How does it feel the pleasure from bottoming?

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I'm a top but I'm curious about it. I wish I could bottom actually but the times I've tried it hurts. Anybody?
 

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For me it's similar to the pleasure of rubbing my perineum (aka taint - the area between the base of scrotum and anus). This stimulates the prostate gland which is interior to the taint. If you've ever orgasmed from rubbing your taint being penetrated by toy or cock is much the same only more intensely pleasurable. I had prostate orgasms this way a couple decades before I was ever penetrated.

To train your anus not to hurt during penetration get a set of S/M/L butt plugs and a big bottle of water based lube and gently/slowly practice inserting larger sizes until it doesn't hurt anymore. BTW you open your anus by pushing like you're defecating. What allows poop out allows plugs/toys/cock in. Clean yourself out with an enema first. After all it IS a sewer.

Took me over a week of daily practice before I could comfortably fit a L butt plug inside and more days before it became comfortable.

Good luck.:cool:

BTW anal orgasm is like 10x more intense than penile stimulation alone
 
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For me it's similar to the pleasure of rubbing my perineum (aka taint - the area between the base of scrotum and anus). This stimulates the prostate gland which is interior to the taint. If you've ever orgasmed from rubbing your taint being penetrated by toy or cock is much the same only more intensely pleasurable. I had prostate orgasms this way a couple decades before I was ever penetrated.

To train your anus not to hurt during penetration get a set of S/M/L butt plugs and a big bottle of water based lube and gently/slowly practice inserting larger sizes until it doesn't hurt anymore. BTW you open your anus by pushing like you're defecating. What allows poop out allows plugs/toys/cock in. Clean yourself out with an enema first. After all it IS a sewer.

Took me over a week of daily practice before I could comfortably fit a L butt plug inside and more days before it became comfortable.

Good luck.:cool:

BTW anal orgasm is like 10x more intense than penile stimulation alone
I started last year putting stuff in my hole and it still hurts. It is sorta pleasure to me only when I'm laid down on my back masturbating with my legs partially together though. Other than that it's uncomforable. Now, I have to admit that I put the stuff twice a month or something like that.
 
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I started last year putting stuff in my hole and it still hurts. It is sorta pleasure to me only when I'm laid down on my back masturbating with my legs partially together though. Other than that it's uncomforable. Now, I have to admit that I put the stuff twice a month or something like that.

If you don't do it on a regular basis your butt will tighten up. That' s normal. You have to slowly get used to penetration all over again. Take your time.

Full disclosure. I didn't get any pleasure from anal play/penetration until I was 40. It wasn't for lack of trying when I was young. Eventually I gave up. I don't know why body changed. It takes practice but if you are unable to relax and get pleasure from penetration it could be that it's not for you.

That's okay. There are many bi/gay men who do not enjoy anal play/penetration. Some never. :cool:
 
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For me it's similar to the pleasure of rubbing my perineum (aka taint - the area between the base of scrotum and anus). This stimulates the prostate gland which is interior to the taint. If you've ever orgasmed from rubbing your taint being penetrated by toy or cock is much the same only more intensely pleasurable. I had prostate orgasms this way a couple decades before I was ever penetrated.

To train your anus not to hurt during penetration get a set of S/M/L butt plugs and a big bottle of water based lube and gently/slowly practice inserting larger sizes until it doesn't hurt anymore. BTW you open your anus by pushing like you're defecating. What allows poop out allows plugs/toys/cock in. Clean yourself out with an enema first. After all it IS a sewer.

Took me over a week of daily practice before I could comfortably fit a L butt plug inside and more days before it became comfortable.

Good luck.:cool:

BTW anal orgasm is like 10x more intense than penile stimulation alone
How long it took you in total to become a bottom (training your ass)?
 
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If you don't do it on a regular basis your butt will tighten up. That' s normal. You have to slowly get used to penetration all over again. Take your time.

Full disclosure. I didn't get any pleasure from anal play/penetration until I was 40. It wasn't for lack of trying when I was young. Eventually I gave up. I don't know why body changed. It takes practice but if you are unable to relax and get pleasure from penetration it could be that it's not for you.

That's okay. There are many bi/gay men who do not enjoy anal play/penetration. Some never. :cool:
But I want to enjoy it! It is my fantasy to get penetrated and even I've been craving it later. But it feels uncomfortable still...
 
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But I want to enjoy it! It is my fantasy to get penetrated and even I've been craving it later. But it feels uncomfortable still...

It felt uncomfortable for me especially when I graduated to a larger size butt plug. I also had average sized dildo to get used to deeper penetration than a plug.

Keep practicing. Use tons of lube--get a lube injector. Relax. Breathe. Take all the time you need.

Once I got used to having my hole stretched--that was the uncomfortable part--the pleasure I felt was amazing.
 
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It felt uncomfortable for me especially when I graduated to a larger size butt plug. I also had average sized dildo to get used to deeper penetration than a plug.

Keep practicing. Use tons of lube--get a lube injector. Relax. Breathe. Take all the time you need.

Once I got used to having my hole stretched--that was the uncomfortable part--the pleasure I felt was amazing.
How were you able to take the bigger dildos? How long it took you? Or did you get fucked by a real big dick later on? Because right now I am using a very average-sized one (in the skinny end you can say) but I just put it in. I mostly only emulate sex when I'm about to orgasm in and out very fast as if someone was fucking me. It feels so damn good and I get a very strong orgasm. But in order to do this I have to estimulate my penis laid on my back. Otherwise I haven't been able to feel pleasure. When I try on my knees it's NADA. But maybe I just need someone to actually fuck me? Who knows...
 

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How were you able to take the bigger dildos? How long it took you? Or did you get fucked by a real big dick later on? Because right now I am using a very average-sized one (in the skinny end you can say) but I just put it in. I mostly only emulate sex when I'm about to orgasm in and out very fast as if someone was fucking me. It feels so damn good and I get a very strong orgasm. But in order to do this I have to estimulate my penis laid on my back. Otherwise I haven't been able to feel pleasure. When I try on my knees it's NADA. But maybe I just need someone to actually fuck me? Who knows...

Getting ready to take an average dildo/penis took two weeks. Taking really big dildos took longer--a month or more.

My issue was girth. Once I got comfortable opening to the large buttplug I didn't have a problem taking an average size dildo. Then I brought a guy home from the gym who fucked me.

As long as penetration feels good instead of painful you're good to go. Remember it may always feel a little uncomfortable at first as you relax and open to penetration. It's okay to stimulate your penis as much or as little as you like and let a partner do it. Even with penetration it's normal not to come without penile stimulation.

It sounds like you only penetrate for a short time otherwise it's too painful. My advice to keep practicing until you're comfortable with plug or dildo for longer than a few minutes.

The important thing is to have fun. You're experimenting--learning what feels good and what doesn't. It's your body. You don't have to do what doesn't feel good. Don't overthink it. Relax and enjoy it. :cool:
 

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I agree: I’ve had great experience using toys, and the key is to use them on a regular basis.

You can actually buy anal training kits designed for exactly that. They’re usually a set of butt plugs in different sizes, so you can start with a small one and then work your way to one of the bigger ones.

For me personally, my ass used to cramp up whenever I tried to take a dick. It would usually relax within a minute or two, but still: those initial cramps often made for an awkward moment, especially since they came right when you wanted to get down to business! So by using toys on myself (including not just butt plugs but also dildos and vibrators) I could get my ass properly primed. At the very least, I could get the cramps over with when I was alone, so they wouldn’t happen at the inopportune time!
 
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Yes some times it hurts, but it’s worth it still, as even with a bit of pain it can feel better than anything else sexual that you could do. Done right it’s the best feeling you’ll ever experience
 

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As many have said......it takes time for your ass to get used to being penetrated. For me this took weeks and months of daily / weekly playing with different toys---plugs and dildos. Start small and gradually use bigger and bigger toys...and yes---always use lots of lube. The use of a lube injector is also good advice.

From time to time, go ahead and stroke yourself while having a toy inserted......see and feel how good this feels........should make your cock rock hard.....again, you are "training" your mind, body, and ass to feel and enjoy the pleasure from being penetrated......especilly your ass....which over time will become used to being penetrated.......and as you relax overall, your ass will also relax, eventually allowing the penetration with minimal pain......

And yes----the orgasms you will have while being penetrated anally are so strong...so powerful.......so pleasurable....the time and effort you put into this will be well worth it.......you'll love it, it is so damn good.....

So keep at it my friend!! Peace.
 

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I don't get a lot of physical pleasure from being penetrated. For me, it's the whole experience of physical closeness. There have been a few times when my eyes have rolled back in my head and it was an amazing full-body experience. Mostly the times I choose to bottom have been about a desire for physical intimacy not so much about getting pounded into the mattress.
 
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