How Do You Get Sex From Women?

[AtYourCervix10]

so, seeking advice from the group collective. how do you get sex from women? it seems there aren't many options. I welcome your suggestions on what I'm missing. but please prove me wrong?

1. have a relationship/get married/99% serious monogamous relationship - women want marriage/serious relationships where you can spend time with each other, get to know them so they feel safe and comfortable. this takes time, effort, commitment, going to farmer's markets, hiking, yoga, etc.

2. chase women - go to bars, play the dating game, take them to coffee dates, buy them drinks, dinner, concerts, etc and make them think you're looking for a relationship, in that process you can have sex with them and leave if you like, but it will cost you time, money and commitment (drama).

2A. (NOT REAL) "Go on Tinder" - every woman i've connected with on dating apps, when i'm honest with them about just looking for fun, they say "GO TO TINDER". there is this strange idea out there that women think Tinder is a site for "hook ups". i've never met a woman on tinder who wants to come over and fuck. you still have to meet them for coffee or drinks, BS, etc... then maybe after working it, they'll go home and have sex with you. Every woman i've talked to wants a serious monogamous relationship. never NSA.

3. pay for it - the profession old as time, pay women for it, so you can get what you need and leave. The money that you would spend taking them to dinner, coffee, events, etc, you can use to pay for an hour or so of fun and then leave.

4. lifestyle/swinger/onlyfans - i've met wives who are open to sex with the husbands permission, but single women are called a "unicorn" for a reason-- they dont exist. i've done some only fans work with girls, but they have boyfriends or husbands. that's it.

**if i was gay, I could have anonymous sex hourly, sadly I can't find that with women.**

is there a world where no strings sex, anonymous sex with women exists? where you don't have to pay for it? what am I missing? thanks!

 

[Akhi]

actually if you was gay its more talk and less meets, tinder girls are easy especially if your in London

 

[Rewardheragain148]

so, seeking advice from the group collective. how do you get sex from women? it seems there aren't many options. I welcome your suggestions on what I'm missing. but please prove me wrong?

1. have a relationship/get married/99% serious monogamous relationship - women want marriage/serious relationships where you can spend time with each other, get to know them so they feel safe and comfortable. this takes time, effort, commitment, going to farmer's markets, hiking, yoga, etc.

2. chase women - go to bars, play the dating game, take them to coffee dates, buy them drinks, dinner, concerts, etc and make them think you're looking for a relationship, in that process you can have sex with them and leave if you like, but it will cost you time, money and commitment (drama).

2A. (NOT REAL) "Go on Tinder" - every woman i've connected with on dating apps, when i'm honest with them about just looking for fun, they say "GO TO TINDER". there is this strange idea out there that women think Tinder is a site for "hook ups". i've never met a woman on tinder who wants to come over and fuck. you still have to meet them for coffee or drinks, BS, etc... then maybe after working it, they'll go home and have sex with you. Every woman i've talked to wants a serious monogamous relationship. never NSA.

3. pay for it - the profession old as time, pay women for it, so you can get what you need and leave. The money that you would spend taking them to dinner, coffee, events, etc, you can use to pay for an hour or so of fun and then leave.

4. lifestyle/swinger/onlyfans - i've met wives who are open to sex with the husbands permission, but single women are called a "unicorn" for a reason-- they dont exist. i've done some only fans work with girls, but they have boyfriends or husbands. that's it.

**if i was gay, I could have anonymous sex hourly, sadly I can't find that with women.**

is there a world where no strings sex, anonymous sex with women exists? where you don't have to pay for it? what am I missing? thanks!

Yeah options 1-3 seems the way most men get sex from women; you have to entertain a relationship basically. Relationships are usually bareback sex though and that’s a huge plus; you also get laid way more while in a relationships too.

Option 4 works for those who are hung and have good physiques only from what I’ve observed.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

yeah. good point if you're "hot/have good abs" you probably get away with more.

money allows you to do the sugar daddy route but still it's a lot of aggravation and you have to protect your money and livelihood.

Yeah options 1-3 seems the way most men get sex from women; you have to entertain a relationship basically. Relationships are usually bareback sex though and that’s a huge plus; you also get laid way more while in a relationships too.

Option 4 works for those who are hung and have good physiques only from what I’ve observed.

 

[hardonistic]

as a bi person who started out as pretty much mostly gay, this thread is very amusing to me cause I have no idea how to hit up women I have a crush on

I mean I've been told I'm a heavy flirt with the girls but I never know how to progress from that

 

[deleted1846971]

Honestly I’ve passed by this thread 5-6 times and I still cannot formulate the proper response to you.

I’ll be back later, but let’s just start with “Be a better human”. This goes for relationship or a hook up. Humans like fucking other humans they find attractive + nice or interesting. Be one of those and you’ll find other humans (even the women type!) who just might enjoy getting naked around you.

Your primary question seems to be “How can I get women to fuck me without me giving any effort”. For this reason I’m not sure you’ll be able to do the first part of this post.

 

[deleted1846971]

Short version of the post above:

How do you get women to fuck you? Be someone worth fucking. Thus far you’ve proven you aren’t worth it.

 

[chesticles55]

Cry about how your most beloved male porn stars aren’t around to provide you wank material. That should do it! Women can’t resist a porn addicted man, especially one who whines profusely on message boards about how his dearest male stars and objects of affection don’t cater to his every whim!

 

[Motion-of-the-Ocean]

I wasn't going to give this thread a serious answer and I'm still mostly not going to, because being familiar with these lament threads of yours, I'm never sure if these are legitimate questions or diatribes about how guys (or more specifically you) can never get laid because women are too "picky". Perhaps of all your choices, number one has the most grain of truth, though I'm sure from your perspective it is the least desirable as it obviously requires both work and commitment rather then NSA sex.

While I've had limited experience with NSA sex only through choice number four, but even then it required more then simply showing up and having them dropping their panties; an effort I was willing to put in since I still considered them human beings first and not just a new sex toy. It may be sacrilegious to you, but most women want to be thought of as more than a cum dump and will not automatically get hot and bothered by worshipping at the altar of your alleged donkey dick.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

LOL. i love how i'm portrayed as the jerk for posting a serious question in a forum that is about porn and sex. i was foolishly optimistic that people would recognize how this is a serious question. the hypocrisy of those registered members on a sex forum, calling me a "sex addict" is pretty rich and deliciously entertaining.i'm grateful for my sense of humor and appreciation of the absurd. i foolishly have optimism that people are good and wont resort to personal attacks, but i guess i'm wrong.

i further love that when i point out that women want to hike, have dinner, go travel, and go to farmers markets that i'm a sexist monster for stereotyping them. I'm also further villified for saying women "dont want sex without commitment." I'd also like to point out that when i list the reasons why porn is a Billion dollar industry because guys can get that experience without the effort, i'm also crucified.

but sure, i'll be your whipping boy... i can take it. it's entertaining. thank you!

 

[Dport]

Idk if it can be taught or explained. Learn to look for the cues and proceed accordingly.

 

[Dport]

Edit: If you can't get laid off of POF type apps you're not actually trying.

And if you're not in even slightly above average shape physically, decent haircut, decent wardrobe, quit being a lazy fuck and start looking like someone who gets laid.

 

[Hatt_101]

They weren't calling you a sex addict they were saying you're a terrible person

 

[chesticles55]

They weren't calling you a sex addict they were saying you're a terrible person

Imagine wanting to like a person before you fuck them!?!? Crazy!

 

[chesticles55]

LOL. i love how i'm portrayed as the jerk for posting a serious question in a forum that is about porn and sex. i was foolishly optimistic that people would recognize how this is a serious question. the hypocrisy of those registered members on a sex forum, calling me a "sex addict" is pretty rich and deliciously entertaining.i'm grateful for my sense of humor and appreciation of the absurd. i foolishly have optimism that people are good and wont resort to personal attacks, but i guess i'm wrong.

i further love that when i point out that women want to hike, have dinner, go travel, and go to farmers markets that i'm a sexist monster for stereotyping them. I'm also further villified for saying women "dont want sex without commitment." I'd also like to point out that when i list the reasons why porn is a Billion dollar industry because guys can get that experience without the effort, i'm also crucified.

but sure, i'll be your whipping boy... i can take it. it's entertaining. thank you!

How seriously dense are you? Honestly?

The reason people are making fun of you isn’t because you asked about casual sex. It’s because of the ridiculous way you’re asking. As if all women think identically and have the exact same interests. I’m sure you can find what you’re looking for advertising on hookup sites. Unfortunately, most people there are typically, um, perhaps not the best looking people out there? But look who I’m talking to. You expect beautiful women to fall on your lap for literally no reason other than you’re horny and kinda have a sorta big dick.

Not all women like hikes, romance and sappy movies. Kinda like how all men aren’t thick skulled buffoons like yourself. You just have to know what you’re looking for. And yes, put in some effort. *gasp!*

First, last and only time I will waste anything but humor and sarcasm on you.

 

[Dumdiedum]

If I take his question serious, I think I get his point. In my opinion he want's to know, why there is such a big difference in getting sex with a woman and getting sex with a man or doing something very different.

As a bisexuell man I know it is way easier to get sex with a man than a woman. You find the man on a special platform, you write him, you meet him, you have sex, you leave. From start to end, this can happen in 2 hours or less. I've never experienced that with a woman. But I know that woman who would do this exist. I have a female friend who searches for sex and only for sex from time to times and complains that there mostly is no guy to find. Because the most men think she's fake or just jerking to the fantasy and don't appear at the meeting point, etc. But maybe women like her are very very rarely. Or they don't need to do this.

I mean, if you can not only get sex from a man, but also a drink or a nice dinner, why not take the whole package? If we would live in a female lead society, where it would be traditional, that the girls are paying, maybe we men would do the same.

The other point is, that in our society sex is seen as something very different than sports, games or other hobbies. If not, maybe you could meet much easier with random people for random sex. Like you meet for playing games or sports together. But that would implicate that there would be no dangers of STDs or getting pregnant from that. And there we come to the center of the aspect, why maybe most woman are not so easy to have sex with you. Because it is very risky. And, if I'm honest, most men are very stupid when they think of sex. And doing stupid things, like fucking with a person you don't know. Maybe the most women are simply more clever, than a lot of men.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

what's a "hookup" site? there are none. every site you have to meet them, get to know them, spend time with them, take the to dates and dinner, etc. that's not a hook up. but please, prove me wrong. i wish i was wrong.

there are tons of hookup sites for gay men though apparently. where you can meet guys for anonymous sex. is there one for straight men? i wonder why...?

How seriously dense are you? Honestly?

The reason people are making fun of you isn’t because you asked about casual sex. It’s because of the ridiculous way you’re asking. As if all women think identically and have the exact same interests. I’m sure you can find what you’re looking for advertising on hookup sites. Unfortunately, most people there are typically, um, perhaps not the best looking people out there? But look who I’m talking to. You expect beautiful women to fall on your lap for literally no reason other than you’re horny and kinda have a sorta big dick.

Not all women like hikes, romance and sappy movies. Kinda like how all men aren’t thick skulled buffoons like yourself. You just have to know what you’re looking for. And yes, put in some effort. *gasp!*

First, last and only time I will waste anything but humor and sarcasm on you.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

yes, you get my point. thank you. and your friend is rare. that's why they're called unicorns. but thank you for listening and getting my point and further validating it. it's interesting to post about sex and discover it is over some people's heads.

If I take his question serious, I think I get his point. In my opinion he want's to know, why there is such a big difference in getting sex with a woman and getting sex with a man or doing something very different.

As a bisexuell man I know it is way easier to get sex with a man than a woman. You find the man on a special platform, you write him, you meet him, you have sex, you leave. From start to end, this can happen in 2 hours or less. I've never experienced that with a woman. But I know that woman who would do this exist. I have a female friend who searches for sex and only for sex from time to times and complains that there mostly is no guy to find. Because the most men think she's fake or just jerking to the fantasy and don't appear at the meeting point, etc. But maybe women like her are very very rarely. Or they don't need to do this.

I mean, if you can not only get sex from a man, but also a drink or a nice dinner, why not take the whole package? If we would live in a female lead society, where it would be traditional, that the girls are paying, maybe we men would do the same.

The other point is, that in our society sex is seen as something very different than sports, games or other hobbies. If not, maybe you could meet much easier with random people for random sex. Like you meet for playing games or sports together. But that would implicate that there would be no dangers of STDs or getting pregnant from that. And there we come to the center of the aspect, why maybe most woman are not so easy to have sex with you. Because it is very risky. And, if I'm honest, most men are very stupid when they think of sex. And doing stupid things, like fucking with a person you don't know. Maybe the most women are simply more clever, than a lot of men.

 

[Sagittarius84]

I mean if you want the blunt answer, it's a combination of obviously you aren't the man women you find attractive want anonymous no strings attached sex with, and you aren't looking to have sex with women who may be more likely to be looking for no strings attached sex.
You can't paint yourself into a corner on the floor then blame it on the wet paint on the walls. The opportunities definitely aren't as plentiful as women or our gay bretheren, but they're there if you look...
What's your weight or race preference, is there a specific age range or standard of beauty you adhere to?
Most importantly are you introspective enough to delve within and see what failings of yours aren't getting you the attention you seek, because I know for all of my insecurities about how attractive I am to the opposite sex, if I were so inclined I could be knee deep in MAGA milfs quite casually.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

i don't know where to begin with pulling apart this thread. but ill start with maga milfs? huh?

I mean if you want the blunt answer, it's a combination of obviously you aren't the man women you find attractive want anonymous no strings attached sex with, and you aren't looking to have sex with women who may be more likely to be looking for no strings attached sex.
You can't paint yourself into a corner on the floor then blame it on the wet paint on the walls. The opportunities definitely aren't as plentiful as women or our gay bretheren, but they're there if you look...
What's your weight or race preference, is there a specific age range or standard of beauty you adhere to?
Most importantly are you introspective enough to delve within and see what failings of yours aren't getting you the attention you seek, because I know for all of my insecurities about how attractive I am to the opposite sex, if I were so inclined I could be knee deep in MAGA milfs quite casually.