having an older boyfriend. Basically, they are embarrassed to be seen with the older guy. If this is the case, move on. People should be free to follow their natural attractions whatever they are without judgement, but that's not the world we live in. As others have said, he doesn't want you as a boyfriend, just a hot fuck, so either accept him on his terms or move on. He has made his position clear and you have to accept that.

 

[sam_alna]

I've been dating a guy who is 30 years old and I'm 48. I take very good care of myself and workout regularly. This guy calls me over to fuck him on a reg
basis, but has made it very clear he doesn't want a boyfriend. He claims its due to his busy schedule,
but I know of 2 guys he dated for over 2 years.
Does that big of an age difference scare off most gay guys?
I have guys in their early twenties hitting on me all the time.

I'm certainly not scared off. I've always only been into aggressive dom top daddies and grandpas who are way older than me. I love the age difference. I'm 30 and am into 45 and over. I love being overpowered, abused, humiliated, pissed on, cummed on, fucked hard, tied up, etc. Whether it's by one dom top or by a group of them.

 

[pewpewlazers]

It depends how personal/close you two are, but it sounds like he kinda just calls you when he is horny and that's it. However if you guys get along well but he still seems distant then it might be your age, or he's "embarrassed" to be seen with someone much older.

I really don't understand that though, if there's good chemistry and two people like each other, why should age matter?

 

[MAJORBD]

Thank You Guys. Deep down I know what you're saying is
true. I guess I just wanted confirmation. Oddly enough the
guy I'm talking about, told me he loves me last night. I
think he just loves getting pounded!

Btw, Panoptik if you are ever in the Missouri area, send
me a message. Your body and physicality are exactly my
type!

 

[wappingite]

Hi OP, you sound like a great guy, and I'm sure there are plenty of guys of various ages who would want a relationship with you. Sometimes, it's better to move on from fuck buddy relationships when they become imbalanced, and one side wants more. He's just into the sex, and there's nothing wrong with that. However, it's not good for you emotionally to be thwarted if you want more out of it. Why put yourself though that? Find a situation where the feeling is mutual. Good luck to you.

 

[sparky888]

love older guys

 

[erratic]

He tells you he loves you while you're fucking him, but that he's not looking for a relationship when you're not? And you want him to move in with you eventually?

It sounds like you guys are in very different places. I mean, even if he loves you, it sounds like he's not interested in a relationship-relationship. How would you feel about telling him that, as much as you love your arrangement, what you're really looking for is something more?

More to your original question: I have a lot of friends who are around your age and keep fit. They all say they have guys around my age and younger hitting on them all the time. I know when I was dating, I usually aimed for men seven to ten years older than me or more - precisely because I was looking for relationship material (and because I was never really physically attracted to guys younger than 25-30)(I mean, they can look great and all, but they're not my thing).

 

[invisibleman]

I have no problem with older men.

 

[Trevor]

That's all its been. A good regular fuck buddy, but I eventually
want more, like him moving in with me, etc.

That is all a lot of gay men want. Contrary to popular belief gay men who want to set up house with another guy, or go somewhere where it is legal and get married are a minority. A lot of guys just want a fuck buddy to get off with.

It might not have anything to do with the difference in age. After dating those two guys he may have decided he prefers NSA.

 

[Infernal]

When I was younger I was only interested in guys my age or younger. I felt that life experiences between myself and someone older wouldn't really equate well so we wouldn't have anything in common. Now years later, I'm married to a great guy who is 9 years older than I am. Who would have thought ? I'm 44, he's 53. He was married, has three adult children and grand children - I would have never been interested before, but growing up and opening my eyes a bit changed all of that.

 

[Hotlatbtm]

You are one hot man MajorBD. Wish I was in MS

 

[AlexDB9]

I don't mind older as long as they're not stuck exclusively in the "looking for younger" thing.