How Do You Know If Your A Top Or A Bottom

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I'm confused bout wether to be a top or a bottom, I've done a bit of both, but have more fun being a top.
But sometimes I like to be very submissive and other times I want to be the alpha
 
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I'm confused bout wether to be a top or a bottom, I've done a bit of both, but have more fun being a top.
But sometimes I like to be very submissive and other times I want to be the alpha
depends, some people are verse so they switch between taking or giving, but sometimes people pick based on what they like/dont like. Some guys (myself included) find anal sex painful, so I opt to be a top instead. some people prefer being penetrated if they are more into anal stimulation. it depends on your past experiences and what you find hot
 

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I'm confused bout wether to be a top or a bottom, I've done a bit of both, but have more fun being a top.
But sometimes I like to be very submissive and other times I want to be the alpha

Let me turn around the question a little... why do you feel the need to label yourself? There’s no rule forcing you to stick to one or the other. Me, I consider myself a vers bottom: I generally like to take it, but sometimes I like to top. But a lot of people don’t use those labels at all. After all, the bigger issue is doing what you like....
 

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Being aggressive or submissive has very little to do with it unless you're doing role play. You can absolutely be a submissive top or an aggressive bottom. It's kind of nice to lay back and let the bottom have his way with your dick, or let him tell you how to fuck him.
 

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I'm confused bout wether to be a top or a bottom, I've done a bit of both, but have more fun being a top.
But sometimes I like to be very submissive and other times I want to be the alpha

Bottom |------------Vers--------------| Top


You are probably somewhere in the middle.

As others have said, you can be a submissive top or an alpha bottom. Also some don't do anal at all. So the role has nothing to do with where the penis goes.
 
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it looks like you're still quite a young guy and finding out about yourself? don't look at it as being confused, look at it as an adventure to find out who you are and what you like, just go with the flow between yourself and whomever you're with and discover yourself. When you're young is the best time for your sexual awakening and i'm guessing that this is all it is with you?

as others have said, don't label yourself, it sounds like your vers/top and a mix of 'alpha'/submissive, so just go with it and enjoy
 

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depends, some people are verse so they switch between taking or giving, but sometimes people pick based on what they like/dont like. Some guys (myself included) find anal sex painful, so I opt to be a top instead. some people prefer being penetrated if they are more into anal stimulation. it depends on your past experiences and what you find hot

Is there a way to make it not painful? Because I want to enjoy it and having my hole stretched is hot to me but I'm always sore afterward and I tend to clench to much when getting fucked. How do I teach myself to not clench and how do I not be in pain afterward?
 

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Is there a way to make it not painful? Because I want to enjoy it and having my hole stretched is hot to me but I'm always sore afterward and I tend to clench to much when getting fucked. How do I teach myself to not clench and how do I not be in pain afterward?

Everybody’s ass is different, but yes. The trick that works for me is using a toy beforehand. My hole naturally cramps up at first, though it usually relaxes later. So by using a vibrator or dildo, I can ease it open and get the cramping over with. That way, when it’s time to take a dick, I’m ready to enjoy the ride!

(Btw, this did take some experimentation. If I loosen myself up too much, then it takes away from some of the pleasure during sex. So I had to go through some trial-and-error to figure out how to stretch it out just enough but not too much.)

One other trick is to press down as if you’re taking a shit. It sounds weird, but it does relax your sphincter.

Some guys swear by poppers, but I personally am not a fan, and I don’t think they’re necessary. And maybe other guys on this thread have other ideas?
 

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Everybody’s ass is different, but yes. The trick that works for me is using a toy beforehand. My hole naturally cramps up at first, though it usually relaxes later. So by using a vibrator or dildo, I can ease it open and get the cramping over with. That way, when it’s time to take a dick, I’m ready to enjoy the ride!

(Btw, this did take some experimentation. If I loosen myself up too much, then it takes away from some of the pleasure during sex. So I had to go through some trial-and-error to figure out how to stretch it out just enough but not too much.)

One other trick is to press down as if you’re taking a shit. It sounds weird, but it does relax your sphincter.

Some guys swear by poppers, but I personally am not a fan, and I don’t think they’re necessary. And maybe other guys on this thread have other ideas?

Anus cramps!?!? Oh dear oh dear. I'm not a fan of poppers either, I hear they screw up your blood pressure, and I have known about bearing down to help with insertion and it helps but I just can't take a cock thats girthy
 

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I'm confused bout wether to be a top or a bottom, I've done a bit of both, but have more fun being a top.
But sometimes I like to be very submissive and other times I want to be the alpha
I dont think that this is anything that needs to be declared and stuck to. Some people, its a question of knowing what they DONT like, for others it can depend on the other partner and the chemistry. For some this is just about sex, and for others it's a more interpersonal dynamic-thing. Sometimes that can all switch from streets to sheets. The possibilities are endless. Just do what feels good.

I can switch, but I also really had a thing for awhile about topping tops. In the "What I do" section of my profiles I used to put "Top Whisperer" lol