How do you know if a guy is gay or not???

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  1. lil_puppy2008

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    what are some ways you can u tell if a guy is gay or not with out them know that you are gay??? besides asking because if you ask them they are going to say no, because they don't want you to know, because they don't know if you are gay or not
     
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    That's an eternal question...

    First, you have to be able to take the same risk you want him to take.

    If you want him to be comfortable coming out to you, you have to pave the way by at least letting him know that gay-related things are ok with you, at the very least. In the old, old camp days, we referred to that as "dropping hairpins". In a perfect situation, he drops a few back, you offer a couple more, and so on, until you are sure you're on safe ground. In a less-than-perfect situation, this scenario may take place in several isolated instances.

    To give you an example from my past: My best friend informed me that he was getting his ear pierced, and wondered what I thought (this was in the early 80's). I replied that I had been thinking about the same thing, and so we got them done together. Claire's Boutique was not well...

    As a follow up, he told me his brother was moving in two doors down from me with his new boyfriend, a stylist, and asked how I felt about that. I replied that at least I could get the latest cuts, for a discount! This went back and forth regarding clothes, music, and movies until, one day, on a road trip, I noticed a gay magazine in his back seat. I calmly picked it up, told him that I had always wanted to read one of these, but never had the chance, and complimented him on his taste in men.

    We've been friends for over 30 years now.

    In my doddering, wizened state now I have no idea what the current "gay hints" are, but you should, and I wish you sucess!
     
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    Can't speak for others but I've been chatted up by guys. I just politely tell them I'm not that way inclined, but I'll carry on the conversation if they're a nice person. Made a few good friends that way.
     
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    If he kisses you after you've finished sucking his cock, he's definitely gay.
     
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    Hey, I resisted saying that one Matt!

    You're a bad, bad man!:wink:
     
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    I stayed away from that one too! Please report for discipline....
     
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    Well this one time, I was f*cking a guy and he reach back and tickled my balls while doing it. I think he was gay.
     
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    I fucking LOVE this answer.
     
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    If a guy is looking to the left of your screen in his avatar...that's a good sign:biggrin1:
     
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    Haha, what can I say. I'm a slave to temptation.
     
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    Nearly every time I've been asked out, the guy has flat-out asked me about my orientation, despite the fact that I'm sitting in a gay bar, queening it up with my friends* Some gay guys don't show up on gaydar and other gay guys don't have gaydar.

    *just for the humor value, really. I swear.
     
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    Yah, if you don't know.. why not just ask him is he is gay? :cool:
     
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    If you fuck a guy's ass and your dick goes in easily, he's probably gay.
     
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    ask him. most guys like to be direct, straight or gay. Plus it makes you look ballsy.
     
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    I think the whole "DL" thing messes it up for both straight and gay guys. Gay guys can't tell so they'll hit on a guy and then the guy is straight and gets mad and/or offended because he was hit on. And it's not the gat guys fault cause they were looking for "hints". And it's not the straight guys fault cause how is HE supposed to know what the "hints" are. I think it's crazy. :confused:

    I think the biggest clue, IMHO, is to look at a man's friends. No matter how straight he acts, if he spends the majority amount of his time around a majority group of gay dudes, more than likely he's gay. He ain't hanging around for the free styling that's for sure. And I'm not saying if a man HAS gay friends. Nothing wrong with that. And that's not a good indicator. But if a man spends a lot of times with a group of gay men, then more than likely he is too.
     
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    Oprah, who is always right, says "If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck and hangs out with other ducks, it's a duck."
     
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    Wasnt' it also Oprah that said "If I say a duck can drive a truck, hand him the keys and shut the fuck up" ?

    I did come up with a plan to subtly ask out a guy that worked at my last job. I never got to try it out though cause the next time we worked together he was talking about his girlfriend the whole time. Basically, the plan was to start talking about movies and ask if there was any movies out he wanted to see. Then I'd say I wanted to see that too but I hate going to the movies alone and I never have anyone to go with. Hopefully, that would lead to us deciding to go together in a completely platonic friendly way. Then in the comfort of the dark movie theater I'd at some point casually put my hand partially on his. He'd either move his hand away or complete the hand hold. And there would be your answer.
     
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    No no.. Oprah is the one that said "mmmmm duck, pass the gravy":biggrin1:
     
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    and now i love you even more
     
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    If they let you suck cock, you can at least assume that they like to get their dick sucked
     
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