How do you handle friend requests from strangers?

How do you handle friend requests from strangers?

  • accept the request and add them as a friend

    Votes: 41 50.0%
  • decline the request without comment

    Votes: 14 17.1%
  • decline the request with an explanation (via private message, etc.)

    Votes: 8 9.8%
  • ignore the request

    Votes: 8 9.8%
  • other (specify below)

    Votes: 11 13.4%

  • Total voters
    82

Steve26

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I'm not on Facebook or any other social-networking sites, so I have no idea what the normal etiquette is on friend requests from people who are total strangers.

How do you respond when this happens to you on LPSG?

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Personally I will usually accept and then send them a message or something. It's your call though hon, you can quite rightly deny them if you feel you want to -- as Captain Planet once said : the power, is yours!
 

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On other sites like fb/myspace I only accept people I know and if I don't know you I just let the request sit. Obviously I can't do that here (since I don't want anyone to know who I am), so I make friends with everybody who sends me a request here :)
 

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u know if u add somebody as a friend on lpsg, u really are legally bound to be their friend. pick them up at the airport, say hi if u see them at the grocery store, share your popcorn at the movies, feed their pets while they're on vacation etc.

this is so funny

i'm sorry i can't add u till i know u really well..... wtf?

is this site really anybody's default social networking site??

i look at it like more of a bookmark, a way to flag somebody i might want to talk to or read their posts later. and i'm not going to deny anybody who requests to be my "friend" on lpsg, it's really no trouble at all to click yes. i don't have an excluder personality

but maybe i'm being insensitive, maybe all my lpsg friends can have an intervention and tell me to get my shit together and stop being an a-hole
 
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Like others, I only accept friend requests from people I've chatted with - the exception being if they're befriending me because we have a lot in common. Of course, I almost never get friend requests, so it doesn't really matter much.
 

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Hmm, ya know...
I'm gonna take that advice...
Play an online game... got plenty just wanting "Add, add add"....
now... gotta know me well first, and just not the stupid asl questions being asked.
I usually add...
...and then delete when they're offline.
 
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I registered here yesterday and already got one, I just accepted it. I mean it's the internet, who cares?
 

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i just check their profiles real quick. if they have taken the time to fill out the about me section, if they some activity on the message board. i accept.

the only people i refuse are the guys who are obviously friending every women on the site. or people who creep me out from what i've seen on the message board.

damn, i fall into the easy camp.

strangeness of me, i am too shy to make a friends request. just seems awkward or that i am pestering the people i actually like.

ML

friends list just make it easier to PM or check profiles? not really sure why the site has 'em.
 

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i'm sorry i can't add u till i know u really well..... wtf?

i look at it like more of a bookmark, a way to flag somebody i might want to talk to or read their posts later. and i'm not going to deny anybody who requests to be my "friend" on lpsg, it's really no trouble at all to click yes. i don't have an excluder personality

but maybe i'm being insensitive, maybe all my lpsg friends can have an intervention and tell me to get my shit together and stop being an a-hole

Some of us are major multi-taskers. We have neither the time nor desire for tons of pm windows popping up when we log on to the site. Plus, you have to spend all this time making idle chitchat. I already have to do tons of that at work. I get pm's on here from some really strange posters.
 

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I send them a message to see if they have anything to say to me. If I don't hear back, I refuse the request. The awkward thing is that I often get a perfunctory reply that doesn't provide any basis for a conversation, and then I may feel obliged to add the person just because he replied to my message, even though it is clear that we have nothing to say to each other.

As I have said numerous times before, the whole "Friends" function is a fucking pain in the arse. The administrators should never have introduced it in the first place, or should at least have given members the option of refusing to receive requests.
i look at it like more of a bookmark, a way to flag somebody i might want to talk to or read their posts later. and i'm not going to deny anybody who requests to be my "friend" on lpsg, it's really no trouble at all to click yes. i don't have an excluder personality
We've got the "Contacts" list for that purpose. You can add anyone as a contact without any notification of that person. There is no need to make a "Friend" request.
 

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I always PM first to see if it is okay to add as a friend, usually on the lines of been enjoying your posts lately, good fun, stuff incommon etc, and don't feel obliged to add me sort of thing. I would like the same sort of message accompanying a request, basically out of courtesy for both.

If i get a request, i tend to check out first, maybe add, maybe don't, but although i ain't anybody special i am getting better at denying requests as i do like to keep in contact with the friends i have.
 

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I check to see if they have made a comment on one of my photos. Sometimes people comment there and I don't know about it. Is there any way of getting a notification on new photo comments like with private messages and visitor messages?

But if someone hasn't sent me a private message, a photo comment, a visitor message or we've chatted via IM and then they send a friend request... I don't accept. What's the point?