How do you stop from falling in love with someone?

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  1. earllogjam

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    Is this possible?

    Have you ever caught yourself falling in love with someone you knew was all wrong for you and tried to stop it from happening?

    How do you stop some kind of supernatural force of love from happening?
     
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    I am in this position right now, and I don't know how to stop it even though I know I should.. I just can't.. The will of the heart is too strong.
     
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    prozac is excellent for obsessive-compulsive disorder which love can be especially the early stages
     
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    yes. my ex-girlfriend kristina. cheating slut. 3 guys ran a train on her one night, and she had the nerve to blame it on me because i "wasn't there to tell them no"

    anyways, i don't think you can control your feelings for another person. it just happens. you may not want it to. but it does
     
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    I don't think you can stop yourself from falling in love. It just happens, and if you are inclined towards a little sweet drama, the fact that you are not "allowed" to fall in love adds to the attraction.

    But what you can do (and what I did because it was only a mild case) was not to act on the feeling. I mean, be in love, but pretend not to be. Don't call, don't talk to her, don't ask her out, just try to avoid her, forget her and concentrate on the downsides of her personality until the feeling goes.

    Does not work each time, I know....

    Good luck.
     
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    you don't baby, you don't.
     
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    It's impossible. You can suppress and that'll drive you to insanity. It's...impossible. Sorry:frown1:
     
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    The only way to stop it is to cut that person out of your life completely...moving to another state will help...
     
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    ugh. the worst. mine isnt as bad but i crush on everyone...it so annoying.
     
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    Oh man, that's an imposibility! Your heart and gonads don't check with
    your brain first before acting....unfortunately.

    If the answer to that trilliion dollar question of the ages were
    known.... :confused: ...we all would be a lot better off. However, I think
    it is one of those questions that will never be answered......

    So, we just have to make the best of it....do our best to make the best
    decisions we can.....and if we are lucky it will be wonderful, if we guess
    wrong....:shrug:
     
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    thats crazy, i don't fall in love easily, i really put the lady to test when she wants to be in a relationship with me. i guess i just don't "fall in" love.
    my advice, learn and teach yourself to distinguish love from lust, envy, and a crush. of course, we all have our own opinions to what those are, so use it to your advantage i guess. either that or charm the person you're in love with till their pants fall off
     
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    Who's the lucky dude ?
     
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    How do you stop from falling in love with someone?
    You don't. What you usually end up with is unrequited love. Which sucks big time.

    I almost said that; but thought people would think I was being silly, not serious.
     
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    Yes.

    A few times.
    Most recently, I found myself falling in love with someone that I adore, but I know in my heart is not a good match for me, even though he is a good man.
    I stopped loving him romantically, because I still love him as a friend, by refocusing my feelings to the friendship.

    Also, I wrote a list of things I really want from a partner that he would ultimately be unable to give me. The combination of the two helped me act in a more pragmatic manner that preserved the relationship, but, for lack of a better term, dispelled my feelings of romantic love.

    It can be done if you focus on what's best for your life.
     
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    if you feel it's not right on some level, then it's probably not love.

    try to picture this person with the other genitals, and ask yourself again.

    or ask yourself, "how would I see this person if I were blind?"

    I've fallen in love and I've stepped in it a few times too.
     
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    Stay away from the other person: that's about all that you can do.

    Bullshit. Whether you fall for someone has nothing to do with whether the other person is right for you: the fact that someone is married, is of the wrong sexual orientation, is too young or too old, or simply has no romantic interest in you whatever is no preventive against your falling in love.
     
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    While not simple, I personally think it is easy. If something inside of you is telling you it's not right, recognize it and step back. You do have to stop seeing this person even casually as a friend though because then it will only leave you confused. If you feel it isn't right, it isn't, walk away.
     
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    How do you stop? Marry them.

    Sorry.

    A little levity never hurt...

    Really, you just let time and distance do their work. I know it's been said before, but cut off all ties.
     
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    Damn, that was my first thought. LOL
     
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    I have learned to stop the process in a number of ways. You can focus on aspects of the person that draw concern, you can piss the person off so that they won't have anything to do with you, you can withdraw yourself from the other person 100% and just cut them off, you can convince yourself that the person is much better off without you...and that by eliminating yourself from their life they are much better off.

    There is an element of self preservation here, that you understand your best interests are not served by following a supernatural force. I can be as romantic as the next guy, but not going to follow that path to my detriment. I may be a sad fuck, but I've done it all...and I'm not so insane. :tongue: :cool: :biggrin1:
     
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