Uhumm I like feeling desired. For me it is enough if my partner actually tries to take the initiative to spoil me a little bit. Nothing to fancy. I just like to know my partner still cares enough about our relationship to surprise me now and then. The gesture is more important than the content itself.
In and out of the bedroom?
In my family, the one I made, we have a habit of “virtual gifts.”
It started as a lack of money habit, and has melded well with Spawn and I going minimal with possessions.
Let’s say I’m at a national park with a gift shop. I like going through to see what they see as useful or related books and such, plus I need a head space shift coming back.
I make it a point to get one of the “kids” (up to 30) a holiday gift while I’m there, as a way to contribute to the parks system. They are on my 2021 support shirt list, too, but the odd book, stuffed toy, etc helps, too.
Now my “kid” is 29, and doesn’t need clutter.
So unless something is fantastically useful and just under the too cheesy line, I’ll take a photo, send it with a thinking of you message.
I do it with those rocks/leaves/flowers one would be tempted to pick up on a hike, too. Leave no Trace matters!
A gift is always more about consideration, not an object.
The gift of, say, a car is more about seeing someone’s need or desire for a car than the car itself. (Not that I’d turn down something that got me out of payments, oh, no. But I don’t run in such circles)
(And yes, Spawn has a bottle opener from Rocky Mountain National Park, and a cup form Pike’s Peak, his paternal uncle’s fave mountain. He grew up in Colorado, summering at dad’s. Both items are useful yet also on display.)