Now let me explain something first. Between me and my fiancé, I'm am definitely the hornier one.... Definitely. So when I used to offer sex, a lot of the time I get shut down.... Or I get lousy sex because she wasnt into in the first place but didn't want to say no to me. So now I usually don't really expect to have sex and just what until it is blatantly obvious that she wants me. I don't to pressure her. The sucky part is that she gets horny at the most inconvienent times. She wants to have sex right before I go to work, which makes me late. She wants to do it at ted and places where we can be caught. She wants to touch on me atalk dirty to me when we have to kid in the other room wide awake (ps, when I'm in parent mode, I don't think about sex at all). Just this morning she wanted to have sex, but I wanted to take a shower first because last night we were sweating a lot for drinking and partying to celebrate the new year. I tried to tell her that I wasnt in the mood, but it looked like she was about to cry.... I don't want to make her cry. That'll ruin the whole day. I wanted to have sex, but not that type of sex... So I had to choose between making her cry or having substandard sex.... So we fucked.... How do you say no to a horny woman without hurting her feelings?