How do you feel about this statement? - "Enthusiam...

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I understand the underlying idea but was wondering how the women here felt about this statement?

"Your enthusiasm for her body is more important than your sexual prowess."

I don't think a complete lack of "prowess" is implied and I know there will be indivualism in the responses, but if you had 10 points to divide between the two how would you?
 
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I don't want to get into splitting hairs, so I'm going to attempt to define terms a bit. I suppose you might mean by "prowess" things like the ability to bring her to orgasm via techniques using one's hands, tongue, and penis.

The hair splitting comes in because I believe many people would define one of the differences between good and bad technique to be "enthusiasm" and it's hard to imagine how one could have an inspired sexual technique but show a lack of enthusiasm towards her body.

Looking at it from the other side, I suppose than a man could show a lot of enthusiasm for her body, yet have no repertoire to speak of that one could call technique. Okay, seen from that perspective, I'd have to go with enthusiasm winning!

I have slept with a few men who have had little experience, but were so enthusiastic and observant of my reactions, and just plain passionate, that good sex between us seemed natural, almost magical, and I've been with more experienced men who should have had enough experience that they should have a few "moves" under their belts with whom I was disappointed, and I believe that one big difference at least a few times was that they were not as into me as they could have been.
 

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Enthusiasm is going to win over prowess, I think. I'd like to see a mix, but if I had to split, I'd say at least a 70/30 split with enthusiasm in the lead! I like a man who is excited by what he's doing.
 

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I would take 100% technique over 100% enthusiasm any day. Although ideally, there'd be a nice mix of both.

To be completely honest, I really feel the same. Sure, It's great to have a guy thats totally in to you. But some of my worst sexual partners have been the ones that were excited - or overexcited. Sadly, usually the enthusiasm on those guys will only last for as long as their dicks stay hard. In any case, I'd take a guy that knows a trick or two over the enthusiast puppy-types if I had to choose between the two.

Ofcourse a mix would be the best of both worlds, but where as enthusiasm will get me excited, technique will make me cum. :rolleyes:
 

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To be completely honest, I really feel the same. Sure, It's great to have a guy thats totally in to you. But some of my worst sexual partners have been the ones that were excited - or overexcited. Sadly, usually the enthusiasm on those guys will only last for as long as their dicks stay hard. In any case, I'd take a guy that knows a trick or two over the enthusiast puppy-types if I had to choose between the two.

Puppies! That's what the enthusiastic but unskilled remind me of!


Ofcourse a mix would be the best of both worlds, but where as enthusiasm will get me excited, technique will make me cum. :rolleyes:

Enthusiasm is cute, but not particularly sexual for me.
 

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Katt, if premature ejaculation was an issue in my past experiences, then I would also be wary. Instead, the inexperienced lovers that I was referring to had exceptional stamina! That was definitely not an issue.
 

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I think it's more an issue of how we interpret "enthusiasm"; wether it's seen as a synonym for "passionate", beeing the only one in the room-kind of feeling and perhaps even the "worshipping" helga spoke of OR seen as the direct opposite of skill, overexcitement and therefore clumbisness, or maybe even too focussed to be able to enjoy themselves.. The difference between someone beeing enthusiastic about you OR enthusiastic about sex (with you or in general). It could really go both ways.

Though my personal experience is that most skilled partners were the more passionate (as it makes sense to have to care enough to even want to try so hard to please the other person), and less-skilled but enthusiast partners were commonly too obsessive about themselves and the experience to really let go. That said; perhaps if I had had different experiences my opinion on the subject wouldn't be such. I don't think theres a wrong or right here.
 

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Ten years ago my answer would have been different. I like a 50/50 split now! I definitely want the enthusiasm, but I know what I want in technique and he delivers in spades. I know he worships me too because he can't keep his hands off. Sometimes that drives me crazy in a bad way, but at least he still wants to touch!