How do you feel about taking a guy's virginity?

[D_Botchely Boneher]

morescode, school was fucking miserable for me. It was an all-boys school to boot, and I never socialized. That pretty much explains why I've gotten so out of whack. That and my being chronically unemployable for various reasons.

What's your story? PM me, brother. It's good to hear about someone in a similar situtation, though I won't hesitate to say I hope it gets better for us both sooner rather than later.

 

[D_Ed69s girl]

I'm completely inexperienced when it comes to sex, which, I know, for someone of 21 is considered rather odd these days. I don't have much of a problem with it.

The only hassle is that at my age, it's simply expected of you to have had sex, etc. etc. and I'd feel a little nervous about telling a prospective girlfriend.

How would any of you women feel about being a guy's first? We all know that the majority of women always say they find confidence attractive, but we all need a gentle introduction. Ideally I'd like a lovely woman to allow me to explore her body and get aquainted with it. I'm very much concerned with pleasuring a woman (eating pussy has been the biggest fantasy for me for years), and it would really be heaven to have a woman show me what she likes and sort of coach me to be her perfect lover. What are the chances of this? Do women mind showing a guy what they like? Do they just expect it? Surely not!

Let me know your thoughts, whether they're positive or negative.

Thanks for the time.

I don't know what others had to say cause I never read them. But I was my hubby's first and It was the best expereince of my life. I had been with three other guys who were expereince before him and hated it. They treated me like a piece of meat. But for my hubby he was gentle slow and took every moment in. My pleasure was just as important as his. It was wonderful. The thing was I really didn't know myself so you could say we are exploring our sexuality together. Don't let media stereo typing give you a bad impression of what women expect. There are those of us that see a virgin male as great potential.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

It was my best talent in highschool. I think some of the best sex i had was with virgins. There was only one that didnt seem to grasp the rhythm thing naturally, but all the rest could have fooled me.

 

[SassySpy]

I never actually thought of it as "taking" a guy's virginity- as it really would have had no influence anyway on whether or not we would have sex. The only influences would have had to do with attraction and caring and the things that matter to me regardless of the man in question's experience.

That said, my husband- who I love beyond belief and find the sexiest man ever- and I have incredible sex with-- was a virgin and well over the age of 21 when we met. I still teasingly accuse him of being a liar about his sexual history, but only because he is just.. well... the absolute best and I am amazed he had never 'been there' before me- not even kissing, making out, etc. either, as he too, is rather shy and not one to be overly sexually confident.

He is an avid reader, he researches anything that interests him, and he knew a lot just from that. Also together naturally we continue to learn. Great school btw. :wink: And some more experienced men I have been with seemed to think every woman likes exactly the same thing and orgasms exactly the same way and thinks his experience made him 'better'- NOT.

I'm glad however my husband isn't interested in casual encounters, (especially now that we're married!) tho there was a time I think he would have, if he could have, ya know? Opportunity just didnt occur while he walked around with the perpetual erection.... :biggrin1: it does now!

Good luck to you, you are sure taking the right steps by writing on here and asking questions. It immediately increases your level of attractiveness, and hopefully, your self-confidence.

 

[powerbook06]

By nature I'm very quiet and keep to myself. I'm not particularly good with people, and am a little scared of being humiliated if I'm to be honest. It's not particularly wonderful being a man in this position.

This reminds me something... hmm... yes, that's how I was at your age. And probably even today.

Although I notice that many people around me (obligatorily because of my work and my wife) enjoy my company, I was and still remain a very solitary person, by choice.

How comes then and I have a wife? It is a long story that I am not going to tell publicly. At your age I was too virgin and the road to the first sex contact was very long (it took months of caressing and kisses and... well... something else too :biggrin1. I just jumped on the boat and let her "drive" at her rhythm. Now all this means that there is a girl in the first place and for me this was pure luck.

And to come to your problem, I think the more you think about the complications of a sex contact the more you keep the distance. If you feel the urge to "know better" a girl, you have to overcome your reservations and follow what nature orders you. You may be humiliated as you fear, but this is not a reason to not dare. That's life in the end, there are difficult moments. But then your fears may simply remain in your thoughts and never come to real world, it depends on many things.

If you still feel you need some opinions, despite the answers you already had, just ask.

 

[Symphonic]

and I get quite a buzz out of the fact they'll always remember me, you always remember your first don't you?

No.

 

[Symphonic]

Eh, your first experiences might not be those earthshattering ones, but with time and attentiveness you'll be fine.

 

[220483]

first of all, I'm a guy, so MY opinion,probably won't count as much, BUT, it seams to me you gave yourself an answer in your post. THE secret with any first time relation is DIALOG. talking things trugh is ALWAYS the best way of reaching pleasure together!

HOPE you have fun on loosing your three...

 

[Notthe7]

Do it with someone that cares about you..

I don't find virgin males exactly attractive... or unattractive.

I would deeply consider things before sleeping with a virgin though.

I know how much it mattered to me.

 

[D_Botchely Boneher]

Yes, I've definitely decided we'll have to become friends first. I'm not the type that can go for anything too casual, not now at least.

Notthe7, what kinds of things would you need to deeply consider? Would you be worried about the guy being inept, or worried about hurting him?

I don't imagine I could be much worse than many of the guys I've seen in amateur vids. Bah.

 

[D_Botchely Boneher]

I must say, I'm surprised this thread hasn't gotten more attention.

 

[TinyPrincess]

I must say, I'm surprised this thread hasn't gotten more attention.

How would any of you women feel about being a guy's first? Do women mind showing a guy what they like? Do they just expect it? Surely not!

Oh, well...

I've had experienced guys, who were not up for the job - so whether I had to teach them or a virgin - same, same... I ALWAYS have to teach them something...

 

[WellHung83]

Im not a teacher, Id rather someone have experience.

Damn ! I was hoping you would teach me the fine art of tailgate karma sutra :biggrin1:

 

[Principessa]

How am I supposed to tell this kind of thing to a woman I'm merely friends with? It's highly personal and not just to be blurted out. If we date, she'll probably expect me to make a move. I can't. So if I have to sit down to her and talk, won't that ruin the mood?

I don't know. I'm quite anxious now.

Oy Vey! What is with you men and being scared witless to even speak to a girl? I am completely confuzzled by this. We are human, flesh and blood just like you. We aren't ferocious mountain lions waiting for the slightest sign of weakness to pounce on you and rip out your jugular.

I know a guy exactly like you and he was a virgin until he was 28. He 's 38 now and still struggles with what to say to girls in social settings whether or not he finds them attractive. :frown1::redface:

[QUOTE] a woman can get away with telling a man she just wants to fuck. I have the feeling if I went around saying that to the ladies I'd acquire a less than stellar reputation in no time.

That is an unfair double standard. Though to be fair a woman who did that would soon become known as a tramp, or a slapper for those in the UK.

Not at all, my friend. I haven't so much as held hands.

WTF?!? How does this happen to so many men yet so few women on this site? I don't understand, I am truly perplexed.

I'm in the same boat, lips virgin and all, I wouldn't be surprised if we've had similar life experiences, in some regards, such as school socialization.

Well whatever those similarities are please share them with the rest of us so we know what not to do to our sons.

I must say, I'm surprised this thread hasn't gotten more attention.

That's because you aren't the first male virgin to post a thread like this.:wink:

Male Virgins
When Did You Lose Your Virginity
Any Tips for Taking a Girls Virginity?
Describe Your First Fuck.
Losing Your Virginity
http://www.lpsg.org/89092-losing-your-virginity-2.html

 

[morsecode]

Well whatever those similarities are please share them with the rest of us so we know what not to do to our sons.

Well, I didn't have any problems with my parents, if that is what you wanted to know.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

I don't imagine I could be much worse than many of the guys I've seen in amateur vids. Bah.

don't sweat it, you'll do fine your first time. you just have go with the flow and remember that it's definitely ok to be nervous. if you have a good partner they'll teach you what to do.

 

[B_DEATHbyCARROT]

Oy Vey! What is with you men and being scared witless to even speak to a girl? I am completely confuzzled by this. We are human, flesh and blood just like you. We aren't ferocious mountain lions waiting for the slightest sign of weakness to pounce on you and rip out your jugular.

Go easy on the kid. As a guy who used to get nerves around women when I was a kid, I know it used to feel similar to going on a job interview. You are hoping that a complete stranger will talk to you, look at you, hear what you have to say and then like you back (or at the very least want to screw you). It kinda sucks getting rejected and the woman has ALL the power to do so in that situation.

He Ezra it's easy to fall into the trap or worrying what the woman will think of you. It's also easy to put women in general on a pedestal and that's a mistake (some women belong on one but most don't). It's much easier when you don't give a shit and also realize that they want you to like them too. At least that's when I started being more forward, but for some it takes time to build confidence...

Hope that helps.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

Its my dream to fuck a virgin. I couldn't go scouting and pick up just any random guy because i know even though guys seem more interested in losing their virginity then anything it is something very important and id feel horrible if i didn't make it special and memorable for him. But if i ever get the opportunity hell yeah im on it :clit:

 

[B_Bette]

How would any of you women feel about being a guy's first?

Virgins suck in bed. If you encounter a woman who is willing to accept your first time of, what, 2 minutes, take the opportunity. I will spare you my story of being 18 when I took a 15 yr old guy's virginity, because I was not very kind to him due to his hideous "performance."

 

[AlteredEgo]

Virgins suck in bed. If you encounter a woman who is willing to accept your first time of, what, 2 minutes, take the opportunity. I will spare you my story of being 18 when I took a 15 yr old guy's virginity, because I was not very kind to him due to his hideous "performance."

Have you had sex with and virgins who were more mature than a 15 year old? That is neither a fair, nor particularly pertinent comparison to a grown man. I have had sex with virgins who were adults, and who were very concerned with my satisfaction. Though some of them had a very hard time lasting long enough for me at first, I wouldn't say they came in an unreasonable amount of time at all (once it's time for penetration 10-15 minutes will do most women fine... just not me). When I was 18 I wasn't nearly as orgamic as I am 10 years later either. But oh well. You go on and lump a broad group of people all together like that, and cite your one experience as evidence of something significant. You had one bad experience with a virgin. You're absolutely right. All virgins suck at sex.