To me, if something about someone's personality or looks is so substantial to be describing them as "attractive" then that's the person I want to be with. For example, to me my partner is the most attractive person out there 'to me', which is why I want to be with him and only him. I wouldn't describe anyone else as being attractive but him. I think connotation is key here. It's a lot more subtle to describe someone as "ok", "good looking" or "cool", but "attractive" has a much stronger connotation (albeit definitionally could be considered synonymous with some of those words). My partner, however, doesn't get why I would be slightly offended or feel disrespected when he is describing other guys as "attractive" instead of opting for other words that are less "all in". Thoughts?