Ever find yourself in a position where you're within a group of people but not very involved in the conversation because some of the others (or maybe all) do not even acknowledge that you're there?
Most people naturally try to steer clear of this type of situation but sometimes it's inevitable, I think. For example, one time my friend invited me to eat dinner with him, his brother and his brother's friend who was visiting. I only knew my friend, not the other two. The four of us went out to eat yet they almost acted like I wasn't there. My friend would very occasionally involve me in the conversation but the other two didn't at all, even when I'd give some kind of input in the conversation, not once did they reply or even look like they acknowledged what I said. There was no eye contact either. The only point I was acknowledged was at the end when we were leaving our tip, there was some mix up with the money (exchanging it within ourselfs to leave the biggest common bill as the tip) and after I realized I made a mistake (I think), the brother's friend said "Great, now we somehow have people getting more money than they put in the tip" or something like that, something really dickish and rude. I didn't have a name, I was just at the same level as every other stranger in the restaurant. Other than that and the initial hello and the goodbyes, I just wasn't there to them.
What the FUCK drives people to act that way towards people? The aforementioned story happened a while ago but the reason I made this thread is become something similar happened tonight and I was honestly thinking about doing or saying something really bold. Of course there was not much I could do in the story I told without ruining my friendship and suffering a great deal embarassment, but what happened tonight was different. It was at a party with acquaintances and other people whom I wouldn't mind being bold with. What can I say in this type of scenario anyway? Would it be really wrong to call someone out for disrespecting me like this?
Most people naturally try to steer clear of this type of situation but sometimes it's inevitable, I think. For example, one time my friend invited me to eat dinner with him, his brother and his brother's friend who was visiting. I only knew my friend, not the other two. The four of us went out to eat yet they almost acted like I wasn't there. My friend would very occasionally involve me in the conversation but the other two didn't at all, even when I'd give some kind of input in the conversation, not once did they reply or even look like they acknowledged what I said. There was no eye contact either. The only point I was acknowledged was at the end when we were leaving our tip, there was some mix up with the money (exchanging it within ourselfs to leave the biggest common bill as the tip) and after I realized I made a mistake (I think), the brother's friend said "Great, now we somehow have people getting more money than they put in the tip" or something like that, something really dickish and rude. I didn't have a name, I was just at the same level as every other stranger in the restaurant. Other than that and the initial hello and the goodbyes, I just wasn't there to them.
What the FUCK drives people to act that way towards people? The aforementioned story happened a while ago but the reason I made this thread is become something similar happened tonight and I was honestly thinking about doing or saying something really bold. Of course there was not much I could do in the story I told without ruining my friendship and suffering a great deal embarassment, but what happened tonight was different. It was at a party with acquaintances and other people whom I wouldn't mind being bold with. What can I say in this type of scenario anyway? Would it be really wrong to call someone out for disrespecting me like this?