How do you tell you partner you don't want to have sex?

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Thanks for all the advice guys.

BTW, the "wanting to have sex at times that will make me late for work" happened only 2 or 3 times. Also she doesn't turn me down or half-asses it all the time either...... that used to happened last year but now that I don't pressure her so much, we don't have that problem anymore..... it happens occasionally, but I can tolerate it.

I don't think she is intentionally doing this. But do think its an issue.
 

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i know exactly when i'm annoying the crap out of someone.
i know how to do it when to do it and how it will affect them.

I do too... most of the time.

I don't think she knows though. She seems oblivious or she is too tired to understand.... idk.
 

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that used to happened last year but now that I don't pressure her so much, ...........

You may wish to think about this comment.

It would appear that you are in a fight as to who controls your sex life. You appear to have gone from one end of the line to the other, you making sex not so good by being a brat with a hard on to her playing games to enforce her control. This is not healthy. I still think that you should be firm in the face of crocodile tears to stop her games, and she needs to come back to some part of the middle ground. If you can't sort this out you are neither compatible sexually nor as partners IMO. Good luck though.
 

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when she wants it and he doesn't shes manipulative? No way shape or form are either obligated to put out just because the other desires it. This doesn't make either manipulaive.


Simple , she wanted you. just like all those times you wanted her and she didn't. Timing was off. Doesn't mean anyone is using sex as a weapon.

Doesn't mean stating....NO not in the mood..means your manipulating her. Anymore then your dissatisfaction when she didn't want it when you do, as you manipulating her.

You asked her to do A and now she is..she may feel frustrated because you asked her to change and now she has, she feeling rejected. Some times you need to be careful for what you ask for. Because when you get it..there is conquenses.

If she is manipulating him..so all those years he did the same..means he was manipulating her?


My advice would be find someone who can help you 2 sort out your differnces in a mature unbias way and not interject their personal issues into their responses. This way you get at the heart of the matters and not misguided advice.
 

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when she wants it and he doesn't shes manipulative? No way shape or form are either obligated to put out just because the other desires it. This doesn't make either manipulaive.


Simple , she wanted you. just like all those times you wanted her and she didn't. Timing was off. Doesn't mean anyone is using sex as a weapon.

Doesn't mean stating....NO not in the mood..means your manipulating her. Anymore then your dissatisfaction when she didn't want it when you do, as you manipulating her.

You asked her to do A and now she is..she may feel frustrated because you asked her to change and now she has, she feeling rejected. Some times you need to be careful for what you ask for. Because when you get it..there is conquenses.

If she is manipulating him..so all those years he did the same..means he was manipulating her?


My advice would be find someone who can help you 2 sort out your differnces in a mature unbias way and not interject their personal issues into their responses. This way you get at the heart of the matters and not misguided advice.

Just to let you know GAKitten, MissKay and I are an item.