How do you switch from being a bottom to a top?

[LGX]

I have..performance anxiety. When my penis tries to go in, it goes limp. Any tips?

 

[OKCLane]

So from your post I'm assuming you've been mostly a bottom but now want to try topping. Perhaps the lack of something in your ass? I have two or three cockring/butt plug combinations that drive me crazy. When I top with these my ability to last very long totally disappears. Try fucking with a butt plug. Try getting hard and then using an adjustable cockring (like the strap ones that have buttons - see Ft Troff for a great neoprene one (and my photo albums)) to keep the blood in your dick and keep you hard.

 

[1189318]

Viagra. The wonder drug.

 

[Blitzkid]

And to expand on the gentleman's post above, consider an ass lock cock ring. I have a silicone one from Ft. Troff that looks like a shield in front (for lack of better word) that separates your cock and balls and then has a part that extends approx 4" down and culminates in a decently sized elongated, spherical plug for ass. I'll wear when I top, and every time I thrust it tugs on my hole from inside. It's kind of amazing.

The other thing, speaking from someone who is 50/50 vers and can easily get lost "in my head", is just to stop worrying. Start with a comfortable or frequent partner. Don't worry about roles, topping, whatever, just enjoy one another's bodies. So maybe you try and go soft, don't make a big deal but switch to something else and come back later. For me, let's say I might go to town on eating his ass, flip him over And pin him, maybe get a little aggressive in another area. For me, taking my mind somewhere else helps to forget about the act helps ne to better enjoy myself, pleasure partner, and thinsg will generally rise up to the occasion and happily fuck the hell out of them.

 

[muskokan]

as a total bottom i get the odd request from one of my longterm FWB's to fuck his ass, although i put up a valiant effort there is no way i can go to the climax. I always seem to lose the erection needed to please his request. We have tried all sorts of toys and combinations of positions all to no avail. I have come to realise that i am only a bottom and will really always be a bottom, which is fine because i do love sucking cock and riding his cock or any other part he cares to put in me

 

[Blitzkid]

as a total bottom i get the odd request from one of my longterm FWB's to fuck his ass, although i put up a valiant effort there is no way i can go to the climax. I always seem to lose the erection needed to please his request. We have tried all sorts of toys and combinations of positions all to no avail. I have come to realise that i am only a bottom and will really always be a bottom, which is fine because i do love sucking cock and riding his cock or any other part he cares to put in me

Can I ask, does the act give you pleasure? Do you enjoy being able to share that act with your partner or is it a chore? I am curious, I have always enjoyed both and just wonder about exclusive tops and bottoms.

 

[OKCLane]

And to expand on the gentleman's post above, consider an ass lock cock ring. I have a silicone one from Ft. Troff that looks like a shield in front (for lack of better word) that separates your cock and balls and then has a part that extends approx 4" down and culminates in a decently sized elongated, spherical plug for ass. I'll wear when I top, and every time I thrust it tugs on my hole from inside. It's kind of amazing.

The other thing, speaking from someone who is 50/50 vers and can easily get lost "in my head", is just to stop worrying. Start with a comfortable or frequent partner. Don't worry about roles, topping, whatever, just enjoy one another's bodies. So maybe you try and go soft, don't make a big deal but switch to something else and come back later. For me, let's say I might go to town on eating his ass, flip him over And pin him, maybe get a little aggressive in another area. For me, taking my mind somewhere else helps to forget about the act helps ne to better enjoy myself, pleasure partner, and thinsg will generally rise up to the occasion and happily fuck the hell out of them.

In 100% agreement @Blitzkid
That Ft Troff is a great toy. I also have one from Oxballs that I think was called Spark Plug - pics in my albums.

Terrific advice.

 

[Blitzkid]

In 100% agreement @Blitzkid
That Ft Troff is a great toy. I also have one from Oxballs that I think was called Spark Plug - pics in my albums.

Terrific advice.

Thanks OKC. I got mine years ago and hsve never seen that specific style since, just the circular ring ones typically with the prostate stimulator style plug. Ill def check out your pics for the OxBalls one, just got one of their cage style ones. Nice but can be a bit too tight for me at times.

I guess one last thing on main topic I wanted to add. People get so caught up in roles sometimes, be it top/bttm, Dom/sub, etc that they forget it's just sex and to enjoy themselves. I dated a bttm whose ass basically had it's own gravitational pull who didn't like to see me bttm. He was locked into roles. Just forget everyone and everything, do what feels good and try and give yourself and partner as much fun as you can.

 

[OKCLane]

Thanks OKC. I got mine years ago and hsve never seen that specific style since, just the circular ring ones typically with the prostate stimulator style plug. Ill def check out your pics for the OxBalls one, just got one of their cage style ones. Nice but can be a bit too tight for me at times.

I guess one last thing on main topic I wanted to add. People get so caught up in roles sometimes, be it top/bttm, Dom/sub, etc that they forget it's just sex and to enjoy themselves. I dated a bttm whose ass basically had it's own gravitational pull who didn't like to see me bttm. He was locked into roles. Just forget everyone and everything, do what feels good and try and give yourself and partner as much fun as you can.

Amen to that. I’m versatile and love the opportunity it offers.
I’ve also found Oxballs to be so tight that I can’t wear them as long as I’d like.

 

[1059907]

jeez two guys I knew asked me to top them while I was a bottom and I couldnt

Its real hard switching it up

 

[StuJr]

Like an earlier responder, I’d suggest maybe trying viagra. From what I understand, once you get hard, you pretty much stay hard until you cum.

I’m fortunate to be versatile, and although I usually end up bottoming, I still enjoy shoving my cock inside my partner’s ass and fucking him.

 

[weho48]

Roll over!

 

[hairybubblebum]

I can switch but i cum fast. if its just drop pants fuck i can go for a while, but if i give oral it gets me close to where i won't last.

 

[Submissivebottom]

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I have..performance anxiety. When my penis tries to go in, it goes limp. Any tips?

Never would I tried it once and realised I'm 100%bottom

 

[364368]

I used be a total top. I didn’t like bottoming at all when I first tried it. My x bf who mainly bottomed for me got me to bottom n enjoy it eventually. It was like this feeling came over me And I was loving his fat veiny curved uncut cock inside me and started wanting it all the time. Huge amazing orgasms

 

[Brodie888]

I'm 100% bottom, I find the idea of topping as foreign as having sex with a woman which is not even a blip on my arousal meter.

 

[muskokan]

Can I ask, does the act give you pleasure? Do you enjoy being able to share that act with your partner or is it a chore? I am curious, I have always enjoyed both and just wonder about exclusive tops and bottoms.

oh yes it does give me pleasure! i love being able to be the reason that the tops get what they need.