How do you take rejection?

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It's happened loads of times, lol.

Ok, it's a bit of a bummer, but as long as you haven't got too attached, it's fine. Other people have to deal with it too when the shoe's on the other foot, so... no biggie.

Another reason I love ml. I don't reject people, but offers.
Great way of putting it! :smile:
 
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Depends on who is doing the rejection - how much emotional investment I have in them. Most of the time, I'm stung, and then move on. I'm not one for giving them a second chance.

If it's someone important to me? I don't take it well - I hurt, and I hurt for a long time. Not that anyone would notice, but it's all on the inside just screaming away.
 

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I assume that's why I am very hesitant (to a fault) to approach anyone



oh Country
you exude personality
can sit on my saddle anytime
still waiting for yourself, partner and horse to arrive on these shores ... ha

Aw, Thank you :redface: :hug:

We'll get there someday :wink:
 

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I haven't gotten over being rejected solely because of the way that I look. It hurts but it's not so bad after the 200th time. I used to be a wall flower, always doing the rejecting but I realized I was missing out on a lot of life being passive simply because of my fear of rejection. I usually make the first move now because life is just too short to be missing all these opportunities. I get rejected more but also meet more guys and I feel like at least I tried which is a lot better than feeling unwanted as a passive wall flower IMO.
 
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Go into self analysis mode, it helps being 90% hermit :) Maybe I be guilty of rationalising a wee bit. Has not happened a lot, but when it has, it has usually been for the better. In the end, I should have trusted my instincts anyway. (rationalising kicking in :) )
 

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Depends on the depth of feelings I have for someone. I rarely put myself out there, and if I do, and things develop, then move forward into something deeper, more physical and emotional, and then I'm rejected? It hurts like hell. But like I said, I rarely do this, so I invest a lot of myself into someone when I do get to that kind of level of commitment.

I stopped doing that, investing as much of myself, and ended up in a horrid relationship which made me miserable and I felt trapped. So I kinda felt it was a no winner for me. Either I invest and get hurt, or I don't and am miserable!!! lol

Since then, I really try to be honest with myself and the other person and only take it to an emotional/physical relationship if I feel safe/secure....but then again, that chances rejection doesn't it?

Yeah, rejection sucks. Bottom line, if it doesn't? I don't think you're talking about the same kind of rejection -- like asking someone out and them saying no, isn't what I'm talking about...lol. That's no biggie. But putting yourself out there to be rejected....that's much, much harder!

Maybe that's why I'm so cautious.
 

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I take a picture of them, and then I shit on it. Then I light it on fire. When it's good and burnt, I piss it out. Then I run over it with the lawnmower.

Yeah it gets shit everywhere, but I let go of my emotional baggage and I've got a lush, green lawn to walk all over.

Just like they walked all over me.

Motherfuckers.
 
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Badly, rejection usually raises the inevitable question of self worth, both confidence and pride take a hammering.

But what can you do? You certainly can't force someone to stay with you, and once someone has come to make that decision what's the point in trying to persuade them otherwise? Find out the reasons why, by all means, but at our very essence we can't change who we are.

But yeah, in short, it can hurt like hell.
 

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I take a picture of them, and then I shit on it. Then I light it on fire. When it's good and burnt, I piss it out. Then I run over it with the lawnmower.

Yeah it gets shit everywhere, but I let go of my emotional baggage and I've got a lush, green lawn to walk all over.

Just like they walked all over me.

Motherfuckers.

ROFL...there are easier ways to fertilize your front lawn...
 

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When I contact someone on a dating website I assume he's going to ignore me, and when it's obvious it's happened, I keep a record so I don't bother him again.

Occasionally he actually writes back. But usually when I say we have to meet in a public place first, he stops writing. I'm left to wonder what kind of relationship it could have been anyway if we could never go out together.
 

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The weird part is.,....I have been rejected by women who I was wasn't even attracted to. Go figure, right? I had one who continued to tell others i was hitting on her even though we had NEVER even talked. Of course, this made it a hostile work environment, and I eventually left. I was so fucking mad all the time, it affected my marriage and my family life. I hate being lied on.... to tell you the truth, I think she Liked me...and was mad because I never made a move.
 

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I take a picture of them, and then I shit on it. Then I light it on fire. When it's good and burnt, I piss it out. Then I run over it with the lawnmower.

Yeah it gets shit everywhere, but I let go of my emotional baggage and I've got a lush, green lawn to walk all over.

Just like they walked all over me.

Motherfuckers.

Hahahaha! Best response ever.
 

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In the words of Madonna

I get up again over and over.......


rejection happens, best to try and move on.